Kukhala muukwati moyo wanga wonse, moyo sufika ku moyo mwa aliyense, ndipo mikangano imakhala ikuchitika nthawi zonse m'banja. Koma bwanji ngati mwamunayo nthawi zonse komanso molakwika akukhumudwitsa theka lake lachiwiri?
Nchifukwa chiyani mwamuna amanyoza ndi kunyalanyaza mkazi wake?
Bwanji ngati mwamuna nthawi zonse amanyoza ndi kuchititsa manyazi mkazi wake? Choyamba kumvetsa chifukwa chake amachita izi. Nazi zifukwa zomwe zimawonekera kwambiri pa khalidweli.
- Kawirikawiri pambuyo pa kukondana kwa nthawi ya chibwenzi, mwamuna amayamba kumva kusokonezeka pa malo ake okhala. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti anthu mwachibadwa amakhala okhwima kusiyana ndi akazi, zoletsedwa za mkazi kuti azikhala ndi abwenzi, kuyenda ndi asodzi zikuyambitsa kusagwirizana koteroko monga kunyozedwa. Mwamunayu akutsutsa zomwe mkazi wake amayesa kuti amuphunzitse.
- Malingana ndi chiwerengero, maukwati oyambirira si nthawizonse opambana, nthawi zambiri patangopita zaka zingapo ukwati ukangoyamba kusudzulana. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti izi zimachitika chifukwa chakuti okwatiranawo sali okonzeka kukwatira. Choyamba, abwenzi ali ndi okwanira, onse amakhutira. Koma pakapita kanthawi mmodzi wa iwo (nthawi zambiri munthu) amayamba kumvetsetsa kuti adakali mmawa, kuti asanakhale nayo nthawi yosangalala. Amasonyeza kusakhutira kwake ndi kuthandizidwa ndi kunyozedwa ndi manyazi kwa mkazi wake.
- Chilichonse chimene akunena ponena za kukayikira kwa amayi, amuna ndiwonso akulota. Ena samvetsa nthabwala za akazi konse ndipo ali okonzeka kutenga chirichonse pamtengo wapatali. Mwachitsanzo, pochokera kuyanjana ndi abwenzi ake, mkazi wake adafunsa mwamuna wake kuti "ali kuti?" Amaseka "inde, ndi atsikana, opanga mafilimu anaitanidwa, amasangalala". Ndipo mwamuna ayamba kukhala ndi nsanje, adzadziganizira yekha mbiri ya kusakhulupirika kwa mkaziyo ndipo adzakhulupirira mmenemo. Koma mmalo mwa kupeza ubalewo momveka, iye adzabweretsa chitonzo kwa mkazi wake.
- Nthawi zina mwamuna amasonyeza kukwiya kwa mkazi osati zifukwa zina, koma chifukwa cha kulera kwake. Mwinamwake iye anawona malingaliro awa a abambo kwa amayi ake ndipo tsopano amasindikiza khalidwe lake.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mwamuna wanga atemberera?
Mulimonsemo, mwamuna ayenera kuyankhula. Ndipo muyenera kuchita izi mwakachetechete, kuyesera kuti musayambe kuyankha mawu olumbira, kuti musamukwiyitse mwamuna wake. Ngati mwamuna sakufuna kulankhula nanu mosiyana, monga mu nyimbo zomveka, akukunyozani, musapitirize kuyankhulana. Dzilemekezeni nokha, musalole kuti iyankhulane nanu motere. Pitirizani kukambirana pokhapokha ngati akuchita bwino. Koma kuchedwa ndi kukambirana sikuli koyenera, mwamsanga mutamvetsa chifukwa chake, poyamba mutha kumvetsa ndi zochitika zina. Mwinanso amakuchitirani nsanje, ndipo muyenera kuwononga maganizo ake opusa mwamsanga.
Kuphatikiza pa zokambirana zomwe mudzayesa kupeza chifukwa cha khalidwe ili la mwamuna wanu, muyenera kumvetsera momwe amachitira ndi zochita zanu. Momwemo amachitira nkhanza nthawi zambiri pamene amva kupanikizika, choletsedwa mu zosangalatsa zilizonse kapena khalidwe lake silingathe kufotokozera, ndipo ngakhale kwa caresses anu akhoza kuchitapo kanthu mwaukali ndi kunyozedwa.
Podziwa nthawi izi, dzifunseni nokha. Mwamuna yemwe akuswa pa iwe chifukwa iwe umamuletsa, amayesera kuteteza gawo lake. Yesetsani kuchepetsa zochepa, chifukwa mukufuna kuyanjana ndi anzanu ndi maulendo ogula?
Koma ngati khalidwe la munthuyo liribe zifukwa zomveka, amakugwetserani popanda chifukwa, ndi mafunso onse "chifukwa chiyani mukuyankhula nane monga choncho?" Mayankho "inde chifukwa ndinu wopusa!", Sichinthu chanzeru kuyesa kusunga banja. Pambuyo pake, ngati mwamuna amachita zinthu nthawi zonse, amanyodola ndi mwanayo, ndiye kuti mwanayo amatenga khalidweli - popeza amayi anga akulekerera, ndiye kuti zonse ziri zolondola. Musaganize pa nkhaniyi, momwe mungametezerere mwamuna wanu akukhumudwitsani inu, mum'yang'anire njira ndikuyang'ana zifukwa mwa inu nokha. Popeza nthawi zambiri anthu oterowo samawongolera pakapita nthawi, khalidwe lawo limakhala loipa ndipo palibe amene angatsimikizireni kuti adzangomva zonyansa, akhoza kuchitiridwa nkhanza. Mukulifuna?