Nthawi zonse akazi anali ndi malamulo a khalidwe ndi amuna. Masiku ano zakhala zikukonzekera, ndipo akazi achikazi amadziona okha za kugonana ndi anyamata anzawo, koma zinthu zina zimasintha. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti amuna athu okondedwa sakusintha, amakondabe kudzimvera okha olimba mtima mitima ya akazi ndi ambuye a mkhalidwewo. Chabwino, tiyeni tiwapatse mwayi umenewu, sitikuganizira.
Mmene mungakhalire bwino ndi mwamuna?
- Kuti mudziwe mmene mungakhalire ndi munthu, mungathe kudziwa zomwe tikufunikira munthuyu - kwa masiku angapo kuti tipewe chisoni, kusungunuka kapena ubwenzi wautali. Pachiyambi choyamba palibe malamulo apadera, kusasamala ndi kumasulidwa, palibe zidule ndi nkhani za kamba wodwalayo. Mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku ndi mdani wamkulu wa zosangalatsa. Koma malamulo osiyana kwambiri a khalidwe ndi abambo ayenera kutsatiridwa ndi amayi omwe safuna kuthetsa zokambirana kudzera m'masiku angapo. Pano, zodabwitsa za kusinthasintha ziyenera kuwonetsedwa ndi kanyeng'onong'ono kakang'ono kuti athandize chidwi cha munthuyo ndi kuti asamuopseze ndi ufulu wodzilamulira.
- Momwe mungakhalire ndi mwamuna pamisonkhano yoyamba, kuti mukhale chimodzimodzi ndi iye? Onetsetsani kuti mumvetsere munthu wanu ndikuyesera kumva. Ngati mutangomva kuti mumamvetsera, koma mumaphonya makutu anu okongola, ndiye mwamunayo amadziwa kuti sakufuna, ndipo ngakhale atanyengedwa adzakhumudwitsidwa.
- Kawirikawiri atsikana amayesa kufotokoza makhalidwe awo onse abwino pamsonkhano woyamba, ndipo amasonyeza ngakhale angelo awo, omwe alibe. Kotero, nanunso - chinyengo chilichonse chidzawululidwa, ndipo munthu mwa inu adzakhumudwa. Kuwonetsera nokha pa misonkhano yoyamba sikofunika pa chifukwa china. Amuna ambiri ndi asaka osasimbika, mafani a charades ndi puzzles. Ngati, pambuyo pa misonkhano ingapo, mwamuna amadziwa kuti palibenso kanthu koti kasinthe ndi kupambana, ndiye mkaziyo amasiya kukhala wokondweretsa kwa iye.
- Fufuzani zofuna zomwe mukugwirizana, payenera kukhala ndi mfundo zambiri zokhudzana ndi munthu uyu. Kugona ndi, ndithudi, zabwino, koma si kokwanira. Choncho funsani za chizoloŵezi chake, mwinamwake inunso mutengedwera nazo. Kapena kubwera ndi zosangalatsa zimene zimakusangalatsani inu nonse.
- Koma musayese kukhala ndi mwamuna nthawi zonse, kumutsatira, ngati mthunzi. Pa siteji ya habituation (ndi pambuyo pake) wina sangathe kutenga ufulu kwa iye, yesetsani kumuuza zinthu zake. Mwamuna wachikondi amatha kuchita zambiri chifukwa cha mkazi - kuiwala abwenzi ndi zosangalatsa, koma ngati mukufuna kuti akhale monga choncho. Pambuyo pake, munayamba kukondana naye chifukwa cha umunthu wake, choncho musasinthe.
- Musachite mantha ndi mikangano ndi ndewu - zichitikadi. Komanso, pamakhala zovuta zing'onozing'ono kuti pakhale mgwirizano. Phunzirani kupanga scandals zothandiza. Chinthu chachikulu sikumangopitirira ndi kumuwonetsa mwamunayo kuti mikangano yonseyi ndi chifukwa chakuti mumamufuna, mumamuphonya, ndipo iye sali pafupi. Mwamuna wanu adzamva chitetezo. Sewerani mu "kuzizira", khalani osiyana, ndiye mwamuna sangatale ndi kuthetsa vutolo losangalatsa.
- Mutapambana mwamuna, musaime pa zomwe zapindula, musaganize kuti tsopano mutha kukhala chete. Pitirizani kukhala ndi chikondi, chitonthozeni chidwi chake. Pambuyo pa nkhondo, nthawi zonse muyenera kubwezeretsa maganizo, mwamuna ayenera kukhala ndi inu bwino, mwabwino.
- Chenjerani ndi kuchitira nsanje wosankhidwa wanu, kukonda amuna ena. Ambiri omwe amaimira amuna kapena akazi amodzimodzi amafanana ndi khalidwe lofanana. Choncho gwiritsani ntchito njirayi kuti iwononge chilakolako chokhachokha, koma pazokha.