Ndi chiyani chomwe chingakhale chitsimikizo chabwino kwa anthu? Kuchokera ku umboni wotsimikizika wotere wa kusagonjetsedwa kwake sikungatheke! Koma ndi bwino ngati mutadziwika ndi munthu wochenjera, wokongola komanso wosangalatsa. Ndiye mungathe kuyenda naye mosamala tsiku ndikumva ngati mfumukazi. Koma machitidwe amasonyeza kuti, monga nyimboyi, pali mwamuna mmodzi yekhayo kwa atsikana 9. Ndipo ndi ambiri a iwo omwe amadzipeza okha panjira ya moyo, osati kuti simukufuna kupatula nthawi, koma zimakhala zovuta kudzipezera kwanu. Ndiye momwe mungapangire mnyamata wachifundo, koma wogwira ntchito? Funsoli lakhala liri loyenera kwa atsikana ambiri, kotero tikuganiza kuti tiganizire njira zingapo zoyambirira komanso zosavuta kuchotsa chibwenzi chokhumudwitsa.
Kodi mungachotse bwanji mnyamata wokhumudwitsa?
Ziribe kanthu kuti, ndi nthawi yanji yomwe iwe unauzidwa mwa mawonekedwe a munthu wonyenga. Mwinamwake kale munadziwa kuchokera pa zomwe munaphunzira kuti, kulikonse kumene mungakhale, iye adzaitanidwa, maulendo ndi maitanidwe oti apite kwinakwake. Monga lamulo, njira zowonetsera mamuna mwazofunsira kukusiyani nokha, zitsimikizo kuti muli ndi chibwenzi kapena kuti muli otanganidwa, musapereke zotsatira. Koma pali njira 10 zowonjezerapo zowononga munthuyo kuti iye mwini sakufuna kukumana nawe. Taganizirani izi:
- Khalani nthawi mercantile. Sikuti anyamata onse ali ndi galimoto ndi nyumba. Ndipo kuti ndikulipireni zakudya zamtengo wapatali, perekani bryliki ndikudyera zakudya zabwino kwambiri ndipo mwakonzeka ndikupanga ma unit.
- Dzinamizitsani kuti chidziwitso chimenecho ndicho choyambirira. Bweretsani buku lachipongwe pamodzi ndi inu ndipo musalole kuti lisokonezeko ndi zokambirana zopanda pake ndi mitundu yonse ya maulendo. Ngakhale amuna ouma khosi sangathe kulimbana ndi mpikisano monga mawonekedwe a Kant kapena Goethe.
- Chitsanzo chachidule cha momwe atsikana amachotsera anyamata ndi amatsenga. Palibe munthu amene sangathe kulimbana ndi misonzi ya amayi ndi ziphuphu popanda chifukwa cha nthawi yaitali. Ntchito yanu ndi kufotokoza kusakhutira kwanu nthawi zonse. Musawope kukhala wonyansa. Pambuyo pazithunzi zingapo, simukufuna kuyandikira wotsutsa wosokonezeka, koma mboni zonse zoterezi zimakuuzani zamatsenga.
- Ngati simudziwa kuchotsa munthu wina wakale, muyenera kumudziwitsa kuti simuli woyenera "munthu wodabwitsa." Kupanga kusokonezeka kwa dziko lonse ndi chiwonetsero kuchokera kudziko, kusonyeza kudandaula ndi kupsinjika maganizo. Fotokozani kuti n'kosatheka kukhala ndi inu, ndipo munthu wabwino kwambiri ndi woyenera msungwana weniweni, osati inu ndi mkhalidwe wanu wadyera, mabodza osaneneka ndi misonzi nthawi zonse ndi zodandaula za moyo. Ngakhale atasankha "kusintha" ndikukondweretsani, patatha masabata angapo "akumwetsa" ndi "kuthira" mitsempha yake yosakhoza kupirira.
- Ngati muli ndi khalidwe lamatsenga ndikumenyana, ndiye kwa inu, yankho langwiro la funso la momwe mungatulutsire moyo wonyansa ndizoseketsa. Mwinamwake mwapezeka kale mulu wa zofooka ndi zofooka. Onyoza iwo, ndipo makamaka pamaso pa anthu amene amadziwana nawo. "Kuthamanga-kuzungulira" kotereku, ulemu wawo wonse ndi wonyoza osati aliyense adzaima.
- Dziyerekeze kuti muli wotanganidwa kwambiri populumutsa dziko. Mwachitsanzo, mungathe kulankhulana mobwerezabwereza za zisindikizo za ubweya wa ubweya, zinyama zosawerengeka zomwe zimapezeka m'mphepete mwa nyanja ya Volga kapena kutentha kwa kutentha kwa penguin. Oposa theka la a sutiwa amayesa kuchoka patatha nkhani yoyamba yokhudza kufunika kwa ntchito yanu m'dziko lino.
- Kodi mungamuchotsere bwanji munthu wothandizira? Inde, pulayimale!
Palibe woimira chilakolako chogonana sangalekerere kukopa kwanu ndi aliyense. Tangoganizirani mmene adzamvera pamene chidwi chanu chonse chidzaperekedwa kwa anyamata ambiri. Ziribe kanthu zomwe akuganiza za iwe. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti zotsatira zokhumba zidzakwaniritsidwa. - Wokondedwa akazi ntchito - chatting. Nthawi zonse amasokoneza maganizo ake ndi mawu opanda pake, nkhani zosakondweretsa komanso "kuchotsa ubongo" ndi nthano zokhudzana ndi moyo ndi abwenzi ake, muthamanga msanga ndikukwaniritsa zomwe mukufuna.
- Kukayikira ndi njira ina yabwino yotulutsira mnyamata wosokonezeka. Yerekezerani izo ndi anzanu onse ndi achibale anu. Lolani ulemu wake wonse akhale chilakolako cholakwika, mabwenzi apamtima apamtima azikhala bwino, ndipo mumasonyeza kuti simukukhulupirira kukhulupirika kwake, kukhulupirika kwake, ndi mphamvu zake, komanso kuti iye ndi mwamuna weniweni. Kwa nthawi yaitali zoterezi ndi "kutayirira matope" palibe munthu wabwinobwino.
Ndipo potsiriza, mau ochepa omwe ayenera kuyankhidwa ndi anyamata ovuta kwambiri omwe akufuna kukuyankhulani:
Iye: Sitinakumanepo kale?
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Iye: Nanga ndi chiyani chomwe mwachita pamoyo wanu?
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Mayi: Palibe kulowa.
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Iye: Kodi mumakonda mazira ati m'mawa kuti mudye chakudya cham'mawa?
Mayiyo: Musamangoganizira!
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Iye: Ndili pano kuti ndikhale ndi malingaliro anu okongola kwambiri!
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Iye: Chifukwa cha inu, ine ndipita kumapeto a dziko ...
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