Azimayi onse amafuna kukhala okongola komanso kuti "amphawi amaweramitsa ndipo amawombera m'matumba." Koma mungaphunzire bwanji kukonda amuna, kupita kumalo osungirako zinthu kapena kupempha thandizo la maganizo? Ndipo tiyeni tiyang'ane pa mfundo zomwe zikufunika kuti tisangalatse anthu ndikupanga fano lokongola lomwe likufunira ambiri.
Kodi tingavalidwe motani kuti tisangalatse amuna?
Amuna ngati iwo pamene machitidwe a amayi akugwedezeka, pamene pali mwayi wodzalota chinthu chobisika m'maso. Tsatiketi yomwe imatsegula zonse zomwe zingathe ndipo sizingatheke, masiketi achikwama ndi zida zina zazing'ono, zotchedwa zovala zina, sizikuphatikizidwa mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa mkazi kukhala wachigololo. Ndi bwino kusankha zinthu zomwe zimapereka chifaniziro, kutsindika kugwedezeka kwa thupi, mabolosi amatha kusankhidwa ndi zizindikiro zosintha. Komabe, sikofunika kuti mutsekeze mwatsatanetsatane nkhaniyi, koma ndi chinthu chimodzi chokha. Mwachitsanzo, khosi lakuya sayenera kukhalapo ndi seketi yaing'ono. Ndipo ndithudi, samalirani kwambiri nsalu - ziyenera kukhala zokondweretsa kukhudza, kotero kuti pali chikhumbo chokhudza kachiwiri. Mafuta, okongola kwambiri ndi a buluu, chitumbuwa, chakuda, choyera ndi chofiira.
Zovala, ndithudi, zimakonda akazi - nsapato ndi nsapato, komanso ngati zimakhala ndi zidendene zapamwamba, ndiye kuti malire ake amatha. Inde, izi ndizochitika ngati mayi angayende pazitsulo zake, ngati simungathe, ndiye kuti maluso othandizawa ndi ogula.
Zodzikongoletsera ziyenera kuletsedwa ndikugogomezera ukazi. Mwachitsanzo, zingwe zoonda, ndolo zabwino. Zodzikongoletsera zazikulu, zodzikongoletsera ndi ndolo zazikulu sizikonda anthu onse, ndipo amapita kutali kwa amayi onse.
Kodi ndiyenera kuchita chiyani kuti mukondweretse munthu?
Monga nthawizonse ngati anthu? Phunzirani kujambula, kupanga manyowa ndi tsitsi. Zonsezi ziyenera kuletsedwa, osati zazikulu ndi misomali yachilendo ya misomali, tsitsi losasunthika kapena losasintha. Ndipo amuna ena ambiri amati iwo amakonda pamene dona sali wopangidwa. Sikuti iwo amanama, koma m'malo mwake amapanga zodzikongoletsera kwambiri, zomwe zimatsindika maso aakulu ndi milomo yaumunthu, sizidzasiya mwamuna mmodzi wosayanjanitsika. Ndipo apa kuti mukhale ojambula mu mitundu yonse ya utawaleza, kuti mumangirire ma eyelashes-fan ndi kuwala kwa masaya a redden sikofunikira. Kodi inu simukuganiza kuti anthu ndi achikulire ndipo sangamvetse bwino za zokongoletsera zonsezi? Ndipo ndani akusowa chidole? Ndipo inde, fungo liyenera kukhala losangalatsa. Mwa njira, kodi mukudziwa zomwe anthu amapeza zosangalatsa? Osati mafuta okwana mamita 15, koma mafuta onunkhira, onunkhira, omwe amamveka pokhapokha ngati mwamuna akudalira iwe.
Kodi mungatani kuti musangalatse mwamuna, momwe mungakhalire mukakumana?
N'zoonekeratu kuti chinthu chimodzi sichitha kugonjetsedwa ndi kukongola umodzi. Sayansi yotchuka kwambiri ya sayansi ya zakuthambo imayankha funso la momwe mungasangalatse mwamuna mwa njira yake. Kotero, akatswiri a zamaganizo amatsimikiza kuti amuna amasankha akazi omwe iwo amawakonda, ndipo osati "peck" pa kukongola kovomerezedwa konsekonse. Izi zikutanthauza kuti tiyenera kufotokozera momveka bwino kuti mwamunayo ali wokondweretsa kwa ife, ndipo pokhapokha adzatiganizira. Ngati palibe chizindikiro kuchokera kwa mkaziyo, mwamunayo amachiwona ngati chithunzi chokongola. Choncho, phunzirani mwamsanga chilankhulo cha thupi, sankhani kwambiri kupambana kwanu. Mwinamwake muli ndi zojambula zokongola, ndiye chizoloŵezi chachikazi chachikazi, pamene mkazi akusewera ndi kupiringa, akuponyera kuyang'ana pa mwamuna, kwa iwe.
Ndipo komabe, maganizo omwewo amanena kuti mwamuna yemwe amakonda mwamuna sangakhale msungwana yemwe amawoneka ngati nyenyezi ya kanema, koma mayi yemwe ali ndi chisangalalo, nthawi zambiri kuseka nthabwala zake. Ngakhale ndi kulankhulana kwapafupi, amuna amayamikira mwa ife kukoma mtima, kuwona mtima ndi kukhudzidwa. Zoona, kukoma mtima ndi kukhulupirika zimasekedwa, ndipo akazi achikunja amatsutsidwa. Koma anthu onse amafuna kukhala pabedi lake kuyembekezera wokonda kukwiya, ndipo osati "nyerere" yozizira yochokera kuntchito sichiwerengero chokhalira, koma mkazi wokonda. Ndipo ndithudi, palibe munthu yemwe angakonde izo pamene iye ali wabodza kwambiri.