Tiyeni tiike funso losayembekezeka kwa ambiri: ndi kudzipatulira khalidwe labwino. Ndipo zomwe, mwazinthu, zimatanthawuza lingaliro ili.
Poyang'ana, kudzipatulira ndiko kwambiri kuti ngakhale kupambana kwakukulu kwa maonekedwe a umunthu, ndiko kufuna kudzimana zofuna za mnzako pothandiza ena. Zisonyezo za mawu akuti "kudzikonda" zingakhale "nsembe" ndi "kudzikonda."
Mbali inayo, tanthauzo la mawu osadzikonda ndi "kudzikana nokha." Ngati mukuganiza kuti moyo ndi mphatso yamtengo wapatali, kodi ndi bwino kuponyera pambali? Ngati simunadziyese nokha, kodi n'zotheka kupereka chikondi chenicheni kwa anthu ena? Ndipo kusadzikonda ndiko mtundu wa maso okhwima maganizo, kuyesa kukwera pamwamba pa ena. Tidzakambirana za izi lero.
Zitsanzo za kudzipatulira
Kuwonekera kwakukulu kwa kudzipereka ndiko chikondi cha mayi kwa mwana wake. Pafupifupi mayi aliyense, popanda kukayikira, adzapereka thanzi lake, ndipo, mwinamwake, moyo wake ngati kufunikira. Osati chifukwa sakuyamikira moyo wake. Koma chifukwa chikondi chake ndi champhamvu kwambiri kuti chimwemwe cha wokondedwa chimadzaza mkazi ndi mphamvu yapadera. Saganiza kuti ali pamwamba pa chinthu china, chifukwa chakuti kudzikonda kwake n'kwachilengedwe. Kufika kwina, kumabweretsa chisangalalo.
Winawake ali wokonzeka kupereka moyo wake chifukwa cha wokondedwa wake, ndipo lingaliro limeneli ndi chabe mphamvu ya chikondi.
Ozimitsa moto amaika moyo wawo pangozi kupulumutsa anthu ena, koma kwa iwo lingaliro la kudzipereka silinayambidwe - ndi ntchito ya tsiku ndi tsiku imene munthu amachita, ngati n'kotheka, ndikutsegula mtima. Chifukwa chodandaula, dokotalayu amathera maola ambiri akuthawa ntchito, ndipo mwina, nthawi zina amangokhala osangalala.
Komabe, ngakhale kudzipatulira, monga, chitsanzo, kukhulupilika ndi khalidwe lapamwamba, timakwezedwa ku udindo wa olemekezeka, khalidwe ili liri ndi ndondomeko yeniyeni yeniyeni. Mu chilengedwe, timatha kuona chikhalidwe cha khalidwe mu njuchi, zomwe zimawonongeka, ndikukantha adani. Komabe, tanthawuzo la imfa iyi ndi kukula kwa ozunzidwa chifukwa cha mantha a anthu ena a mitundu yawo ndikupulumutsa njuchi zonse. Mofananamo, pamene msungwana atha, amayi amawasunga majini awo. Ndi chitukuko cha moyo, mphamvu ya chikondi yasintha. Ngati ana a mkokotowo sakhala ndi chikondi kwa mayi wovutirapo, omwe amawateteza mwachikondi ana (amayi ambiri amasamalira zowonongeka zambiri kumatha pomwe mkazi atayika mazira), mwana wa munthu amamukonda mwachikondi ndipo amavomereza amayi ake. Asayansi akufika pozindikira kuti kudzimana ndi kudzimana kumapangitsa kusamalira ana ndi majini awo. Mitundu yotereyi monga, mwachitsanzo, kufunitsitsa kwa galu kupereka moyo wake chifukwa cha mbuye, imatengedwa ngati "zotsatira zoyipa".
Kudzikana nokha?
Koma tiyeni tibwerere ku mtundu wina wosadzikonda. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti munthu mwadzidzidzi amadziyika yekha pa guwa la zofuna za anthu ena, ngakhale palibe amene akupempha nsembe. Nthawi zina nsembe zoterozo zingakhale zolemetsa, koma yemwe wasankha "kukhala ndi moyo kwa ena" mosalekeza akupitirizabe kuchepa
Pachifukwa ichi, kudzipanda kumasiya kukhala koyenera, potsata zamoyo komanso mwa makhalidwe abwino. M'malo mwake, ndi malo odziwonongera okha, kupititsa patsogolo komwe kungachititse kusamvetsetsana ngakhale mavuto a maganizo. Chikondi chenicheni ndi ulemu (choyamba - kwa ife) chingatipangitse bwino dziko lathu.