Nthawi zina achinyamata samakhutira ndi yankho loti "inde" ku funso lakuti "mumamutenga (mwamuna) mwa amuna (akazi)?" Mkwati ndi mkwatibwi amafunadi kunena mawu a lumbiro. Koma nthawi zambiri sizichitika, komabe chikhalidwe cha malumbiro aukwati a mkwati ndi mkwatibwi ndi chakumadzulo, ndipo si zachilendo pakati pathu. Ngakhale kuti siletsedwa kuchita izi paukwati, tiyeni tiwone nthawi yoti tizinena mawu ofunikira awa, ndi zomwe ziyenera kukhala mu lumbiro laukwati.
Lumbiro la mkwati ndi mkwatibwi pa ukwatiwo: nthawi yotani?
Malumbiro onse aukwati akhoza kukhala okhudzana ndi chikhalidwe (kuphatikizapo zipembedzo) ndi zosangalatsa. Yoyamba ikhoza kutchulidwa onse mu ofesi yolembera ndi pa phwando la chikondwerero. Koma malumbiro okongola, mwinamwake, ndi bwino kupita ku kampani yotentha, pamene mpikisano ndi zosangalatsa za alendo zimayamba. Ngakhale palibe yemwe angakulepheretseni kuchita malumbiro aakulu, omwe amachititsa misonzi ya chikondi kuchokera kwa makolo ndi abwenzi, mu ofesi yolembera ndi kubwereza zosiyana zowoneka patebulo. Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti lumbiriro ndilopambana ndipo simungalitchule ndi khamu lalikulu la anthu. Pa mbali imodzi ndizoona, koma ndani amene amakuletsani kubwereza maulendo ambiri ndi mawu okhaokha? Ukwati ndi umenewo, usanene chisonyezero chakumverera kwanu, ndi pakati pa omwe akuitanidwa omwe ali okonzekera kuti muzisangalala. Choncho apatseni mwayi wotere, aloleni amayi ndi abwenzi kusunthidwa, kulira, ndipo mudzakumbukira nthawi ino, ngati imodzi mwa zokongola komanso zachikondi.
Malumbiro aukwati a mkwati ndi mkwatibwi: choti munganene chiyani?
Monga tanena kale, malemba a malumbiro aukwati a mkwati ndi mkwatibwi akhoza kukhala ovuta komanso osangalatsa. Kawirikawiri malumbiro, makamaka comic, amawoneka ngati ndakatulo - ndipo amamveka mwachidwi ndipo okwatiranawo amakumbukira mosavuta. Koma iyi si njira yabwino kwambiri. Kuti mulembenso lumbiro la wina, ziribe kanthu kuchokera pa intaneti kapena "kumkoka" kuchokera kuukwati wa bwenzi, ndithudi ndi kophweka kusiyana ndi kuswa mutu pamutu. Koma, poyamba, palibe yemwe akukupemphani kuti mulembe ndakatulo, kotero ngati palibe amene ali ndi luso lofotokozera, ndiye simukusowa kuyesa. Mawu odzipereka ndi ofunikira kwambiri, ngakhale atengedwa popanda nyimbo. Ndipo, kachiwiri, ukwatiwo ndi wanu, ndipo mukufuna kuti chilichonse chikhalepo kukumbukira, chirichonse kwa inu. Zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwa inu kukumbukira, pakapita kanthawi, mawu a anthu ena omwe aphunziridwa mu chikhomo chomwe sichimalongosola malingaliro anu mokwanira?
Kodi mungalumbire bwanji mkwati ndi mkwatibwi?
N'zoonekeratu kuti mawu a lumbiriro ayenera kukhala oona mtima ndipo achoke pamtima, koma sikukupweteka kuzilemba. Ukwati ndi wokondweretsa, nthawizina anthu amaiwala mayina awo, osati mawu a lumbiriro. Chifukwa chake, chombocho sichingakhale chosasangalatsa konse. Cholemba? Funsoli, ndilobwino, kukambirana ndi mnzanuyo ndikupanga lumbiriro kuti akukondeni inu nonse. Ndipo kuti zikhale zosavuta kuzilemba, kumbukirani mbali zomwe ziyenera kukhala.
- Gawo loyamba kawirikawiri limaphatikizapo mawu owona - mumanena kuti munthu ndi wokondedwa kwa inu, ndipo mudzakhala naye moyo wautali komanso wosangalala. Ndipo mukukonzekera kuyambira lero, kuphatikiza ndi ukwati walamulo.
- Mu gawo lotsatira, ndi mwambo wolankhula za momwe mumamvera kwa mnzanuyo, chomwe mumamukonda sichimamvetsetsa kokha, koma ndi aliyense amene alipo. Izi mwina ndizophweka kwambiri - mumangolemba zomwe mumamva.
- Chabwino, pamapeto pake, pambuyo pa chikondi chonse chiri chikumbutso cha choonadi chokhwima cha moyo: ukwati sichimangokhala wachikondi komanso chilakolako, komanso ndi udindo umene mbali iliyonse imadzipangira. Chimene mulemba apa, chimene mungalumbirirane, chimadalira inu nokha. Pakhoza kukhala lonjezo lokhala pomwepo muchisoni ndi mu chisangalalo, ndi lonjezo loti mwanayo amalemekeza agogo aamuna a mwamuna, ndi lonjezo la mkwatibwi kuti asamukakamize mkazi wake chifukwa cha bvuto la galimoto yake yosweka.