Inde, ife tikulota chikondi chosakhoza kufa ndipo timalonjeza kuti tipukutire mitu yathu ndi phulusa pa tsiku limene ife sitingakhoze kusunga munthu wokondedwa wathu. Koma choyenera kuchita chiyani pamene chidaliro chotero chimayamba kusokonekera ndipo zimakhala zomveka kuti mpikisano wabwera powonekera? Kodi mungachotsere bwanji m'mene mungapezere munthu wokondedwa kuchokera kwa mpikisano, mumusiye naye?
Ndikudziwa kuti muli ndi winawake!
Kawirikawiri timayamba kuganiza momwe tingachotsere mpikisano popanda kupeza umboni uliwonse wa kukhalapo kwake. Zolinga za "ofunira zabwino" sizingaganizidwe, iwo sadziwa chifukwa chake iwo akufuna kumunamizira mwamuna wanu. Ngati pangakhale kukayikira za kukhalapo kwa wina, musamaseĊµere wodzitetezera wanzeru. Kuyang'anitsitsa, kufufuza mafoni, kufufuzidwa "muyenera kubwerera kunyumba 2 mphindi zochepa zapitazo", kukhumudwa ndi kuthamangitsidwa ndi chiwonongeko "kaya iye kapena ine" sichidzawathandiza. Ndipo ngati mwamuna wanu asanakhale wopanda kanthu, ndiye atatha kusonyeza kusakhulupirika kotero, akuganiza kuti adzasintha mkhalidwe uno.
Chabwino, ngati mukutsimikiza kuti mbuyeyo waonekera, kuchotsa chotsutsa, chochita ndi chiyani? Dziwani zonse, yesetsani kudziwana sikofunika. Iwe ukuti iwe ukuyenera kudziwa mdani mwayekha? Mwinamwake, koma mumatsimikiza kuti mudzatha kusunga nkhope mukakumana ndi iye - malo omwe akukuthira maso ndi kumasula tsitsi sikukondweretsa aliyense. Kumbukirani bwino chida chachikulu chachikazi - chiwembu. Inu simukudziwa kalikonse za wotsutsana, chabwino, musatero, koma inu mumudziwa mwamuna wanu. Ganizilani zomwe zikanamutsogolera ku sitepe yotere - kulakwitsa kwanu kapena khalidwe lake. Ngati chachiwiri, muyenera kupirira kapena kusiyanitsa - womanizer sakusintha, amakukondani ndipo amakumana ndi mkazi wina. Chabwino, ngati muli ndi mlandu, dzikonzeni nokha - pitani ku zithunzi zonyengerera, musayambe kumusonkhanitsa ndi chovala chokalamba, musamayankhule za mutu komanso kuti iye ndi wopotoka, akungofuna kuwonongera moyo wanu wa kugonana.
Kodi mungachotse bwanji mnzanu kapena mnzanu wapikisano?
Kodi mungachotsere bwanji mdani, ngati uyu ndi bwenzi lanu? Kuchotsa icho kumbali imodzi kudzakhala kosavuta kusiyana ndi munthu wosadziwika - mukhoza kukumbukira zofooka zake zonse ndi kuwauza mwamsanga za mwamuna wake. Kapena mungathe kunama, mwachitsanzo, kuti nthawi zambiri amapita ku malo obwereza, ngakhale kuti analipo kamodzi ndi kukayikira sikunali koyenera. Ndipo ngati iye ali ndi mwamuna, ndiye inu mukhoza kuchita chotero kuti iye amadziwa za chirichonse, bwanji inu mukumva zowawa zokha?
Koma pali vutoli, komanso vuto, sikuti amayi onse amadziwa momwe angakhalire ndi wokangana, choncho sangathe kuthetsa. Wina amaganiza kuti njira yabwino kwambiri ikhala chete ndi kumwetulira kwaulemu, wina akuganiza kuti chinyengo ndi choyenera. Zomwezo kapena zina sizolondola, kuchotsedwa, komanso chinyengo sikungakuthandizeni kugonjetsa mdani wanu. Muyenera kulankhula mwamtendere, koma mbali zambiri sizimakhala naye - chibwenzi chake chakhala chitayika kale, ndikugwedezeka pa mwamuna wanu, nanga ndichifukwa chiyani mumzindawu mulibe maulendo apamwamba? Ngati simukumuwona mkazi wina, zimamukwiyitsa, amayamba kunyoza ndikudziwonetsera yekha bwino, chinthu chachikulu ndicho kudziletsa. Ndipo kuti mukambirane bwino nkhaniyi ndi mwamuna wanu, muuzeni za kusakhutira kwanu - pambuyo pake, sangalephere kuti
Kodi mungathetse bwanji otsutsa ndi matsenga?
Azondi ndi amatsenga akusudzulana kwathunthu ndipo pafupifupi aliyense amatitsimikizira kuti amadziwa kulira ndi kuyesa kutsutsana ndi mdaniyo. Kukana kwathunthu kuthekera kwa zoterezi sikoyenera, koma simukufunikira kudalira kwambiri. Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti mutha kuchotsa mpikisano mwanjira imeneyi, werengani zochepa chabe, muzichita mwambo ndi makandulo, muziyang'ana mu tchalitchi, musangotengeka komanso musatenge ndalama zowonjezera kwa "ogwira ntchito". Ambiri mwa iwo ndi okonda kulandira ndalama omwe amalandira pachisoni cha wina, kotero kuti azigwira ntchito nanu pamene muli ndi mwayi wolipira.