Zikuchitika kuti ubale wautali ndi wowoneka ngati wautali pakati pa mtsikana ndi mnyamata pa nthawi imodzi ukhoza kugwa, nthawi zambiri zimakhala mofulumira kwambiri, ndipo mkazi alibe nthawi yoti amvetse pa nthawi yomwe wokondedwa wake wamwalira. Komabe, chinthu chovuta kwambiri pamene munthu akunena kuti akuchoka, koma mumamvetsetsa kuti mumamukonda kwambiri ndipo simudziwa momwe mungakhalire popanda munthu amene kale ali wokondedwa kwa inu. Amayi ambiri ali ndi vuto lalikulu, samadziwa choti achite ndi momwe angachitire pamene mnyamatayu waponyera. Choncho tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsetsa nkhani izi ndikupeza malangizo omwe alangizi othandizira a maganizo amapereka kwa atsikana omwe mnyamata wawo adataya.
Kodi mungabwezere bwanji munthu amene anakuponya?
Musati mutenge masiku akulira mumtsamiro ndikudzimvera chisoni, chifukwa nthawi zambiri, mtsikanayo ndi amene amamuimba mlandu, kuti wokondedwayo amusiya. Mu zida za amai pali zida zokwanira zomwe zingathandize kubwezeretsa munthuyo, koma musanachitepo, muyenera kusokonezeka, ndipo okondedwa anu ayenera kupereka nthawi pang'ono popanda inu. Choncho, choyamba funani phunziro, yesetsani masewera, mawonekedwe anu, mupite kukamasuka. Yesetsani kukukumbutsani kuti mumadzikonda nokha, chifukwa mwina akuyamba kumva kuti akufunikira, podziwa kuti walakwitsa. Komabe, musatengeke, chifukwa munthu akhoza kukhala ndi moyo wopanda inu kapena kupeza chilakolako chatsopano.
Kotero, mutamvetsera malangizo ena ochokera kwa akatswiri a maganizo, mumvetsetsa momwe mungabwezere munthu amene akuponya:
- Yesetsani kumvetsa chifukwa chake ubale wanu unagwa. Mwinamwake munthu adali ndi zodandaula za khalidwe lanu, anali atatopa ndi nsanje yanu, amatsenga, ndi zina zotero, kotero yesetsani kusintha, ndikukhulupirirani, mwamuna wanu adzayamikira izi mtsogolo.
- Pambuyo pa mwezi umodzi kapena awiri, itanani munthuyo ndikufunseni utumiki waung'ono, mwachitsanzo, kuti mubweretse zipinda zogula, etc., muyankhule naye ngati bwenzi lanu ndikuyesera kuti musapereke zolinga zanu.
- Ngati msonkhano wanu ukuchitika, musakumbukire mwanjira iliyonse zomwe zinachitika ndipo musasonyeze mkwiyo wanu. Khalani okondana komanso osagwira ntchito, ngakhale kuti "zizoloŵezi" zazimayi apa sizikuvulaza, mwangozi kugwira dzanja lanu, kuyang'ana mwachikondi, ndi zina zotero.
- Msonkhano wokhazikika ndi wokondedwa wanu udzakuthandizani kuti mupeze chidwi. Kupanga tsiku kunasintha mwachisawawa (ndithudi, kwa mwamuna, chifukwa kuchokera kumbali yanu ayenera kukhala okonzekera ndi kuganiziridwa), pitani kumalo kumene mnyamatayo amachitika nthawi ndi nthawi. Koma musalowetse kumutu kwake kuti ayambe kuzitsatira ndipo nthawi zambiri abwere patsogolo, mwinamwake munthuyo "adzawona kupyolera" iwe.
Kodi mungabwerere bwanji mnyamata amene anakuponyani ndi chithandizo?
Ngati simungathe kubwezeretsa wokondedwayo, ndipo mavuto anu satha, ndiye kuti mutembenukire kwa Mulungu, mwinamwake mudzamva ndipo okondedwa anu adzakhala ndi inu kachiwiri. Choncho, tsiku lirilonse, m'mawa kwambiri kapena usiku musanagone, nenani pemphero lotsatira, koma kumbukirani, chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pano ndi kuwona mtima: "Ambuye Yesu Khristu, Mwana wa Mulungu. Khalani ndi chifundo ndipo mubweretsereni phokoso ndi beech. Khulupirirani chikondi changa chachikondi ndipo musakwiyidwe ndi pempho langa lakufa. Mubweretseni kwa ine mmbuyo kwa Orthodoxy wokondedwa ndi kundipulumutsa ine kuvutika maganizo. Lolani omwalirayo abwerere posachedwa,
Kodi mungabwezere bwanji munthu amene anakulangani ndi chiwembu?
Pali njira imodzi yomwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kubwereranso wokondedwa wanu, ichi ndi chiwembu . Komabe, musanayambe mwambo wamatsenga, muyenera kuganizira mosamala kwambiri, chifukwa spell iliyonse ili ndi zotsatira, zomwe nthawi zambiri sizosangalatsa, kuziyika modekha. Choncho, tenga mpando ndikuwukankhira pansi, ikani kapu ya tiyi ndipo, ndikutsanulira mchere pamenepo, nenani: "Madzi achoka, adzakhala ouma. Pamene mukufuna kumwa, mudzabwera kwa ine . " Pambuyo tiyi yatuluka mu kapu, ikani padzuwa ndikudikira kubwerera kwa wokondedwa wanu.