Mu moyo wa mkazi aliyense, posakhalitsa nthawi imabwera nthawi yomwe amadziŵa kuti alibe kanthu mu ubale wake ndi mwamuna wake kapena mwamuna wake wokondedwa. Pali zifukwa zambiri za dziko lino. Mosasamala kanthu zomwe zinayambitsa kugonana kosayenera ku malingaliro oterowo, ambiri a ife timayamba kunena kuti: "Ndipeza munthu wokondedwa." Ndi zabwino kapena si zabwino kuti mkazi asankhe. Koma chomwe chimapangitsa akazi kupeza munthu wokonda - nkhaniyi ikugwira ntchito ndi akatswiri ambiri.
"Ndikufuna kupeza wokondedwa!"
Amayi ambiri amatha kunena mawu amenewa, koma si onse omwe amatha kumasulira zomwe akufuna. Kukambirana ndikulankhulana, ndipo mkazi wokhazikika komanso wolimba kwambiri akhoza kuika banja kukhala osangalala pangozi. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani mkazi ali ndi lingaliro "Ndikufuna kusintha mwamuna wanga!"? Akatswiri a zamaganizo amasiyanitsa zifukwa zitatu zazikulu zomwe zimapangitsa mkazi kusintha:
- Zosangalatsa zokhudzidwa kwatsopano.
- Vuto mu moyo wa banja.
- Kupanda chidwi kwa mwamuna wake.
Mu moyo, amayi ambiri amayamba kufunafuna okondedwa pasanapite zaka 5 zapabanja. Azimayi omwe amafuna anzawo okondedwa amakhala osakhutira kwambiri ndi iwo komanso moyo wawo. Izi zimachitika pamene moyo wa banja uli wokha, ndipo mwamuna ndi mkazi wake ali otanganidwa ndi bizinesi yawo. Pamene kukambirana kwa nthawi yaitali ndi usiku wovuta sikofunikira kwambiri kwa mwamuna, mkazi akuyang'ana wokondedwa.
Nchifukwa chiyani mukusowa wokonda ndipo mukusowa kalikonse?
Musanayambe kufufuza kwenikweni, mkazi aliyense ayenera kupeza mayankho a mafunso awa. Popeza ngati atatha kulumikizana ndi mwamuna wina akuzunzidwa ndi kukhumudwa, sadzalandira kukhutira, kaya akhale ndi makhalidwe kapena thupi. Kawirikawiri, malonda akuti "Kufuna mnyamata wokondedwa" amatanthauza zotsatirazi:
- wokondedwa amafunika kugonana. Ngati kugonana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake pang'onopang'ono kusokonekera ndipo kubwezeretsa kuwala koyambirira sikupezeka, amayi amasankha pa sitepe iyi;
- wokondedwa amafunika kulankhulana. Pachifukwa ichi, zosiyana ndizo - pabedi ndi mwamuna wake zonse ziri zogwirizana, koma palibe chokambirana. Pankhaniyi, mkazi wokwatiwa akufunafuna wokondedwa kuti amutsanulire moyo wake, agawana chimwemwe ndi chisoni, funsani;
- wokondedwa amafunika kuti akhale ndi buku labwino. Mwayi umenewu wabwera kwa amayi amakono osati kale kwambiri. Kupyolera pa intaneti, amayi ambiri amakwaniritsa malingaliro awo a kugonana ndi zosowa za kukambirana zauzimu. Njira iyi, inunso, ndi yotetezeka komanso yopanda chilungamo kuti banja likhale losangalala.
Kodi ndikuti mungapeze bwanji wokonda?
Magaziniyi ikukumana ndi amai ambiri omwe asankha zokhuza kugonana. Ndipotu, kwa akazi amakono - ichi si vuto. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti munthuyu ayenera kukhala odalirika. Pezani wokondedwa akhoza kukhala pa intaneti kapena pamalo aliwonse a anthu. Ndibwino kuti musakhale ndi chidziwitso, ndipo wokonda ali ndi makhalidwe awa:
- sichinali cholankhulana kwambiri;
- Ndinatha kutsatira zofunikira zanu - osati kutumiza mauthenga achikondi ndi kusayitana;
- zinali zosavuta kulankhulana;
- Ndinamvetsetsa kuti moyo wa banja ndi wanu payekha kuposa chiyanjano ndi icho;
- anali ndi chidwi nthawi zonse pa kugonana;
- anali ndi chisangalalo;
- osakwatiwa.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo padziko lonse amavomereza kuti musanayese kupeza wokondedwa, yesetsani kubwezeretsa otayika ndi mnzanuyo. Ngati mkazi akufuna wokondedwa, ndiye ayenera kuzindikira kuti izi ndizoopsa kuti banja lake likhale losangalala. Mwachibadwa, kuti muyanane ndi munthu wina - ndi zophweka, koma ndi bwino kuyesa kugonana ndi mwamuna wanu momveka bwino komanso mwachidwi. Izi zimathandiza kulimbitsa mgwirizano wa banja ndipo ndizolonjezano la zaka zambiri zosangalala.