Aliyense wa ife ali ndi mfundo zina zomwe sitinakonzekere kuti tichite chilichonse. Koma nthawi zina timagwiritsa ntchito zochitika. Pano, mwachitsanzo, anthu ambiri ali ndi lamulo loti asakhale ndi chibwenzi ndi amuna okwatira. Kodi ndi kovuta kuwonetsa kukhalapo kwa mphete yachitetezo pa chala cha munthu musanamupatse nambala yake ya foni? Zomwe zilibe, palibe vuto, koma ngati munthuyo avala mphete, ndipo makamaka ambiri, akufuna kumasuka, kuchotsa chingwe, kusocheretsa atsikana. Ndipo ndi zabwino, ngati msonkhano umodzi unachitikira, ndi choti uchite chiyanjano chitatha? Kodi mungakhale bwanji ngati mumakonda mwamuna wokwatiwa?
Ndimakonda mwamuna wokwatiwa, choti achite?
Mukhoza kunena nthawi zikwi zambiri zomwe mwamuna wokwatirana amamukonda ndizolakwika, ndipo mu njira iliyonse amatsutsa omwe ali mu mkhalidwe umenewu. Koma, ngakhale zilizonse ndi zikhulupiliro, chikondi cha katatu sichinthu chosowa kwambiri ndipo amayi ambiri, atagwidwa muukwati wotero, akuyang'ana njira yabwino. Ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri: kupitilira kukonda mwamuna wokwatira kapena kuyesa kuiwala? Zonsezi zikhoza kukhala ndi zotsatira zake komanso zowonongeka, ziri kwa inu kuti muyankhe mwanjira iliyonse.
Chikondi kusamalira!
Ndimakonda mwamuna wokwatiwa, choti achite? Inde, kukhala ndi iye, chifukwa chikondi ndi chozizwitsa ndipo simungathe kufalikira ndi malingaliro otero. Akazi ochuluka amatha kunena, koma ambiri a iwo omwe amapereka uphungu woterewa, sadayambe kukondana ndi amuna osayamika. Inde, mukhoza kuchoka monga momwe ziliri, kusangalala ndi misonkhano yambiri ndikupitiliza kuganiza kuti nthawi ino adanamizira mkazi wake. Kuyesera kudana nawo masabata ndi maholide chifukwa chakuti nthawi ino aliyense akukhala ndi banja lomwe silili chifukwa cha kumverera kwa mwamuna wokwatira. Kawirikawiri, mopanda phindu, kupeza yankho la funso la chifukwa chake amakonda anthu okwatirana, ndi chifukwa chake izi zikukuchitikirani. Kwa nthawi yaitali sikutheka kukhala ndi moyo ndipo posachedwa kudzakhala koyenera kusankha - kugawana ndi mwamuna kapena kuyesa kumuchotsa m'banja.
Ngati malingaliro olekanitsa ndi osagonjetsabe, ndiye kuti akungowononga banja la wina. Momwe mungamangirilire munthu payekha amadziwa mkazi aliyense, koma kodi ndi zoyenera kuchita? Potsutsa sitepe iyi, pali zifukwa zingapo.
- Kodi mukutsimikiza kuti uyu ndi munthu amene mukufunikira kuti mukhale ndi banja? Chisoni ndi chikondi zidzadutsa, koma zotsalazo ndi ziti? Kodi sizidzachitika kuti mwawononga chimwemwe cha wina, koma simunapeze anu?
- Pali lingaliro lakuti sizingatheke kumanga chimwemwe cha wina pa tsoka la wina, ndipo ndithudi, chiwerengero cha omwe amakhala ndi moyo wosangalala ndi mlendo ndi ochepa. Mwinamwake karma iyi ikugwira ntchito, koma mwinamwake madona anapanga chisankho cholakwika, ndani akudziwa?
- Ganizirani, ngati mwamuna wanyengerera mkazi wake wololedwa, ndiye kuti amuthawa, ndiye chiani chingamulepheretse kuchita nthawi ina? Kuti mutonthoze nokha ndi malingaliro kuti ndinu apadera ndipo mutha kusunga wopusa.
Kodi mungaiwale bwanji mwamuna wanu okondedwa?
Nanga bwanji ngati malamulo anu sakukulolani kuti mupitirize kukomana ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa, kapena mumvetsetsa kuti maubwenzi oterewa alibe chiyembekezo, kusiya ziyanjano ndi kuyesa kuiwala? Koma kodi n'zotheka kuiwala munthu amene mumamukonda, ngakhale atakwatirana?
Ndipo bwanji? Monga momwe kulembedwa kwa mphete ya Solomo imati, "Chilichonse chimadutsa. Ndipo izo zidzachoka. " Mwachidziwikire chimene mukuganiza kuti tsopano kukonda mwamuna wokwatiwa sizowonjezera zokondweretsa, chikondi, mwina champhamvu, koma kenanso. Choncho, mungathe kulimbana ndi maganizo anu.
- Ngati mwasankha kuthetsa ubalewu, muyenera kuchita izi pano ndipo musakhale ndi misonkhano yomaliza, musawononge mphindi, sabata, mwezi. Tangolongosolani kwa munthuyo kuti mukufuna kuimitsa chiyanjano ndi iye, chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kuchita izi ndi kuthetsa kulankhulana konse pa izi. Nambala ya foni - kutali ndi kabukuko, ndipo ndizozikumbukira zonse - pamene mumabwerera kumbuyo,
Zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuthetsa chiyanjano. - Musathamangire msanga mu ubale watsopano, ndipo makamaka, kuti mukwatire munthu woyamba pa mzere. Apo ayi, mudzazunzidwa ndi funso, Ndine wokwatiwa ndipo ndikukonda okwatira - chochita?
- Kawirikawiri, pewani zochita zowonongeka - zonse zomwe zinakuchitikirani zinachitika pamtima, yesetsani kukhalabe mu mphamvu ya malingaliro.
Tikhoza kunena kuti ubale ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa ndi ufulu, mwayi wofuna munthu wina (kuyembekezera kalonga), osati kudzikana nokha chisangalalo cha kugonana, koma kodi chikondichi?