Ngati muwerenga nkhaniyi, ndiye kuti mwinamwake chinthu choipitsitsa chachitika - munaponya wokondedwa wanu. Ndipo tsopano inu muli ndi kusimidwa kuyesera kumvetsa: "Kodi ndichite chiyani ngati mnyamatayo ataya?" "Momwe mungamuiwala iye ndikukhalabe ndi moyo?" Ndipo, potsirizira pake, "Kodi anyamata akubwezera izo?"
Choyamba, pewani kufufuza kwa mayankho a mafunso awa m'tsogolomu ndipo ingogonjetsani maganizo. Kodi mukufuna kulira? Lirani! Mukufuna kulira? Fuula! Pempherani bwenzi labwino kwambiri kuti mum'chezere ndi galasi la vinyo kapena kapu ya tiyi mumuuze nkhani yanu. Musati mubise malingaliro anu, muuzeni iye zonse, monga ziri - kuti mukupweteka, kukhumudwa, ndipo simukudziwa choti muchite chotsatira. Kumbukirani makhalidwe onse oipa ndi abwino a khalidwe lanu losankhidwa, nthawi zosaiŵalika za misonkhano yanu. Pachifukwa ichi, mfundo ya maganizo "Ululu wopwetekedwa kale ndi theka la ululu" umagwira ntchito mwangwiro, motero palibe chifukwa chodziyerekezera kukhala "malingaliro ozizira" - chidzaipiraipira.
Ngati mnyamatayo akuponyera iwe ndiwe woipa kwambiri, tenga tchuthi tating'ono tokha kuntchito kapena tenga masiku angapo kusukulu. Komabe, yesetsani kupereka nthawi yaulere yosalankhula chithunzi kapena kutsanulira ululu pa mowa (ngakhale kuti n'zotheka kugwiritsa ntchito mlingo woyenera), koma kugona. M'masiku ano yesetsani kugona mokwanira, panthawi yogona dongosolo la manjenje limakhalapo, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zitheke kuyang'ana zochitika zikuchitika.
Kuonjezerapo, chinthu choyamba kuchita ngati mnyamata atayika ndi kuyesa kupanga zifukwa zambiri zolimbikitsa momwe zingathere. Mwachitsanzo, pitani kukagula ndi mtsikana. Ngati mulibe ndalama zogulitsa zambiri, mungopeza zinthu zabwino zokhazokha zokhala ndi zokondweretsa zanu: mchere wokhala ndi mafuta onunkhira, CD yomwe ili ndi album ya ojambula, kilogalamu ya mikate kapena tileti yaikulu ya chokoleti yakuda.
Kachiwiri, sindiyenera kubwereza nthawiyi, sindiyenera kudzifunsa ndekha ndikuyesera kuyankha mafunso akuti "Ndichifukwa chiyani anyamata amandisiya?" Ndipo "Nthawi zonse ndimaponyedwa ndi anyamata, kodi pali vuto linalake?". Choyamba, simungathe kupeza yankho losayenerera, ndipo, kachiwiri, ndi kovuta kulingalira ndi "maganizo" mwachindunji. M'malo mwake, yesani, ganizirani zonse zomwe munagwirizana nazo kale. Bisani kapena kutaya zithunzi zonse za wokondedwa wanu wakale, kubwezeretsani zinthu zake zonse, mphatso, ndi kuzichotsa (simukuyenera kuzibwezera). Tengani nthawi yanu yaulere ndi chinthu chochititsa chidwi: lembani bwalolo, pitani ndi mnzanu pachiyambi cha filimuyi, yambani kujambula kwatsopano. Monga sizodabwitsa, zimathandiza kulimbana ndi kuvutika maganizo ndi kuyang'ana ma TV ndi kuwerenga malemba a amayi, kotero musanyalanyaze njira zogwiritsira ntchito zogula komanso zotsika mtengo.
Choipa kwambiri ndizochitika pamene mnyamata amasiya atagonana. Pachifukwa ichi msungwanayo amatha kumverera osati wodzipereka yekha, komanso amanyaziridwa, zikuwoneka kuti iye amangogwiritsidwa ntchito. Ngati muli mu udindo wa wozunzidwa, choyamba, lekani kudzidzudzula nokha ndipo muzindikire kuti, zoterezi, zimachitika nthawi zambiri. Ndipo sikuti simunazidziwe mokwanira kapena mokwanira pazondondomeko za chikondi, ndipo mulibe kanthu kochita izi, komanso kukula kwanu kwa m'mawere kapena cellulite m'chiuno. Mundikhulupirire ine, pambali ya omwe anasiya, ingakhale yoyamba kukongola (kutsimikizira nkhani za moyo wa anthu otchuka ku Hollywood).
Posavuta kupulumuka nthawi yovuta ngati mnyamatayo akugona ndi kusiya, asiye kugonana ngati mphoto ya wopambana. Pambuyo pake, sikuti anangopeza kanthu kena kuchokera kwa inu, koma mukhoza kubweretsanso chinthu china chofunika kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, chidziwitso. Tsopano inunso mwadzipereka ku chinsinsi chotchedwa "moyo wa kugonana", ngakhale kuti sizinali zofanana ndi zomwe munaganiza. Kuwonjezera apo, kugonana ndi mtundu wa chiwonetsero chakuya kwa maubwenzi, kulimbika mtima, amatha kuchita zambiri.
Mwa mawu, yesetsani kusintha kuikidwa "Munauza mnyamata kuti akhale ndi moyo motani?" Pa "Iye wandiponyera ine? Palibe! Ndikuyambitsa moyo watsopano! "Ndipo yesetsani kusunga maganizo amenewa muzonse. Yesani kukhala osangalala. Ndipo ngakhale ngati poyamba mukufunika "kumwetulira" kumwetulira, mudzawona kuti posachedwa mudzayamba kumwetulira moona mtima.