Ngati nthawi zambiri mumamva zonena za kudzikonda, ndikudabwa momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito matenda osokoneza bongo, ndiye kuti muwerenge nkhani yathu.
Kodi kudzikonda ndi chiyani?
Choyamba, tiyeni tizimvetsetsa zomwe anthu ali nazo, ndipo chifukwa chake khalidwe lofunika kwambiri kwa ife nthawi zina limasanduka zochitika zazing'ono. Egoism ndi chikhumbo cha kupindula ndi chirichonse, mosasamala za zofuna za ngakhale anthu apamtima.
Ndipotu, kudzikonda sikumapangitsa kuti moyo wathu ukhale wabwino, koma umatilepheretsa kukhala ndi moyo.
Kotero, mwachitsanzo, kudzikonda kwambiri mu chiyanjanochi kumasonyeza kuti munthu ali ndi makhalidwe osakonzekera kuti azikonda zofuna za banja payekha. Ndipo adzangowonjezera kuti moyo wa banja udzasokonezeka ndi mikangano ndi kunyozedwa. Egoism yachikazi nthawi zambiri imasonyezedwa mwa msungwana wosakhutira kuvomereza kuti nthawi zina mwamuna ayenera kukhala yekha . Kutalika, timazindikira, monga kumverera kozizira, komabe kwa anthu mwachibadwa - kuyembekezera mphepo yamkuntho, popanda kuwononga moyo wanu. Amuna ambiri amakhulupirira kuti munthu safuna kutaya ufulu wake. Ndipo zisonyezo za akazi zimamvetsa, monga nkhani ndithudi. Ndani angakonde?
Parental egoism - pamene makolo sazindikira kuti ana awo ali ndi ufulu wotsutsa. Ndiko kuti, iwo samamuwona munthu mwa iwo. Egoism ndi ukalamba - kubwerera ku ubwana, pamene munthu sangathe kuwonetsera dziko lakunja, koma kufunikira kwake kudziwona kuti ndi kofunikira sikunachoke. Mwachidziwikiratu, kulimbikitsana kulikonse, komatu -chigwirizano cha kuti munthu samadzikonda yekha ndipo samakhulupirira dziko lozungulira iye.
Kuti tichotse zomwe zimatchedwa kudzikonda, yesetsani khalidwe monga kumvera. Pamapeto pake, chisangalalo cha anthu omwe akuzungulirani chimadalira chimwemwe chanu. Mwina zikumveka ngati zachilendo, koma mwachibadwa! Kutemberera kwakukulu sikunagwiritsidwe ntchito kwa ife chifukwa cha mwayi wathu woipa, koma chifukwa anthu sakhala osangalala. Ngati muyendetsa phazi mumsewu wodutsa munthu wodala, nkokayikitsa kuti zidzasokoneza maganizo ake. Anthu okondwa kwambiri pozungulira inu, ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kukhala ndi moyo. Ndiko kuti, inuyo nokha mukukhudzidwa kwambiri ndi izi. Ndipo ndi pamene inu mukhoza kutsogolera mphamvu zazikulu za kudzikonda, kuzikwezera izo ku udindo wa ukoma!