Kawirikawiri, kuwononga maubwenzi osapindula, timapanga chisankho cha kusiyana kwa zilembo. Ndipotu, akatswiri a zamaganizo anena kuti mu mabanja okondwa, mabwenzi angakhale awiri ofanana ndi osiyana. Nchifukwa ninji, ena amachititsa banja losangalala, ndipo ena sangapeze mfundo zosagwirizana pakati pa zaka? Tiyeni tiwone zomwe amalingaliro a zamaganizo afika, kuyesa maubwenzi mwa mabanja abwino, ndipo tidzasanthula zizindikiro zazikulu za banja lolemera.
Zinsinsi kuti banja likhale losangalala
- Cholinga. Chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri mu ubale wokondweretsa ndi chikhumbo chopanga ubalewu kwamuyaya. Onse awiri amamvetsa ndikuvomereza kuti ubalewo uyenera kumangidwa, mosasamala kanthu kuti muli ndi zofanana kapena zosiyana.
- Mu mabanja abwino, nthawi zonse amalemekezana komanso ndi mamembala onse a m'banja. Anzanu okhumudwa ndi achibale anu, mumadzichepetsa. Momwemo, wekha. Kudzudzula ana aumunthu, mumasonyeza zosamveka mu njira yanu yophunzitsira. Pambuyo pake, awa ndi ana anu, ndipo ndi inu amene mwawabweretsa iwo. Kusintha, mumasonyeza kuti simungasankhe pa zosankha za mnzanuyo. Ndipo izi, kachiwiri, ndizomwe mukukhalitsa mwauzimu.
- Kudzipereka. M'mabanja abwino, palibe chifukwa chokhalira osudzulana. Ayi. Ndipo, mochulukirapo, sichikufikira. Iwo ali pamodzi "muchisoni ndi mu chisangalalo, mu matenda ndi thanzi." Izi sizikutanthauza kuti iwo samakangana, samachita zolakwa, kapena kusangalala kwawo kumakhala kwamuyaya. Sichifukwa cholekanitsa, koma chimodzi mwa magawo pa kukula kwa maubwenzi.
- Zolinga ndi zofunikanso. Zomwe zimagwirizanitsa zimagwirizanitsa, ndipo zolinga zimagwirizanitsa tanthauzo ndi kutsimikizika ku ubale, koma mabanja ambiri satha ngakhale zaka zambiri akuganiza kuti akuyenda pamsewu wosiyana komanso zosiyana.
- Nthawi yopumula ndi chitsimikizo cha banja lopambana. Aliyense m'banja ali ndi ufulu wopuma. Nthawi ngati munthu angathe kukhala opanda mamembala. Khalani tchuthi ndi anzanu kapena m'chipinda chapadera.
- Kusadzikonda. Mu mabanja ogwira mtima, aliyense samangoganizira zokhazokha, koma za anthu onse. Aliyense ali ndi cholinga chopanga zinthu zabwino kwa banja lonse. Kwadziwika kwa nthawi yaitali kuti ngati banja likudwala lokha, pamapeto pake
zimakhala zoipa kwa aliyense. - Kukhululuka. Zonse, mwatsoka, ndizovuta kupanga zolakwitsa. Mumabanja okondwa, abwenzi amadziwa kupempha kuti akhululukidwe, komanso kupereka. Khululukirani kotero kuti musabwerere ku zolakwitsa zilizonse.
- Kupanda ntchito. Ngakhale zachilendo zingamveke, koma m'mabanja amenewa palibe magawano. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mwamuna akhoza kuthandiza mkazi wake pa famu popanda pempho lake, ndipo mkazi akhoza kuthandiza mwamuna wake kusamalira banja, ngati ali ndi malipiro ake. Zingokhala m'banja losangalala okwatirana amathandizana osati chifukwa chakuti ali ndi udindo wochita zimenezo, koma chifukwa chakuti ali ndi chikhumbo chofuna kufotokozana mavuto ndi kusamalirana wina ndi mzake.