Chipatso choletsedwa chimadziwika kukhala chokoma. Atsikana omwe akufuna kufulumira kukoma kukoma uku ayenera kukumbukira zotsatira zomwe zilipo pa kugonana koyambirira. Kudziwa mokwanira nkhaniyi kumatetezedwa. Za izi ndikuyankhula.
Ziwerengero, maganizo ndi maginito
Kulimbana ndi chiwerengero cha ziwerengero za dziko lapansi, zaka zambiri za atsikana omwe ali pachibwenzi ndizofika zaka 18, zomwe ziri zabwino kwambiri. Komabe, ku Russia chizoloŵezi choyamba chogonana chimapezedwa ndi achinyamata a zaka zapakati pa 15 ndi 17. Ndipo molingana ndi ziwerengero zomwezo, 7% aang'ono okongola amayamba kugonana asanakwanitse zaka 15. Gawo la zaka izi liri pangozi yaikulu.
Kukonzekera mwakhalidwe
Zaka zomwe asungwana amayamba kugonana zimathandiza kwambiri poyesa kugonana ndikupanga mgwirizano wina. Zidzakhala zabwino kapena zoipa - zimangodalira zochitika zoyamba. Zomwe munganene, ngati nthawi yoyamba siinapambane. Sikuti ndizolakwa za mnzanuyo. N'zotheka kuti chifukwa cha kusagwirizanitsa kumeneku sikunali kosakonzekera kwa mnzanuyo. Mtsikana amene amabwera pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata chifukwa cha mantha ngati sakugwirizana ndi iye kapena chifukwa cha "osasiya" abwenzi, asakhale "nkhosa yakuda", akulakwitsa kwakukulu. Poganizira malingaliro a ena, izo, choyamba, muzidzivulaza nokha. Ndani amasamala omwe amaganiza? Anzake abwenzi okonda kugonana posakhalitsa adzakhala "katundu wamba", choncho kodi ndi bwino kukhala nawo?
Kugonana ali wamng'ono kungakhale ndi zotsatira zoipa kwa amuna. Anyamata achichepere omwe amagonana pakati pa zaka zapakati pa 12 ndi 15 nthawi zambiri amavutika kwambiri. Ichi ndi chifukwa cha chisangalalo ndi kusowa kwa msinkhu wa mnyamatayo. Pambuyo pa "chiyambi" chomwecho, mwayi woopa kuyanjana, mavuto ndi potency ndi abwino.
Kukonzekera thupi
Ali ndi zaka 12 mpaka 14, mwanayo alibe kanthu koma chidwi. Mwanayo akudutsa m'zaka zovuta kusintha. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri m'zaka 13 ndikutsegula ndi kukopa chidwi. Atsikana makamaka amafuna kusonyeza kuti ali achikulire komanso kuti azikhala achikazi. Koma mwathupi chiwalo cha mwana wazaka khumi kapena khumi ndi ziwiri (14) osakonzekera moyo wa kugonana. Ziwalo zogonana za msinkhu wachinyamata zimangokhala zopanda chitukuko, zowonongeka ndi kufalikira kwa matenda. Kuwonongeka kwa kugonana koyambirira kumayanjana ndi mavuto a kubereka mtsogolo, mimba yovuta komanso kubala. Kugonana koyambirira komanso kosakondedwa pakati pa zaka zapakati pa 12 ndi 14 kumapangitsanso kuti msungwanayo sangawonongeke pamene akukula.
Mpaka wosiyana wa kutha msinkhu kumapangitsa ena kukhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi pakati panthawi yoyamba. Mimba yosafunika nthawi zambiri ikhoza kuyenda bwino, koma mayi wamtsogolo samvetsa udindo wonse ndipo sali wokonzeka kukhala mayi.
Ambiri amachotsa mimba amapezeka atsikana omwe ali achinyamata. Zotsatira za opaleshoni yotero ndi kusabereka. Izi ndi zomwe zimawatsogolera komanso zomwe zimayambitsa kugonana koyambirira. Izi ndi zoyenera kuganizira zisanafike moyo wa "wamkulu".
Tetezani
Ndi anthu ochepa omwe amayesera kuphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa za anthu ena. Zomwe, mwachiwonekere, kuchita zambiri zosangalatsa. Zirizonse zomwe zinali, kuti aganizire pa kugonana ali wamng'ono kwambiri kwa ambiri. Ngati mutasankha, samalani kuti muteteze matenda osiyanasiyana. Kambiranani ndi njira zomwe zingatheke kuti mukhale ndi pathupi, simunakonzekere kubadwa kwa mwana?
Kondomu yoyamba ya kugonana ndi yoyenera. Funsani mnyamatayo kuti agwiritse ntchito njirayi. Muloleni iye ayandikire kusankha kwake mosamala. Musagule kondomu mumagalimoto pazitsulo, ndi bwino kulankhulana ndi mankhwala. Khulupirirani otchuka ndi ojambula. Chinthu chamtengo wapatali sichitha kutsika mtengo.
Chikondi cha ubale wapamtima umabwera kwathunthu ku "maluwa" a munthu. Kudikira, monga akunenera, kumalimbikitsa chilakolako cha thupi ndipo kumapangitsa kuti zowawa zikhale zowala komanso zowonongeka. Musachedwe, dikirani pang'ono. Ndipotu, zonse zili ndi nthawi yake.