"Mtsikana wokhala ndi chilakolako," "Ndikutchuka kotani pazochita zake," "Ndipo ali ndi chilakolako chochuluka bwanji .. .." Mawu amenewa akhoza kumveka poyankhulana pakati pa ogwira nawo ntchito, odziwa anzawo komanso osadziwika. Koma chilakolako ndi chiyani? Ndipo momwe mungamvetse khalidwe ili?
Panali mawu awa m'malo mwa mulungu wachiroma, ulemu womwe unapangidwa ndi munthu. Komabe, mu Chirasha chinachokera ku Polish, kumene kale kutanthauza kunyada kwowonjezereka - kunyada. M'mabuku a Chirasha a m'zaka za zana la khumi ndi zisanu ndi anayi, chilakolako chidachitabe ulemu ndi ulemu, koma ndi chidziwitso china. Patapita nthaŵi, gonor anayamba kutanthawuzira mwachindunji tanthauzo losiyana, khalidwe loipa la munthuyo, lomwe limasonyezedwa modzikuza, zopanda pake, kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira. Tikhoza kunena kuti chilakolako lero ndi kudzikweza, kudzikweza, kudzikuza, kudzikuza. Komabe, tanthawuzoli silikufotokoza momveka bwino cholinga chenichenicho, choncho, ndikofunikira kulingalira mbali zomwe zimakhala za munthu amene akudikirira pa mfundo.
Zizindikiro za chilakolako
Lero mukhoza kuona kudzikuza kwambiri mwa munthu ndi zizindikiro zotsatirazi:
- munthu amadziika yekha pamwamba pa zonse, ndi wonyada, wodzikweza, wodzikonda, wodzikonda;
- samalemekeza anthu, amawaseka iwo;
- amasonyeza kusayanjanitsika kwa maganizo a ena;
- Kulankhulana ndi anthu "osayenera" kumawoneka ngati kunyoza ulemu wake;
- ali ndi malingaliro ake onse, koma pa nthawi yomweyi amawulula popanda kusamala ndi malingaliro a anthu oyandikana nawo;
- ngakhale ngati sizolondola - izo sizipezeka kawirikawiri kapena ayi, iye amakhulupirira kuti ziri pansi pa ulemu wake;
- mawu pa nkhope yake amasonyeza kunyansidwa, kunyansidwa, kusayanjanitsika.
Kodi kudzikweza kumapezeka kuti?
Mwachitsanzo, ku Greece wakale ankakhulupirira kuti anthu odzikuza amangochitika mwangozi, kuyambira kubadwa. Chifukwa chodzikuza ndi kunyalanyaza ndi zofooka (mwachitsanzo, umphaŵi). Zikuoneka kuti akuyesera kubisa nkhope yake, kuvala chisokonezo. Ndipo anthu ambiri amakhulupirira molakwika kuti ndi zachilendo kwa anthu olemekezeka (kukongola, chuma, mphamvu, nzeru, etc.) kusiyana ndi zofooka.
Komabe, chilakolako chikhoza kuwonetsedwanso pamene anthu adziŵa ndikudziona kuti ndi anzeru kwambiri. Khalidwe limeneli nthawi zambiri limayambitsa luso, luso. matenda a nyenyezi, omwe nthawi zambiri Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri ochita masewera odziwika bwino, ochita masewera otchuka kapena ojambula amavutika ndi matenda a stellar. Iwo amakhulupirira kuti luso lapamwamba limene iwo adapatsidwa mwachilengedwe limasankha kuti ndizokondedwa ndi kuwapatsa ufulu wochitira anthu wamba ndi mkwiyo.
Komabe, ziyenera kuganiziridwa kuti nthawi zambiri anthu ozungulira amadzikuza ndi omwe adzalandira. Amangolakalaka, okondwa, chonde anthu oterewa, amayamba kuganiza kuti ali abwino kuposa ena mwanjira ina. Komanso, kunyalanyaza kawirikawiri kumabadwa mwa maphunziro osayenera. Makolo amaphunzitsa zitsanzo zawo, makhalidwe awo, kulankhulana ndi anthu, komanso kwa ana, makolo nthawi zonse amatsanzira. Momwemo, muzochitikazo pamene amayi ndi abambo amadzikuza kwa ena, ndiye ndithudi mwana wawo adzakhala.
Kodi kuvulaza ndi ngozi ya khalidwe lodzitukumula ndi chiyani?
Munthu yemwe ali ndi chilakolako sichikondweretsa kwa anthu oyandikana nawo, ali ndi mabwenzi ochepa kapena alibe, antchito anzake amapewa, moyo waumwini nthawi zambiri sapita bwino ... Ndipo izi ndi zomveka, ndi anthu odzikuzawo samangokhala osangalatsa - iwo sagwirizana nawo!
Kufuna kutchuka kwambiri kumabweretsa zopinga kuti anthu azilankhulana momasuka, nthawi zambiri zimakhala ndi makhalidwe abwino. Ndicho chifukwa chake musakhale odzikweza ndipo musawatche anthu ozungulira kuti akhale mphatso.