Msungwana aliyense alota kuti akhale wokongola komanso wofunika, koma mwatsoka, sikuti aliyense amadziwa momwe angapindulire anthu. Mwamuna samvetsera zosautsa ndipo nthawi zonse samakondweretsa akazi omwe amakonda akazi okondweretsa komanso okonzeka bwino, amakonda "kusaka" ndi kukwaniritsa cholinga chake. Komabe, kusunga chitetezo kokha pamene munthu akugonjetsa iwe sikokwanira. Ngati simukufuna kuti wosankhidwa wanu azikuzizirani, nthawi zonse musamangokhalira kumangokhalira kukayikira.
Kodi anthu amamvetsera chiyani?
- Mawere - gawo ili la thupi limakopa munthu pamalo oyamba. Ndipo ine ndikuganiza ndemanga apa ziri zopanda pake.
- Zambiri za thupi. Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti apa sitikulankhula za magawo omwe mkazi aliyense amafuna kuti azifanane nawo, monga, kuchuluka kwake. Mu lingaliro lachimwene la kukongola, palibe magawo, chinthu chachikulu kwa mwamuna ndi chakuti mkazi wake ali ndi zigawo zofanana za thupi.
- Nkhope ya mkazi. Zodabwitsa, amuna ambiri samafuna kukongola mwazochitika za nkhope ya mkazi, ndizokwanira kuti nkhopeyo ikhale yosangalatsa komanso yokoma.
Komabe, musanyalanyaze chidwi cha amuna, iwo sangathe kuona kapangidwe kake koyamba, koma tsitsi lodetsedwa, misomali yaitali kwambiri ndi kudetsedwa pansi pawo, iwo adzazindikira ndithu.
Kodi mungapindule bwanji ndi anthu?
Pofuna kukopa chidwi cha munthu amene mumamukonda, muyenera kuzindikira. Yesetsani kuti mukhale nawo nthawi zonse, osadzizungulira ndi mabwenzi okongola, ngati simungapezeke mosavuta. Amuna amaopa kuti akanidwa, makamaka pamaso pa amayi ena. Kuphatikiza apo, nchifukwa ninji mukusowa makampani?
Mfundo yaikulu pakukopa chidwi cha munthu ndi mawonekedwe osamveka. Nthawi zonse yesetsani kuyang'ana bwino, izi sizidzangowonjezera kudzidalira kwanu, komanso zimakopeka munthu amene mumamukonda.
Nthawi zonse amamwetulira - amuna amakonda kumasuka komanso ovuta kulankhula ndi atsikana, pafupi ndi akaziwa, mwamuna amamva bwino komanso amadzidalira.
Kodi mungamvetsetse bwanji munthu?
Amuna onse ndi osaka zachilengedwe. Amakonda kugonjetsa akazi, malingaliro awo amakondweretsa zilakolako za thupi ponena za munthu amene amamukonda. Koma mwamsanga pamene munthu agonjetsa "nsembe" iye amakhala wopanda chidwi ndi ozizira kwa icho. Ndipo apa akazi ambiri amayamba kudabwa "Kodi mungasamalire bwanji anthu?".
Choyamba, mudzidziwe nokha kuti amanyazi ndi kufuula sadzasamalira munthu. Ndi bwino kuyesa ubale wanu ndikupeza nthawi yomwe adasintha. Mwina munalola mwamuna kuti "aulule" moyo wanu, zomwe muyenera kuchita ndizoletsedwa. Mwamuna ayenera kukhala "pa mbedza" ndikukukondani pang'ono kuposa momwe mumachitira. Koma ngati inu munasokoneza ndi kugwa kuchokera kumalo oponderezedwa kumene mwamunayo akukwezerani inu, mukufunikira mwamsanga kukonza vutoli.
Kuti muchite izi, musinthe kalembedwe kanu. Pitani kwa beautician, musinthe tsitsi lanu, pitirizani kuyang'ana mtundu wa tsitsi lanu, kuyamba kusewera masewera ndi kupita ku zakudya. Mukhozanso kuwonjezera zovala zanu ndi zinthu zatsopano, zonsezi zapamwamba zidzakuthandizani kumvanso ngati mkazi wokondedwa ndi wokongola.
Pambuyo pake, konzani tsiku ndi munthu. Izi zikhoza kuchitika pamalo osakumbukika kwa inu kapena kumene simungasokonezedwe. Cholinga chanu ndi kubwezeretsa mnzanuyo, pambuyo pake muyenera kukonza zotsatira. Yambani kugwira ntchito pa zolakwa zanu. Ngati poyamba munakana kugonana - chisonyezani chilakolako kapena, mwachitsanzo, ngati mukupezeka mosavuta - kusewera ndi mwamuna wanu, kumukakamiza, osapatsa thupi, ndi zina zotero.
Ndipo ngati inu nonse mumapangitsa munthu woyenerera kuti azikondana nanu kachiwiri, ndipo inu ndi modzikuza mutu mutenganso malo anu a ulemu pamtengo wa munthu, mukukondwera ndi kupambana kwanu.