O, sindikusangalala ndi banja

"Wokwatirana mosalekeza" - malamulo osangalatsa a sukulu kapena chithunzi cha mkazi. Ndipotu, amavomereza kuti mtsikana aliyense akufuna kukwatira, ichi ndicho cholinga chake.

Nchifukwa chiyani amai akufuna kukwatira?

Funso ndi chifukwa chake atsikana akufuna kukwatira, ali akale monga dziko lapansi, kotero pakhala pali maphunziro ambiri pa mutu uwu. Wachiwiriwa adawonetsa zotsatira zotsatirazi.

1. Poyamba (30% mwa anthu omwe anafunsidwa) zinakhala kuti amayi akufuna kukhala ndi chithandizo ndi chidaliro m'tsogolo. Izi zimafotokozedwa mosavuta ndi thupi - cholinga cha chilengedwe cha mkazi kubereka mwana, koma panthaŵi ya mimba ndi pambuyo pake mkazi amafunikira kuthandizidwa ndi mwamuna. Ndicho chifukwa chake amayi omwe anazindikira kufunikira kwa kuoneka kwa mwana m'miyoyo yawo, kotero amafuna kuonetsetsa mgwirizano wawo.
2. Mayi yemwe akuti "Ndikufuna kukwatira", mwachiwonekere, akuyang'ana muukwati wa chikondi. Mulimonsemo, iyi ndi yachiwiri yotchuka (22%) yankho la funso lofuna kumangiriza mfundo. Inde, mungatsutse kuti mukhoza kukonda popanda ukwati. Koma njirayi nthawi zambiri amasankhidwa ndi amayi omwe akufuna kukwatiwa ndi "kalonga", alibe munthu wapadera. Chabwino, iwo omwe amakhalabe ndi chibwenzi chosatha, khulupirirani kuti muukwati, chikondi ndi chodalirika.
3. Nchifukwa chiyani amai akufuna kukwatira? Chifukwa ichi ndi chomwe anthu amawaika. Amayi, agogo aakazi, alongo a bwenzi - onse amayamba kumvetsa chisoni mtsikana amene sanakwatire, ngakhale atanena kuti akufuna kuti akhale ndi ufulu. Ngakhale nthano zonse zamabuku ndi amayi zimathera ndi akalonga akupeza akalonga awo. Choncho, mu mutu wa amayi pali zongopeka - munthu ayenera kuyesetsa kukwatirana ndi mphamvu zonse. Maganizowa akugawidwa ndi 19% mwa anthu omwe anafunsidwa.
4. Nchifukwa chiyani atsikana osakwatirana osakhululukidwa? Ndipo apa zifukwa zowonongeka ndizolakwa, 18% mwa anthu omwe anafunsidwawo adanena kuti amakhulupirira kuti angathe kukwaniritsidwa mokhazikika m'banja. Ena amawopa maganizo a anthu - osakwatirana ndi mawu osangalatsa otchulidwa "gulu".
5. Pafupifupi asanu mwa anthu omwe anafunsidwa amaopa kusungulumwa - mwadzidzidzi ukalamba madzi sangaperekedwe kwa aliyense.
6. Otsala 6% ndiwo malingaliro oyambirira. Atsikana ena amafuna ukwati chifukwa cha kavalidwe kaukwati ndi ulendo wamakono, wina safuna kukhala ndi makolo awo, ndipo wina akufuna kudzitamandira kwa abwenzi ake pa mphete.

Kodi mukufuna kukwatira osasangalala, koma osati mofulumira?

Popeza malingaliro a anthu akugwirizanitsa chidziwitso chathu, zingakhale zabwino kupeza zomwe zimaganizira za zaka zabwino zokwatira.

Ngakhale kuti akufuna kukwatira, amayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti nthawi yabwino yokwatirana ndi zaka 25-27. Banja limapangitsa banja kukhala labwino ali ndi zaka 27-35, koma anthu amadandaula za akwatibwi achinyamata ndi omwe adzakwatirana kwa nthawi yoyamba patatha zaka 35.

Ngati mkazi akwatirana mochedwa, anthu amamudziwa kuti ndi wochepa-akakhala akufuna zaka zingapo, sakufuna kukwatiwa, koma tsopano adapeza kuti ali otsika.

Mtsikana atanena kuti "Ndili ndi zaka 18, ndikufuna kukwatira", nayenso sangathe kubisala kumatsutsa malingaliro ndi miseche. Makamaka achifundo adzanena nkhani zokhudza iwoeni kapena za chibwenzi, momwe iye anakwatirana mwamsanga msanga.

Kufotokozera mwachidule, tikhoza kunena kuti nthawi ya ukwati, mkazi ayenera kuphunzira, kupeza ntchito, kukhala ndi chikhalidwe chokhazikika. Koma zolimba kwambiri ndi ukwati sizothandiza.

Kodi mungasiye bwanji kukwatira?

Nthawi zina mkazi amafuna kukwatira kwambiri moti zimamulepheretsa kumanga ubale weniweni ndi amuna - omwe sangalepheretsedwe ndi mzere pamphumi la amayi "Ndipititseni ku ofesi yolembera"? Kodi mungakhale bwanji mu nkhaniyi?

Ndikofunikira kuti mudziwe nokha, kuti mumvetse zomwe mukutanthauza muukwati - mwambo wokongola, chikhalidwe cha anthu, kukhazikitsidwa kwa banja losangalala? Kuti muyankhe funso ili nkofunikira kuti mwamunayo asaone cholinga chanu chochotsera ufulu wake, koma kufuna kwanu kukhala mkazi wachikondi ndi wokhulupirika, kuti mumupatse gulu la ana, ndi zina zotero. Ngati mukufuna tchuthi, ndiye kuti mukuyenera kuvomereza nokha. Khulupirirani, mutha kukwanitsa kukwaniritsa chilakolako chanu, kupeza munthu ameneyo, mukamvetsa zomwe mukufunikira kuchokera m'moyo. Samalani kuti mukhale ndi mphamvu zowonongeka, mwinamwake simungapeze chirichonse chifukwa chakuti simukuchifuna kwenikweni, koma mukupitirirabe za makolo ndi abwenzi.