Pa moyo wake, munthu nthawi zambiri amayang'anizana ndi zosankha komanso nkhani zomwe zimakhudza zolinga ndi maudindo a moyo ndipo zingayambitse kusintha kwakukulu. Limodzi mwa mafunso awa: "Kodi munthu ayenera kuyesetsa chiyani?", Ndipo yankho, ndithudi, aliyense amadzipeza yekha.
Kodi anthu akufuna chiyani? Wina amapeza moyo wabwino, wina amayamba bwino, ndipo wina nthawi zonse amafuna kuti azikhala mwamtendere. Zimakhala zovuta kunena ngati pali njira yoyenera ndi yolakwika, koma mukhoza kuyesa kumvetsetsa njira zomwe zimakhumba kuti muthe kumvetsetsa nokha ndi ena.
Nchifukwa chiyani anthu akufunafuna mphamvu?
Zimakhulupirira kuti chilakolako cha mphamvu ndi chimodzi mwa zikuluzikulu zoyendetsa zochita za anthu, ngati, ndithudi, mphamvu ndizofunika. Yesetsani mphamvu kungakhale pazifukwa zambiri, koma zofala ndi ziwiri zokha:
- Kukhala wokhutira wodzinya ndi zomwe munthu amamvera;
- chikhumbo chochita chinthu chofunikira kuchokera kwa anthu.
Mwachiwonekere, zolinga zosiyana zimabweretsa zotsatira zosiyana za chikhumbo choterocho. Ngati pachiyeso choyamba tipeze wolamulira wotsutsa, ndani amene angathe kusamalira anthu omwe ali ndi zosangalatsa zowonongeka, m'zochitika zachiwiri mtsogoleriyo ayesetse, poyamba, kuti akhale ndi moyo wabwino.
Kusanthula izi zifukwa zosavuta kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake anthu akuyesera kupanga ntchito ndi kutenga maudindo.
Nchifukwa chiyani anthu amafuna chilungamo?
Kawirikawiri, lingaliro lachilungamo ndilokwanira komanso lodziwika bwino, koma kawiri kawiri likhoza kufotokozedwa ngati kufanana kwa phindu lopindula ndi kuyesayesa. Tanthauzoli lingagwiritsidwe ntchito ngati, monga mwachitsanzo, ndi funso la malipiro a maubwenzi ogwira ntchito kapena ogwirizana (kuchokera kwa iwo, makamaka, anthu amapindula okha). Chikhumbo cha chilungamo ndicho chimodzi mwa maziko a mgwirizano wa msika wamakono mu chikhalidwe, mtundu wa njira yopulumutsira ndi chitukuko. Equity imaphatikizapo zizindikiro zambiri zomwe zimalola kuti munthu asakhale ndi chidaliro m'tsogolomu ndi chitetezo chake, chomwe chimachepetsa msinkhu wa nkhaŵa ndi nkhawa, koma mosiyana, zimakhala ndi zotsatira zokhutira ndi moyo.
Nchifukwa chiyani anthu amafunafuna chidziwitso?
Zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri, timauzidwa kuyambira ali aang'ono. Koma ena amapeza zochepa zofunikira kuti akhalepo ndipo sachita chidwi ndi china chilichonse, pamene ena amapereka moyo wawo wonse ku sayansi ndipo amakhala okonzeka kupeza chinachake chatsopano. Munthu yemwe akufuna kuchita zinthu, amayamba kufufuza mayankho ndi mafunso atsopano ndipo pokhapokha atalandira kale chisangalalo chachikulu. Anthu zana oti anene za chisangalalo chimene chatulukira ndi kuzindikira kwa anthu. Nthawi zina chidziwitso chimakhala mapeto mwaokha, tanthauzo la moyo, ndipo nthawi zina timakhala ngati chidziwitso chofunikira kukwaniritsa cholinga. Pambuyo pa zonse, mudziko lathu, nthawi zambiri ndidzidzidzi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale wopambana komanso kuti akhale ndi ufulu wa munthu.
Kodi anthu akufuna kuchotsa chiyani?
Ndizomveka kuti anthu amayesa kuchotsa zinthu zomwe sizikhala ndi zotsatira zabwino pamoyo wawo, koma, mosiyana, zimakhala zosavuta kapena zosasimbika. Nazi mndandanda wafupipafupi wa zochitika zoterezi:
- malingaliro osiyanasiyana (makamaka makhalidwe oipa ndi maudindo azachuma);
- ubale wosakhutiritsa;
- kupanda ungwiro (mu dziko lozungulira, chikhalidwe, mawonekedwe awo, ndi zina zotero);
- zinthu zosafunika.
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti sikuli koyenera kusunga chinthu chomwe simukusowa ndipo sichimasangalatsa. Ndizomveka kwambiri kuchotsa izi panthawi kuti pakhale malo atsopano, othandiza komanso osangalatsa.