Kukhala ndi chikhalidwe ndi luso komanso mtundu wanzeru. Anthu oyankhulana ndi okongola komanso osakayika, sawopa anzako atsopano ndi kulankhulana kosangalatsa. Pamaso pawo, zitseko zonse zatseguka, zimadalirika kwambiri kuposa zomwe zitsekedwa. Kupeza anthu omwe ali ndi luso lapadera lolankhulana ndi kampani sizingakhale zovuta, nthawi zonse amakhala pakati pa chidwi ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala atsogoleri. Kulankhulana kwawo kumakokera kwa iwo okha, monga chifukwa, iwo nthawizonse amakhala ndi abwenzi ambiri ndi abwenzi.
Maluso oyankhulana ndi maluso amakula kuyambira ali mwana ndipo nthawi zambiri amadalira momwe mwanayo adayambira nthawi yayitali. Kulankhulana kumadalira chilengedwe cha mwana, kuchokera kwa makolo ake ndi okondedwa ake. Kawirikawiri, ngati pali ana akuluakulu m'banja, mwanayo amapeza chinenero chofanana ndi ena.
Kawirikawiri kupambana kwa anthu kumadalira pa luso lawo loyankhulana bwino. Mwachitsanzo, kusukulu wophunzira, osadziwa phunziro, akhoza kuuza mphunzitsi zinthu zambiri zokondweretsa, ngakhale ngati sizinali pamutu, koma pamapeto pake amapeza bwino, ndipo wophunzira yemwe adaphunzira phunzirolo, koma sangathe kuwapereka mwaluso kwa mphunzitsi, amatenga mpira wotsika .
Mmene mungakhalire ndi luso loyankhulana?
Kuti mukhale munthu wokondana, muyenera kutsatira malangizo awa:
- Musapewe kuyankhulana. Kulankhulana kulikonse: kuntchito ndi anzako, pabwalo ndi oyandikana nawo, kambiranani ndi anzanu. Kulankhulana ndi ana, akuluakulu, okalamba. Zonsezi zingakupatseni chinthu chamtengo wapatali. Anthu a zaka zambiri adzakuphunzitsani nzeru zawo, ndipo ana adzawathera ndi chiyembekezo ndi kusasamala.
- Sangalalani kulankhulana. Phunzirani kugwiritsa ntchito njira yolankhulirana. Ngati mukumva kuti zokambiranazo zikuyenda mumsewu wosasangalatsa kwa inu - sankhani mutuwo.
- Musakhale omasuka kwambiri. Ngati mukufuna kuti anthu azikonda kulankhula nanu, khalani okondwa. Musayankhe mafunso mwa osasamala. Kuuma kwa mayankho anu kumawoneka ngati osakhudzidwa kulankhula.
- Pofuna kulumikizana, gwiritsani ntchito masewera olimbitsa thupi. Pali masewero angapo opititsa patsogolo luso loyankhulana. Mwachitsanzo, imani pamaso pa galasi ndikuyesa kusonyeza malingaliro osiyanasiyana pamaso panu: mantha, chisangalalo, chisoni, chisoni, ndi zina. Njira iyi idzakuthandizira kuti muwonetsetse nkhope yanu poyankhula ndikuonjezere kudzidalira.
Phunzirani kulankhula bwino. Kuti musachite mantha ndipo musapewe, muyenera kukhala mnzanu wokondedwa. Nchiyani chomwe chikufunikira pa izi?
- mverani mosamalitsa kwa mdani wanu;
- Pambuyo pomaliza kufotokozera mfundo yeniyeniyo, yang'anani zokhudzana ndi maganizo ake ndikufotokozera zomwe simukugwirizana nazo;
- Fotokozani maganizo anu popanda kuwakhumudwitsa kapena kuchititsa ena manyazi;
- yesetsani kupeza kuthetsa kutsutsana kwothetsera vuto.
Njira izi zimalimbikitsa chitukuko cha kuyankhulana kwa akuluakulu. Makhalidwe awa ndi njira zophweka, koma zothandiza kwambiri. Pambuyo pochita ntchitoyi, munthu amatha kupambana muzochita zawo komanso ntchito yake.
Mitundu ya luso loyankhulana
Kulumikizana kumaphatikizapo mitundu iwiri:
- mawu;
- osalankhula.
Mtundu woyamba uli ndi mawu, ziganizo, mawu. Iyi ndi njira yosavuta yolankhulirana. Mtundu wachiwiri umaphatikizapo maonekedwe ndi manja. Chilankhulochi nthawi zambiri chikhoza kunena zambiri kuposa mawu okha, kotero ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa luso lofotokozera malingaliro ndi malingaliro kudzera mwa njira zamalankhulidwe zosiyana kuti zitha kuyankhulana. Chifukwa cha chitukuko chawo, zomwe tatchula pamwambazi zikuwonetsedwa ndi galasi si zoipa.
Kuyenerera kwa luso la kulankhulana kungabwere pa moyo. Ndibwino kuti muphunzire luso limeneli, zitseko zambiri zidzatsegulidwa pamaso panu. Khalani ndi cholinga chokhala mnzanu wokondwa ndikuyesetsa kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zanu ndipo posachedwa mudzawona momwe mabwenzi anu ndi mabwenzi anu akufutukula, ndi momwe moyo wanu wadutsa mu khalidwe latsopano.