Ubale pakati pa mkazi waufulu ndi mwamuna wokwatirana ukhoza kukhala kwa zaka. Ndipo mnzanu wosakhulupirika, izi zimakhala zokhutiritsa, zomwe sitinganene za mkazi yemwe, makamaka, maloto a banja ndi ana. Pankhaniyi, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi funso - momwe angachitire bwino ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa, kotero kuti achoke m'banja.
Kodi mungatani kuti muzichita bwino ndi wokondedwa wanu?
Malingana ndi chiwerengero, nthawi yaitali kapena sizinthu zambiri zimatsogolera amuna ambiri okwatira. Koma popeza cholinga chawo chachikulu ndicho kukhutira kowoneka, "akusintha mahatchi m'ngalawa" amuna okwatirana sakufulumira. Ndipo sichikudziwika kuti ndi ndani yemwe anali wolemera kwambiri - yemwe anasiyidwa pambuyo pa usiku umodzi, kapena yemwe kwa zaka zambiri akuyembekezera kuti wokondedwa wake achoke m'banja.
Imodzi mwa njira zamakono zomwe zimawathandiza kukakamiza okwatirana kukwatirana ndizosautsa. Mayi "akhoza kuyamwa kuchokera ku thupi" kapena kuswa ndi wokondedwa mpaka atachoka m'banja. Ndili ndi amuna ena, koma zimakhala zoopsa kuti wokonda amangosuntha wina.
Njira yachiwiriyi ikukonzekera kuti mwamunayo azikhala bwino. Mkazi pa nkhaniyi ayenera kukhala wabwino kuposa mkazi wololeka kuphika, kuyang'ana, kugonana. Koma ngati munthu amadziwa kuti mulimonsemo, kumwa mowa kumapezeka ndipo pakatha chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri mbuyeyo amachititsa kuti azikhala mofanana ndi mkaziyo panthawiyi, sangathe kusudzulana.
Chitsanzo chimodzi cha kubereka bwino kwa mwamuna yemwe ali ndi mkazi wovomerezeka amadziwika kwambiri. Iyi ndi nkhani ya Anna Boleyn ndi Henry VIII. Kwa zaka zambiri, Anna adathandizira chilakolako cha Mfumu, koma sanalowe mu ubale wapamtima ndi iye. Pambuyo pake, atatsutsana ndi tchalitchi komanso mbali ina ya mafumu a ku Ulaya, Henry adatha. Komabe, kutsirizidwa kwa nkhani ya chikondiyi sikulibe mtambo - kudandaula ndi wokondedwa wake, mfumu inamuimba Anna za ufiti ndikumupha.
Chotsatira pa izi zonse ndizophweka - kumanga chisangalalo chanu pamisozi ya mkazi wina sikofunika. Inde, zimakhalanso kuti pali magawo awiri, omwe amachokera ku moyo ndi thupi. Ndipo amakhala mosangalala nthawi zonse. Koma mu nkhaniyi, sikuti mkazi yekhayo koma wokondedwa wake akufunitsitsa kupanga banja.