Mukhoza kuthana ndi kutopa, kudzipumula nokha. Kulimbana ndi maganizo oipa kumapangitsa kukhala ndi anzanu, kupita ku mafilimu a filimu yabwino. Mutha kuthana ndi kuvutika maganizo nokha. Komabe, mu funso la momwe mungagwirire ndi osasamala, mukusowa zida zonse. I_ife tikambirana za izi mwatsatanetsatane.
Kusasamala - choti uchite?
Munthu wolimba, wolakalaka kawirikawiri amakhala ndi nkhaŵa zokhudzana ndi zomwe zikuwonetseratu komanso momwe angagwirire ndi chidwi. Chifukwa chake ndi chakuti anthu omwe amakhala ndi moyo wabwino, amasangalala ndi mphindi iliyonse amakhala osasamala. Kusamvetsetsa ndi kusayanjanitsa ndizo zizindikiro zazikulu za matendawa. Munthu wamphamvu amadzipezera yekha ntchito, pambuyo pake adayamba kunjenjemera ndikuganiza kuti: "Kodi kusamvera kunandichititsa?".
Anthu okhumudwa ndi omvetsa chisoni ndi ovuta kwambiri. Zinthu zovuta ndizovuta, munthu akuvutika. Wotopa ndi kudzimvera chisoni komanso kukhumudwa (monga zingaonekere), amatseka ndipo pali kusiyana kwake. Pali lingaliro lomveka la dziko lino kuchokera kumalingaliro a zamoyo. Chiwalo chimene chakumana ndi kupanikizika kwakukulu chimapeza zizindikiro zambiri. Popanda kukhala ndi nthawi yozikonza, zimayamba chitetezo - osamvetsetsa komanso osayanjanitsika. Potero, kudzipatsanso mwayi kuti mukhalenso ndi "kumasuka."
Mwa ichi pali "koma": kusayanjanitsa kwa nthawi yaitali kungayambitse kukhumudwa kwakukulu ndi kuwonongeka kwamanjenje. Mpumulo ndi mpumulo, koma uyeneranso kugwira ntchito.
Nanga bwanji ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mukudwala matendawa? Ngati mutatha kuzindikira zomwe zikukuchitikirani, ndiye mutha kuchotsa chidwi. Chinthu chachikulu choti mudziwe.
Kusasamala - mankhwala
Yambani machiritso anu ndi kudzipenda nokha. Yesani kuzindikira zomwe zakubweretsani kudziko lino. Zimatuluka kapena ayi - sizofunikira kwambiri, yesetsani. Ndiye kukupukuta mkhalidwewo. Dzifunseni nokha momwe mukuvutikira. Monga chirichonse chiri choipa mmoyo wanu ndipo simukuwona kuwala kulikonse. Dzichitireni chisoni, lirani. Chabwino, lolani kupita pang'ono? Mukamenyedwa, mumakhala bwino. Chisoni chomwecho chidzataya mtengo wonse kwa inu, chifukwa inu munazindikira izo, munavomerezana nacho. Njira zina zogonjetsera kusamvera:
- zochitika zathupi. Yambani kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi . Izi sizidzakusokonezani, koma zimapindulitsanso chiwerengero chanu ndi ubwino wanu;
- zosangalatsa. Kusiya dziko losayanjanitsika kudzathandiza kuwombera kapena kumeta. Mukhoza kupanga zojambula bwino mu kudzikonda, kupanga zosavuta ndi mtanda. Izi zikuchiritsa iwe ndi kuwonjezera mphamvu;
- kugonana. Ngati theka lanu lina lazindikira zomwe zikukuchitikirani, lolani "likulimbikitseni" kuti muyanjane. Ngakhale poyamba pa lingaliro la kugonana iwe udzasamalira mosayanjanitsa, komabe perekani, zisonyeza - ndiye ziri kwa iye;
- zosangalatsa zazing'ono. Ngati mutatha kumvetsa chifukwa cha thanzi lanu, mwazindikira chisamaliro ndipo mukufuna kuchotsa izo, ndiye pangani holide nokha. Kondwerani nokha ndi kavalidwe katsopano, nsapato, ulendo wopita kunyanja. Apa chilichonse chimadalira ndalama zanu. Ngakhale simukufuna, yesetsani kudzigonjetsa nokha.
- Pankhani ya kusamvetsetsa kwa anthu omwe sakudziwa, nkofunika kudziwa zotsatirazi:
- Kusayanjanitsa kumaletsa zikhumbo zonse, kuphatikizapo chilakolako chochotsa matenda mwadzidzidzi. Aliyense amene sadziwa vuto lake, ndipo adzagona pabedi ndikuyang'ana padenga. Chitani, monga akunena, mwa mphamvu, popanda chilolezo;
- kumusokoneza munthuyo, kuyitanitsa zokambirana;
- yesetsani kukwiyitsa munthu wosayamikika kumenyana. Mukufunikira kuwonjezeka kwa maganizo omwe angapindulitse mkhalidwe wake;
- kuwonjezera vutoli. Khalani pafupi ndi inu ndikuyamba kudandaula za tsogolo lanu. Lolani chidwi chake chimasunthire kwa inu.
Chofunika koposa, musasonyeze chidwi kwa iwo omwe alibe chidwi ndi inu ndi omwe akusowa thandizo lanu.