Psychology yolankhulana ndi anthu

Ndili chomwe chinachitika: Tsogolo lanu lakumana ndi munthu wosasangalatsa kwambiri, koma simungachoke ndikusiya pakati pa zokambiranazo, chifukwa chipambano chanu chimadalira zotsatira za msonkhano. Psychology ya kulankhulana ndi anthu imatiphunzitsa kupangitsa adani athu kukhala mabwenzi okhulupirika, popanda kuiwala nthawi imodzi kuti afotokoze momwe angapezere chinenero chofanana ndi anthu omwe ali ovuta kwambiri .

Psychology of communal communication communication

Kodi nthawi zambiri mumawona luso loyankhulana? Ndikutanthauza kuti kulankhulana kwanu kuli kotani? Kuti zokambirana zikubweretseni chisangalalo nthawi zonse, osati makhalidwe abwino, ndikofunika kumvetsetsa munthu wina, kuti tidziwe momwe angayankhire pazinthu zina, tiyeni timuwone kuchokera mkati. Choncho, gwiritsani ntchito ndondomeko zotsatirazi za kugonana pakati pa anthu, chifukwa cha zomwe zingatheke kukonzekera:

1. Zotsatira za Franklin . Aliyense amadziwa kuti munthuyu anali ndi luso lalikulu. Kotero, nthawi yomweyo anafunika kuti apambane ndi munthu wina yemwe sanamukomere mtima. Franklin mwaulemu anamupempha kuti abwereke buku. Kuchokera apo, ubale pakati pa awiriwa wakhala wochezeka. Mfundo yonse ndi yakuti pamene munthu wina amakukondani, ndiye kuti nthawi yotsatira, khalani wodalirika kwambiri, munthuyu ayankhe ku pempho lanu kachiwiri. Nthawi zina, munthu amadziwa kuti "amakulembera" chiwerengero cha anthu omwe angamuthandize, ngati atero.
2. Khomo lolowera pamphumi . Kodi mukufuna chinachake kuchokera kwa interlocutor? Mufunseni zambiri kuposa zofunikira. Inde, chisankho cha kukana sichinatchulidwe. Patapita kanthawi, mofunsanso molimba mtima. Wotsutsa adzakhumudwa ndipo, pakumva pempho loluntha, mukumverera kuti mukuyenera.
3. Mimicry . Kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza psychology ya kulankhulana ndi kuyanjana kwa anthu, munthu ayenera kuyang'ana ntchito za Alan Pisa, mwamuna yemwe anaphunzira mwatsatanetsatane chinenero cha kayendedwe ka thupi. Choncho, m'modzi mwa mabuku ake adalongosola njira yotereyi mmagulu, otchedwa "mimicry" kapena "kuganiza". Nthaŵi zina mumazindikira mobwerezabwereza kayendetsedwe kawo, kachitidwe ka interlocutor yanu. Izi zimalimbikitsa kwambiri kuyankhulana. Chifukwa chiyani? Inde, anthu amakonda kumvetsa chisoni anthu omwe ali ochepa, koma mofanana ndi iye.
4. Mayina . Dale Carnegie, mlembi wa Mmene Angapezere Anzanga ndi Mphamvu kwa Anthu, analemba kuti kumvetsera kwa munthu, palibe chokoma kuposa mawu ake. Kupitiliza pa izi, pokambirana, musaiwale kuti mumutche dzina lake. Chimodzimodzinso chimapangidwira kulumikizana kwabwino. Kodi mukufuna kuti interlocutor anu amvere chisoni chanu? Muyitane naye bwenzi lanu, ndipo posachedwa iye adzamva kukhudzidwa kwa ubale pa umunthu wake.
5. Tamverani izi . Psychological ya kuyankhulana ndi anthu mwamphamvu sikulangiza kulongosola kwa munthu chifukwa cha zofooka zake, ngati mukufuna kumupangitsa kukhala munthu wamalingaliro. Kodi mukufuna kufotokoza zosagwirizana ndi ndemanga yake? Kenaka nthawi yotsatira, kumvetsera mawu ake, yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe sakusangalala nazo. Mwinamwake iye akuvutika maganizo kapena kupanikizika ndi chinachake. Yesetsani mulimonsemo kuti mupeze malumikizano anu mu malingaliro anu, ndiyeno, kufotokoza, onetsetsani kuti muyambe pempho ndi chilolezo choyamba. Wotsirizirayo amatsimikizira kuti woyimilirayo sakufuna kuchoka pakati pa zokambiranazo.
6. Onaninso . Mu psychology yolankhulirana ndi anthu achikulire, njira iyi imakhala yogwira mtima kwambiri kusiyana ndi kale. Anthu ambiri oterowo akufuna kumvedwa ndi kumvedwa, choncho, muzikonzekera nokha, pogwiritsa ntchito kumvetsera mwachidwi. Mwa kuyankhula kwina: onaninso zomwe interlocutor wakuuzani. Choncho, mudzatha kukhazikitsa maubwenzi abwino. Ndibwino kutembenuza mawu omwe amangomva mu funso.