Kutsimikizira

Kawirikawiri pali milandu pamene munthu amanyazitsa, amakhumudwitsa anthu ena poyesera kudziyesa okha, akunyengerera ena, amamva kuti ndi ofunika kwambiri. Zikuwoneka zonyansa, koma zowona kuti kufunikira kudzidzimva kuli koipa nthawi zonse, mwinamwake chikhumbochi ndi chachibadwa?

Zolinga za kudzidalira

Ndipotu, chosowa chodzidalira ndicho chimodzi mwa zofunika kwambiri zomwe zimalimbikitsa khalidwe laumunthu. Zikuwonekera pa zikhumbo za munthu kuti alandire kuvomereza pamagulu osiyanasiyana - akatswiri, chikhalidwe ndi anthu. Choncho, cholinga cha kudzivomereza nokha chingakhale chikhumbo chokhazikitsa malonda anu, kupeza mphamvu, ndikupanga ntchito yabwino.

Kutsimikizira nokha ndichinthu chofunika kwambiri pa kudzidziwitsa nokha. Popeza kuti ndife odzidalira okha, timagwirizana ndi umunthu wathu, ndipo izi zimatithandiza kuti tizindikire udindo wathu mmagulu athu, kumvetsetsa phindu lathu, komanso podziwonetsera kuti timadzizindikira tokha kuchokera mkati - timaphunzira zambiri za zilakolako zathu ndi mwayi wathu.

Ndipo, ndithudi, sitiyenera kuiwala za vuto la kudzidalira kwa wina aliyense mu gulu, izi ndizofunikira kuti azigwira ntchito yake yokhayokha, chifukwa munthu aliyense pantchito ali ndi udindo winawake. Njira zodzimvera motero zimasankhidwa ndi aliyense - chifukwa cha manyazi ena, chifukwa cha luso lawo labwino kapena maluso awo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti chikhumbo chokhazikitsa pamodzi ndikudziwa momwe munthu alili pazochitika zachilengedwe ndi zachilengedwe ndipo sichidzatsutsidwa, koma apa pali njira zowonjezera cholinga ichi monga momwe angathere - okonda kugonja sakonda wina aliyense, makamaka ngati ameneyo ndi woyang'anira.

Kutsimikizira nokha potsalira ena

Ziri zosavuta: kuti udzikulire ndi kupeza chiyanjano ndi odziwa anzanu ndi abwenzi kapena makamaka kuti musadandaule nazo ndikunyalanyaza anthu ena, kunena kuti sakudziwa kanthu kali konse pamoyo, koma mumadziwa bwino bwanji inu nokha? Mwachiwonekere, njira yachiwiri ndi yophweka, simukusowa kugwiritsa ntchito khama lapadera, chinthu chachikulu ndikukhulupirira nokha. Kawirikawiri amuna amagwiritsa ntchito njira iyi yodzidzimangira, mwinamwake chifukwa cha chikhumbo chawo cholimbana ndi kupambana.

Koma musaganize kuti anthu oterowo ali olakwika mu chikhalidwe chawo, chifukwa nthawi zambiri chifukwa cha chitukuko cha khalidweli ndi kusowa chithandizo ndi chikondi muunyamata, kukwiya kwa nthawi yaitali, mantha a anthu, chiwawa cha maganizo choperekedwa ndi anthu apafupi, aphunzitsi ndi aphunzitsi. Anthu oterowo nthawi zambiri amachita zinthu mwaukali, yang'anani Wodalirika kwambiri, koma ndi chigoba, chomwe chimakhala ndi munthu woopsya amene alibe kutentha ndi kusamalidwa. Anthu omwe amayesa kutsimikiza motere ali olemekezeka kwambiri, amadziona kuti ali otsika ndipo amawopa kuti azikangana momasuka ndi anthu ena, onse ali ndi kulimbika kuti apite pamwamba pa munthu pomunyalanyaza. Vuto ndiloti m'munda wa maonekedwe a anthu oterewa ndi omwe sangathe kudziteteza okha ku chiopsezo, pa umunthu wolimba omwe nthawi zambiri samayesa kuziteteza.

Kudzidzimva kumawoneka ngati njira yotetezera yomwe imayenera kuteteza munthu ku zovuta. Ngati munthu alibe chidziwitso cha kudzidalira, ndiye kuti ali ndi maganizo odzikuza. Mwamuna amayesera kudziyesera yekha kuti athetsere zofooka zake. Choncho, anthu osowa amafunika kuthandizidwa komanso kukhala ochezeka, chifukwa chakuti sangathe kudzidalira popanda kutsutsa anthu ena, amawapangitsa kukhala osasangalala, sawalola kuti awulule bwino zomwe angathe.