Aliyense ali nacho chowonadi chake chowona momwe angachitire bwino olakwa awo. Tonsefe tiri ndi zifukwa zofotokozera izi kapena zochitika zina. Lero tiwone momwe tingaphunzire kukhululukirana zolakwa ndikuchita zinthu zosasangalatsa.
Kodi mungakhululukire bwanji munthu?
Mkhalidwe ungakhale wosiyana. Mwina mwakulapa zomwe wachita, akusowa chikhululukiro ndipo akuyenera kumvedwa ndi inu. Munthu amene amazindikira zolakwa zake ndikupempha kuti akhululukidwe ndi woyenera kulemekezedwa . Ndipotu, owerengeka okha amadziwika kuti ali ndi mlandu, ndipo ambiri amaona kuti kuchita zimenezi ndiko kunyozetsa.
- Ngati mwakonzeka kupita kumsonkhano ndi olakalaka zanu, muuzeni kuti m'tsogolomu simufuna kuti mukhale naye paubwenzi wapamtima kapena mum'patse lonjezano kuti musadzachitenso.
- Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kukhululuka? Mudzapeza yankho la funso ili mkati mwanu. Dzipatseni nokha nthawi pang'ono. Zimakhala zovuta kukhululukira mwano nthawi yomweyo. Yesani kufufuza zomwe zikuchitika. Pamene malingaliro ang'onoang'ono amatha, mukhoza kuyang'ana mozama zomwe zinachitika, ndipo zidzakhala zosavuta kuti mukhululukire.
- Musaiwale kuti aliyense amalakwa. Anthu amakula ndikusintha tsiku lililonse. N'zotheka kuti mkhalidwe wamakono udzakhala phunziro lofunikira kwa wozunza ndipo kuyambira tsopano sadzachita zinthu zonyansa.
- Kumbukirani zochita zabwino zomwe munachita kwa wina amene akuyesera kukhululuka, momwe anakhululukira kapena sanazindikire zolakwa zanu. Musangokumbukira zoipazo. Mukangokumbukira nthawi zosangalatsa, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti mumvetsetse zomwe zimakuchititsani kuti mukhululukire ndikumukhululukira.
- Anthu ambiri samvetsa momwe angaphunzirire kukhululukira chiwembu. Ndipo chifukwa cha izi ndikofunika kulankhula ndi munthu ndi kumumvetsera. Mukapeza chifukwa chenicheni chotere, mukhoza kupanga chisankho choyenera. Konzekerani kuti abambo anu salinso ndi malingaliro, choncho muyenera kukhululukira ndikusiya munthu kuti azindikire kuti chikondi chanu chenicheni chikukuyembekezani mtsogolomu.
- Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kukhululukira kusakhulupirika? Nthawi zambiri anthu amachita zozizwitsa. Ngati amvetsetsa zomwe zimawachitira ena, ndiye kuti sakanatero.
Ndipo ngati munthu sakudziwa zotsatira zake za zotsatira zake, ndi chiyani chomwe chingamukhumudwitse? Ndi bwino kumangomva chisoni munthu wotere kapena kuyesa kumufotokozera zonse zomwe amachita,
Kuti mumvetse mmene mungaphunzirire kukhululuka ndi kusiya, mukuyenera kufufuza mosamala zomwe zilipo ndi zolinga za wolakwira. Mwinamwake, chinthucho chinapangidwa mosadziwa. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa chimene chinayambitsa chokhumudwitsa inu. Dzifunseni funso ili: "Chifukwa chiyani anachita motero?". Muziwonetsero izi, mudzatha kupeza yankho lolondola kwambiri.