Yesetsani kupeza munthu yemwe angakhale moyo popanda kuyankhulana. Sitikukayikira kuti mudzapambana, ngakhale kuyesa kupeza mwayi wothandizana ndi dziko lakunja. Ndipo zokambirana zonse zimamangidwa malinga ndi malamulo ake, zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zikhalidwe ndi mfundo zoyankhulirana . Chodabwitsa, sitidziwa nthawi zonse kuti timatsatira zikhalidwe izi, zakhazikika.
Makhalidwe abwino ndi okhulupilirana
Ena angaganize kuti iwo alibe ufulu ndi malamulo omwe anthu amachititsa, kuphatikizapo panthawi yolankhulirana. Koma posapita nthawi zimakhala zomveka kuti kuti muthe kukambirana bwino, komanso kuti mutenge zokambirana, zikhalidwe zina ziyenera kuganiziridwa. Ndipo mfundo yaikulu yokhudzana ndi kuyankhulana ndi kusunga chiyanjano, kutanthauza kuzindikiritsa kulingana kwa azimayi, kukhala ndi ulemu pamakambirano. Komabe, monga tafotokozera kale, kumvetsa kufunika koyenera kutsatira lamuloli sikubwera pomwepo, wina adzalandira chidziwitso ichi panthawi ya maphunziro, ndipo wina amayenera kukwaniritsa zonse ndi malingaliro ake. Mulimonsemo, mfundo za makhalidwe abwino ndizofunikira kwambiri pa khalidwe laumunthu. Iwo ali ndi udindo wa chiyankhulo, maganizo kwa wokambirana ndi kufunikira kwa munthu kuchita zochitika zina.
Poyambitsa mfundo zoyankhulirana, ntchito yayikulu yowonongeka ikuchitidwa ndi zigawo za makhalidwe abwino - zikhulupiliro, zizolowezi, makhalidwe, zochita ndi luso. Choncho, pokhala ndi chikhalidwe chokwanira, munthu ali ndi mphamvu zogonjetsa zovuta za khalidwe lake , kuyanjana ndi anthu ena kumbali zonse. Izi zikutanthauza kuti kutsata mfundo zokhudzana ndi kulankhulana kumathandiza munthu kuti azitha kuyanjana ndi anthu ena kuti azisonyeza kuti ali ndi umunthu - amamvera chisoni, amakomera mtima, amasonyeza kukoma mtima, ulemu komanso chifundo. Kuchita izi kumakupatsani inu kusonyeza kwa munthu kuti momwe aliri ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa iye.
Mfundo zazikuluzikulu zoyankhulirana ndi:
- kudzilemekeza ndi kulemekeza oyankhulana;
- kulekerera ndi chilungamo;
- kuwonetsa anthu ndi chiwonetsero cha demokalase;
- malingaliro opanda tsankho kwa okondedwa;
- kuzindikira kuti kusadziwika kwa ulemu wa munthu aliyense;
- kuwona;
- kumvetsetsa zofuna za oyankhulana.
Ubwino wogwiritsa ntchito njira zoyankhuliranazi sikuti zimangowonjezera ubwino wokambirana, komabe komanso kuthekera koyambirira kwa phunziro loyankhulana pofuna kupeza njira yabwino.