Kwa anthu ambiri okwatirana, kusakhulupirika kumakhala chifukwa cha kusiyana, nthawi zina mwamuna amanena kuti anasankha kuchoka m'banja, nthawi zina mkazi akufuna kuthetsa banja. Ndipo chochita chiyani ngati mwamuna akusintha, koma samachoka? Kupirira maganizo awa kapena kupeza njira yopezera mwamuna wake kuchoka?
Mwamuna amasintha, koma osasiya, choti achite?
Mwamwayi, amayi ambiri amadziwa zomwe zimachitika mwamuna akamasintha, koma kuchoka pa chisa cha banja sichithetsedwa. Akazi ena omwe amadziwa kuti amuna awo amachoka nthawi zonse akugwirizana ndi izi, chifukwa samafuna scandals kapena akuyenera kumuuza kumene amamukonda. Kodi n'zosatheka kunena kuti maganizo oterewa sangakhale abwino? Mwamuna wa khalidwe ili sadzalandila ndikupitiliza kupita kwa mbuye wake. Muzochitika izi, sakusowa kusintha chilichonse, amakhutira ndi chilichonse - amayamba kugonana ndi kupuma kwa mbuye wake, ndipo mkazi wake amapereka chakudya chabwino ndi zovala zoyera. Choncho, palibe chifukwa chotsatira zilakolako zake, njira yokhayo yolondola ndiyoperekera chisudzulo. Ngakhale mwamuna atanena kuti amusiya yekha, musayembekezere mpaka atsekemera, kambiranani za kuthetsa banja. Ndipo musakondwere kuti mwamunayo wachoka, koma sanalekerere. Ndondomekoyi ikhoza kuyendetsa nthawi yaitali, koma pamene munthuyo akuzindikira kuti ali ndi malo obwerera. Ndipo adzachita pamene amatsutsana ndi mbuye wake. Mukusowa munthu yemwe adakuchititsani mavuto ambiri, adziwonetsera yekha mnyumba ngati mwiniwake, adanena kuti ndi mwamuna wovomerezeka, choncho ali ndi ufulu wonse? Ngati sichoncho, musamakokane ndi chilekano, kumvetsetsa kuti ubalewu umangolepheretsani kukhala osangalala, mwamuna wanu sali womalizira pa dziko lapansi, kutanthauza kuti mumapeza munthu amene adzakuyamikirani.
Kodi mungatani kuti mwamuna wake apite?
Inu munaganiza kuti simukufunanso kukhala ndi wogulitsa, kotero muyenera kuchotsa mwamuna wanu. Koma momwe mungapangitse kuti zipite?
- Kodi mukuganiza kuti chiyenera kuchitanji kuti mwamuna achoke? Njira yoonekeratu ndiyo kukambirana momasuka ndi mnzanuyo. Muyenera kumufotokozera chifukwa chake mukufuna kusudzulana, kuti simukuwona mfundo yopitilira kuganizira banja. Khalani kutali ndi misonzi, amatsenga, kukumbukira zokhumudwitsa zonse - izi zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chochitira nkhanza, kapena kudzutsa kudandaula kwakukulu mwa mwamuna wake. Palibe imodzi kapena ina imene simukusowa. Mwamunayo angathe ndipo amadziwa kuti ali ndi mlandu pamaso panu, koma sangasinthe, msonkhano ndi mbuyake apitiriza. Ndipo amuna ambiri samatenga misonzi ya amayi ndikulira mozama, poganizira kuti amayi onse a mkazi wodandaula adzakuwa ndikukhazikika.
- Ngati njirayi singakuthandizeni, ndipo mwamunayo sakufuna kukusiya nokha, mumamupangitsa bwanji kuti apite? Mukhoza kuyesa kupulumuka ku nyumbayi, koma makrayoni ngati malaya odetsedwa komanso borscht ya mchere sachita. Ndikofunika kukhala ngati kuti sichidali m'moyo wanu. Muzimuthandiza ngati malo ogona - onetsetsani nokha. Kudya kwa inu ndi ana anu, kutsuka zinthu zanu zokha, kuyeretsa m'chipinda chanu, kumene mungagone nokha. Itanani anzanu ndi abwenzi, musamamvetsere maganizo ake. Muloleni iye amvetse izo kamodzi
iye amakhala moyo wake, ndiye iwe udzachita chimodzimodzi. Ndipo mu nkhaniyi, kachiwiri, muyenera kusunga zolakwika, mwamuna ayenera kuwona kuti izi sizomwe zimakuvutitsani, koma chisankho choyenera. - Njira inanso yochotsera mwamuna wake ndiko kusonkhanitsa zinthu zake zonse ndikuziika pamasitepe, ndikusintha zitsulo pamene akugwira ntchito kapena wokondedwa wake. Koma izi, ndithudi, zimakhala zazikulu, ndipo sitingathe kuchita popanda zochititsa manyazi. Ndipo ngati mwamuna nayenso ali mwiniwake (nyumba) mwini nyumba, ndiye kuti zochitika zoterezi ndizoletsedwa, choncho ndondomeko ya chisudzulo ikhoza kusokoneza. Choncho, ndi bwino kuyesa kuthetsa nkhaniyo mwamtendere, ndikuponyera zinthu pakhomo pokhapokha mutatha kukhoti.