Mumakonda kukonda "khalani bwino", "mukuchita zolakwika", "zochita zanu zonse ndizolakwika"? Mwinanso ayi, ndipo anthu ochepa akhoza kumvetsera malangizo kwa nthawi yaitali, momwe angakhalire bwino. Ndipo palibe cholakwika ndi ichi - aliyense mwiniyo ayenera kukhala moyo wake, kupeza njira yake, ngati mukufuna, ndi zosokoneza za anthu ena ziri zosayenera pano. Chifukwa chake, kulakwa kosayenera kwa malangizowo ambiri ndizolondola. Choncho lamulo loyamba la moyo - bungweli lidzamveka pokhapokha ngati likufunika, choncho auzeni ena momwe angakhalire bwino ngati mukufunsidwa kuchita zimenezo. Koma nthawizonse zimakhala zosavuta kulankhula za moyo wa munthu wina kusiyana ndi kumvetsetsa nokha. Kodi kumatanthauza kukhala ndi moyo wabwino, ndi momwe mungaphunzire?
Kodi ndimakhala bwino?
Ngati mu funso lanu munabadwa funso, kodi ndikukhala bwino, ndiye, mwinamwake, ndi ichi muli ndi mavuto. Ngati chirichonse chinali mu dongosolo, sipadzakhalanso malo mmalingaliro anu pa mafunso ngati amenewo. Nthawi zambiri izi zimachitika pamene simukupeza zomwe mukufuna. Izi ndizokuti mukuchita chinachake - ntchito, kuphunzira, kuyang'ana malo atsopano ogwiritsira ntchito maluso anu, koma palibe chilichonse chomwe chimakupangitsani kuti muyandikire kwambiri. Ndipo chifukwa chakuti simukutsatira zomwe mumatsatira, nthawi zambiri mumapitirizabe zokhumba zawo. Chinyengo chachikulu ndicho kuphunzira kufuna kuchita zabwino. Chabwino, kuti muzindikire komwe mungathe kusuntha popanda kupanga (osachepera), simungathe kuchita. Dziwani zolinga zomveka, zomwe mukufuna kuzipeza panthawi inayake. Pambuyo pake, ganizirani zomwe mungachite kuti mukwaniritse cholinga ndikuyamba kupita patsogolo.
Koma vutoli lingakhale losiyana - ndiwe bwino, ndipo mosiyana ndiwomwe mumatsimikiziridwa, achibale anu, oyandikana nawo, ophatikizana, onse omwe alibe ulesi. Pachifukwa ichi, muyenera kufotokozera onse "ofuna bwino" kuti ngati mukusowa uphungu wa wina, muyenera kumufunsa, ndipo mpaka apo ndi bwino kusiya kuyankha pa moyo wanu.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kuti mukhale bwino?
Tiyerekeze kuti inu nokha mukuzindikira kuti moyo wanu suli wofewa. Zomwe mungachite pa nkhaniyi, momwe mungayambire kukhala moyenera? Mwina zotsatirazi zidzakuyankhani ku funso ili.
- Kukonzekera, kugwirira ntchito m'tsogolo ndi kodabwitsa, koma palibe choyipa kuposa kuchotsa chimwemwe chanu "mawa." Yambani kusangalala ndi moyo pakali pano, osaiwala kupita patsogolo ku cholinga.
- Mutha kuyembekezera mphindi yoyenera ngati mutasinthitsa ndalama pokhapokha mutadziwa kuti kumapeto kwa sabata zidzakhala ngati izi. Koma kuyembekezera nthawi yabwino, osakhala ndi zitsimikizo za izo, ndi zopusa. Simungathe kukumana ndi bwana yemwe angakupatseni moyo wabwino, simungathe kukhala ndi mwayi wolowerera, bwana sangathe kuzindikira luso lanu ndipo simukupanga woyang'anira polojekiti. Kotero lekani kulota ndi chiyembekezo cha mwayi wamthano, yambani kuchita tsopano.
- Anthu ena amabweretsa zolepheretsa zawo zonse, Zili bwino kwambiri. Koma tiyeni tikhale oyenera - mwinamwake mndandanda wa zochitikazo ndipo tatsimikiziridwa kuchokera pamwamba, koma nkutheka kuti zochitika zathu zonse zalembedwa m'buku la Forensics, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti tikhoza kusintha chirichonse.
- Anthu onse ndi osiyana, mukudziwa izi? Kotero, palibe chofunikira kuti mutembenuzire aliyense mu chikhulupiriro chanu, ndi bwino kuyesa kupeza china mwa inu nokha mu zikhulupiliro za munthu wina. Phunzirani kwa anthu ena - sizonyansa ndipo sizakhalanso mochedwa.
- Kodi mumauzidwa kuti mukukhala molakwika? Njira yabwino yotsimikiziranso zosiyana ndizo sizitsutsana mpaka zitatha, koma moyo wabwino. Yambani kukhala ndi moyo kuti tsiku ndi tsiku mubweretse chimwemwe, mudzipatse nokha kuti mukhale osangalala. Powona kuti ndinu wokondwa, anthu amasiya kulankhula za kusalungama kwa zochita zanu.
- Musamasirire aliyense, aliyense ali ndi mavuto, wongopeka chabe kuposa inu. Kumbukirani, olemera amalira, ndipo mtsikana wokhala ndi usiku wosungulumwa wosungulumwa akuwonetsa njira yabwino yodzipha. Choncho lekani kuchitira nsanje, ndibwino kuti mukhale chinthu cha kaduka.
- Musawope kuvomereza kusadziwa, kudziwa zonse ndizosatheka, kuwopa mantha, ndiko kusakhutira kuphunzira chirichonse.
- Ndalama siziyenera kukhala mapeto mwazokha, ndizo njira chabe. Ndipo ngati simukukhala ndi njala ndipo muli ndi denga pamwamba pa mutu wanu, ndiye kuti simuyenera kugona mokwanira kuti mupeze ndalama zina.
- Musayese kukhala wabwino kwa aliyense, kutsutsa ngakhale oyera mtima, chitero
chinachake chimene chimabweretsa kukhutira kwa inu. - Musayesere kuoneka kuti ndi abwino kusiyana ndi zenizeni - mphamvu zokha zidzasokonezedwa. Pokazuha - Cholinga cha achinyamata, kodi mwatisiya kale?
- Mu moyo, pali malo opambana ndi kulephera, chimwemwe chachikulu ndi chisoni chodabwitsa. Landirani chirichonse ndi chiyamiko, popanda kupezeka kwa mitengoyi, sitidzakhoza kuzindikira zomwe zili zabwino m'moyo - ubwenzi, chikondi, kukoma mtima, chimwemwe.
Ndipo pomalizira - kuwerenga mabuku abwino ndizofunikira, koma maphunziro opambana amaphunzitsidwa ndi Moyo. Choncho yambani kuchitapo kanthu ndipo musawope zolakwa, palibe amene angapewe nawo.