Moyo wa mamembala ake umadalira maubwenzi omwe amakula m'banja. Izi zimagwira ntchito makamaka kwa achinyamata. Ndiponsotu, chitsanzo cha banja lawo la tsogolo la chisangalalo chimayendetsedwa ndi zoyambazo ndipo zimakhazikitsidwa pa mgwirizano womwe kale ulipo pakati pa amayi ndi abambo, potsata wina ndi mzake ndi ana awo.
Mitundu ya ubale wa banja
- Kugonana kwadongosolo m'banja . M'dziko la makolo omwe amasankha mtundu wina wa ufulu ndi zofooka, mwanayo, poyamba, bwenzi. Amalankhulana naye pamtunda wofanana. N'zosatheka kuti mumve: "Ayi, mudzachita, chifukwa ndinanena choncho." Apa pali kusiyana. Kuyambira ali mwana, mwana amamulemekeza. Ndi chifukwa cha izi, pamene akukula, amadziwa zomwe zimatanthauza kusunga chigonjetso, kuti amvetsere munthu wothandizana naye popanda kumuphwanya. Makolo amapereka mwaufulu mwana wawo ufulu wosankha, koma musaganize kuti ngati wachinyamata akunena kuti akufuna kuyamba kusuta fodya chifukwa abwenzi ake, amayi ndi abambo amachita zimenezo mosangalala, amavomereza. Ayi, nthawi zonse amachita zinthu mwanzeru. Njira yotsutsa ndi malamulo akutsutsa. Iwo amalankhulana naye ngati munthu wamkulu, kufotokoza momwe angawononge thanzi lake ndi vutoli. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti maubwenzi m'banja ngati amenewa amakonzekera ana kuti akhale ndi moyo weniweni.
- Authoritarianism . Sizitanthauza kuti mu chisa chotere muli kholo limodzi lokha, lomwe limakhala ndi mavuto aakulu, komanso limakwaniritsa ntchito za bambo ndi mayi. Kapena makolo onse awiri ndi anthu apamwamba omwe amawafunira chilango chochuluka. Kotero, sipangakhale kuyankhula za mgwirizano uliwonse wogwirizana m'banja. Mwanayo amamvera, ndipo amamuuza. Ngati iye ayesa kukopa chinachake, ndiye mu kamphindi adzadandaula. Amakhulupirira kuti njira yabwino kwambiri ya chikwapu. Zimakhala zovuta kwa ana kuti aganizire zomwe zili pamtima.
- "Anarchy ndi mayi wa dongosolo . " Nthawi zina maubwenzi ogwirizana pakati pa anthuwa amatchedwa demokarasi, koma ndi bwino kuwatcha kuti pseudo-demokarasi. Kuloledwa ndi chinthu chachikulu chimene chimagwira m'nyumba. Zotsatira zake, ana amakula kukhala odzikonda, osakhala achifundo .