Kuyankhulana ndi anthu kungakhale kokondweretsa, koma nthawi zambiri kumakhala kasupe wa mkwiyo, makamaka pamene woyimilira akuyamba molimba mtima ndikukwera mopanda mantha. Chochita, momwe mungadzitetezere ku chidwi cha anthu ena ndipo musakhale msilikali wamwano?
Nchifukwa chiyani anthu amafunira chidwi?
Pezani munthu yemwe sasamala za moyo wa ena ndi ovuta, ndi munthu yemwe akufuna kuti azikhala ndi chidwi ndi zochitika za achibale ndi abwenzi, ndipo wina amakonda "kuponya mphuno zawo" mu miyoyo ya anthu kapena anthu ena. Nthawi yomweyo ndikofunikira kusiyanitsa mfundo ziwiri - chidwi ndi chidwi. Pachiyambi choyamba, munthuyo amakhala wosakondera kuti asonyeze ubwino. Koma chidwicho chimayesetsa kulowa mu moyo ndi cholinga china. Tiyeni tiyese kupeza zomwe anthuwa akutsatira.
Anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti anthu ali ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zambiri zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito paokha. Inde, pali anthu ambiri otere, ndipo m'madera ena malo awo ndiwo maofesi a makampani ndi mabungwe amalonda onse, kumene ambiri amakhala okonzekera chirichonse, kuti atenge malo otentha. Chinthu china n'chakuti nthawi zambiri ochita ntchitoyi amakonda kuchita mwanzeru - amamvetsera, m'malo mofunsa. Zonse zofunikira zimaperekedwa ndi gulu lachiwiri lalikulu la anthu odziwa chidwi.
Anthu ena amakhala ndi chidwi ndi miyoyo ya anthu otchuka, oyandikana nawo, ogwira nawo ntchito, achibale opanda lingaliro loperekera. Chitsanzo chochititsa chidwi kwambiri cha azimayi oterewa pa benchi, amalimbikitsanso boma kapena msungwana kuchokera ku khonde lapafupi chifukwa chakuti akufunadi kusintha zinthu m'dzikoli kapena amafunira zabwino kwa anansi awo, sangathe kutenga masiku ndi nthawi yaitali. Anthu ena amayamba kukalamba, amatha kuganiza kuti asapume pantchito kuti miyoyo yawo ili yosasangalatsa komanso yosadabwitsa, motero amaikamo zinthu ndi zochitika za wina aliyense tsiku ndi tsiku.
Kodi mungadziteteze bwanji ku chidwi cha anthu ena?
Kuchokera pakuwona kuti ambiri mwa anthu odziwa chidwi amakhumudwa m'miyoyo yawo, wina angaganize kuti ayenera kumumvera chisoni. Mwina chifundo chingathe kuwonetsedwa, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti simusowa kuchita kanthu kuti musiye chidwi chodetsa nkhaŵa. Anthu awa mozindikira, mwinamwake, sakufuna inu choyipa, koma iwo amachititsa izo. Mumathera nthawi yanu ndi mitsempha yanu kuti muyankhule nawo, mumataya mphamvu zanu pazochitika zanu, mmalo mozitsogolera kugwira ntchito kapena kulankhula ndi omwe amakhudza mtima wanu. Choncho musazengereze kukana zofuna, chifukwa izi pali njira zingapo.
- Njira yoyamba ndi yoonekeratu ndiyouza munthu wosasangalatsa kuti moyo wako umamukhudza. Koma izi sizingatheke nthawi zonse, chifukwa ndi ambiri mwa anthuwa nkofunika kuti pitirizani kukhalapo ndikuwononga chiyanjano chonsecho, sindikufuna.
- Kawirikawiri munthu amakhala osavuta kukwiya akakhala atatopa kwambiri, choncho zingakhale bwino kuti musalankhule ndi anthu omwe akukukhumudwitsani mukatopa kwambiri. Inde, kupewa nthawi zonse sikugwira ntchito, choncho phunzirani kukhala kutali ndi zomwe zikuchitika, kulamulira nokha, kuzidula muphuphu. Kuwathandiza mu izi tsopano kungakhale chinthu chotchuka monga kusinkhasinkha . Ngakhale popanda kumizidwa kwakukulu pachiyambi cha chizoloŵezi ichi, kupuma bwino kumakhoza kuchita zodabwitsa.
- Ngati mupita patsogolo pang'ono, mukhoza kuyesa njira yowonetsera - yerekezerani kuti mukuzunguliridwa ndi moat yozama (khoma lamwala, mathithi, lamoto), zomwe zimakulepheretsani kuyang'ana maso, kukulepheretsani kuti muyandikire pafupi ndi inu. N'zotheka, pochita ndi munthu wosasangalatsa, kulingalira kuti ndinu munthu wakuda, wosasangalatsa.
- Anthu omwe sadziwa bwino, nthawi zambiri amatisunga pa malemba, omwe amasiyanitsa ndi ena. Lekani kudzizindikiritsa nokha ndi chizindikiro ichi, ndinu wosiyana kwambiri. Ndipo ngati munthu akukwera mu moyo wanu, kenako amasungunuka miseche, samangomvetsera - amadzipangira yekha ndipo amadzikuza ndi zovuta zake kutsogolo kwa ena, chabwino, sizosangalatsa?
Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, kumbukirani - palibe njira zamakono zogwirira ntchito, ngati mutayamba kulola aliyense kulowa m'kachisi wa mtima wanu. Inde, kudzipatula nokha ndi kudana ndi aliyense, kupatula kwa anthu apafupi kwambiri, sikoyenera, koma simukufunikira kutsegula kwathunthu aliyense asanakhalepo.