Gawo latsopano la moyo limaphatikizapo kufunika kokhala ndi kusintha, kupeza nzeru zatsopano ndi luso, mosasamala mtundu wa ntchito. Ndipo munthu wotsogolera ayenera kukhala okonzekera zodabwitsa zosiyana za moyo, makamaka ngati kudabwa uku ndiko kubwezeretsedwa m'banja.
Mayi aliyense amaganiza za kulera kwa mwanayo, ngakhale asanabadwe, koma sikuti aliyense amadziwa momwe angachitire bwino, chifukwa ana onse ndi osiyana, umunthu wapadera. Ndipo njira yophunzitsira nzika ina yachinyamata siigwira ntchito kawiri. Nanga bwanji makolo awo omwe adasankha kulera mwana, zizoloŵezi zawo ndi makhalidwe awo kale?
Zingakhale zovuta kuchita zomwe mukuganiza kuti n'zofunikira? Mukuyamba kuyesa kuti musalole zolakwa za makolo anu, kufufuza zomwe zakukhumudwitsani za abwenzi ndikuyesera kuchita zinazake. Kawirikawiri izi si zokwanira. Ndipo momwe mungamufotokozere kwa mwanayo zomwe mukufuna kwenikweni? Pambuyo pake, ngati muli okoma mtima ndi mwana, mungathe kuwononga mosavuta, ndikukula mwana wosavuta, "wovuta". Mofananamo, mungathe kupirira mopitirira malire, ndikutaya ulemu ndikudzidalira nokha. Ndipo kulakwa kwa izi kudzakhala nokha. Njira yokhayo kutulukira ndiyo kuphunzira. Ndipo imodzi mwa njira zosavuta komanso "bajeti" ndi kugula buku polera ana.
Kubwera ku sitolo, counters ili yodzaza ndi zolemba zosiyana ndi maudindo otchuka a mabuku, pali zambiri za iwo, chifukwa choonadi ndi chenicheni. Koma momwe mungasankhire chomwe mukufuna, kugula bukhu limene lingakhale mthandizi wanu osati izi zokha komanso zovuta? Njira zambiri zimakhazikitsidwa pazitsamba ndi ndondomeko zomwe zimakuuzani momwe mungachitire zinthu zina. Koma sikuti aliyense akhoza kukhulupirira mlembiyo ndikutsatira mwatsatanetsatane ndondomekoyi. Kuonjezerapo, njira zambiri sizingowonongeka, kapena zimalongosola zinthu zomwe zilipo kale.
Mabuku a Perelopativ kipu pankhani ya maphunziro a ana, olemba ndi ofalitsa osiyanasiyana, mumamvetsa kuti kuli kovuta kupeza njira yeniyeni yogwirira ntchito.
Koma yankho linapezeka. Buku limene limakupangitsani kuganiza, kukula, ndi zofunika kwambiri: kukhazikitsa udindo wanu. Chotsatira ndichofunika kwambiri. Kawirikawiri zimakhala zovuta kuyankha chifukwa cha zochita zawo pamaso pa mwanayo, chifukwa n'zosavuta kumutsutsa, koma posachedwa adzabwerezabwereza. Olemba bukuli mu funso ndi John ndi Karen Miller, makolo a ana asanu ndi awiri! Anthu awa amadziwa za kulera ana osati mwakumva. Bukuli ndi losavuta kuwerenga, lili ndi mfundo zothandiza, zophweka, komanso zothandiza. Njira zomwe olemba a bukuli samaphatikizapo njira za kulera ana, zimalimbikitsa chitukuko chaumwini, chomwe chidzakuthandizira kukhala ndi luso lothandiza ana kulera ana.
Bukhu la "Malamulo a Mabanja Achimwemwe" linali godsend kwa ine. Ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi mabuku ena ofanana nawo. Bukuli lidzakuthandizani kuthetsa mavuto ambiri (kuphatikizapo nthawi yayitali) mu ubale pakati pa makolo ndi ana, mosasamala za msinkhu wawo, chifukwa sichichedwa kwambiri kuphunzira.
Andrew, bambo wa ana awiri.