Zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri zimakhala zochitika pamaganizo ndi m'maganizidwe a munthu, zomwe zimawonetseratu kuipa kwa ena komanso kupambana kwa ena. Munthu amene ali ndi vuto loperewera amadziona ngati wopanda pake, wopanda chifukwa, chinachake ngati chopanda kanthu. Vutoli silimulola kuti azikhala mwamtendere, kumayambitsa matenda ambiri a maganizo ndi kupsinjika maganizo. Mu psychology, zochepa zovuta zimalingaliridwa kuganiziridwa kuganizira mmene anthu amakhalali. Zingakhale zachibadwa mwa anthu onse ndipo si matenda a maganizo. Nthawi zina, zimakhala zothandiza, kubwereranso kufunika kwake ndi kukula kwa munthu aliyense. Ndiye mungatani kuti muchotse vuto loperewera ndipo muyenera kulichotsa?
Maganizo a kudzichepetsa angabwere chifukwa cha zifukwa zosiyanasiyana:
- matenda;
- zolephera za moyo;
- tsankho, ndi zina zotero.
Woyamba kukonza chiphunzitso cha kudzichepetsa ndi Adler, yemwe adanena kuti kumverera kumeneku kunabadwira ali wamng'ono. Anasonyeza kuti munthu sangakhale wopanda chitetezo komanso sangathe kuthandizidwa. Mu moyo wake wonse amayesa kudziyesa yekha mdziko, choyamba mu sukulu, kusukulu ndi kuntchito. Aliyense ali ndi zolephera, koma aliyense amawakhudza m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Winawake amadzuka ndikudzigwedeza yekha fumbi, amapitirira, ndipo wina amathyola ndikudziimba mlandu.
Zovuta kumvetsa - zizindikiro
Anthu ambiri sazindikira ngakhale kuti amavutika ndi matenda awo. Zimakuvutani kulankhula ndi ena ndipo nthawi zonse amakumana ndi zovuta. Zizindikiro zotsatirazi zidzakuthandizani kumvetsa kudzikuza kwanu.
- Kudzipatula payekha. Anthu omwe amadziona kuti ndi ofunika kwambiri amakhala paokha. Kawirikawiri izi siziri kutsekula kunja, koma mkati. Ena samachititsa munthu uyu kukhala wodalirika, koma iye mwini amadziona kuti ndi wosayenera kwa anthu awo. Iye amawopa kuchita kapena kunena chinachake chosasangalatsa pakati pawo, ndicho chifukwa chake amatseka.
- Kuvuta. Chikhalidwe ichi cha khalidwe ndi kuyesa kudziwonetsera nokha mu timu. Kulephera kulankhulana ndi anthu, kuzindikira kuti akuweruzidwa kumawopsa. Njira yoyamba yotetezera.
- Kukwezera udindo ku mutu wathanzi. Ngati zolephereka, kuzunzika ndi zovuta, zimazindikira kuti walakwitsa, koma amayesa kuchotsa mlandu pazochitika zina. Iye ali wolungama pamaso pa aliyense, akudzudzula tsoka ndi mwayi, chilengedwe ndi kampani yoipa. Iye sangakhoze kupirira yekha zolephera zake ndi zolakwitsa zake.
- Kupewa mpikisano. Munthu wodzichepetsa amantha kudziyerekezera ndi munthu wina. Amadziwa ndithu kuti adzatayika poyerekeza. Iye samachita nawo mpikisano ndipo samachita khama lililonse kuti apambane.
- Fufuzani zofooka. Munthu yemwe ali ndi zovuta zochepa samapumula kwa kupambana kwa anthu ena. Iye akuyang'ana zophophonya mwa anthu opambana, kuchepetsa kudzidalira kwawo. Iye akuyesera kulimbikitsa aliyense mu dzenje lake.
- Hypersensitivity. Mwamuna amachitira mwamphamvu kudzudzula ndi kutamanda. Kumva kuyamikiridwa, iwo amakana kuti ali ndi vuto, akufuna kumva umboni. Kaŵirikaŵiri pali mawonetseredwe oterewa omwe ali otsika kwambiri kwa amayi. Iwo amangopempha chitamando. Kudzudzula kumaphatikizapo zida zopanda malire ndikuyesera kudzilungamitsa.
- Kuopa kulakwitsa. Lamulo la golidi la munthu wovuta ndi lakuti: "Wopanda kanthu sali kulakwitsa." Amaopa kutenga ntchito iliyonse poopa kuti asagonjetsedwe.
Kodi mungatani kuti muthane ndi vutoli?
Kudziwa kuti ndichabechabechabe kungawonekere kwa munthu aliyense pa nthawi inayake ya moyo. Izi ndi zachilendo ndipo anthu akudutsa nthawiyi ndipo akuchira. Ndikofunika kuchotsa, ngati kumverera kumeneku kwakhala ndi khalidwe losatha. Thandizo lapadera ndi maphunziro angathandize munthu kupeza mphamvu, kudzikonda yekha ndi kuthana ndi mavuto onse. Vuto la zochepa zovuta lidzathetsedwa panthawi yomwe munthu adzikonda yekha.