Mwamuna ndi mkazi omwe amangidwa ndi ukwati amakhala amodzi. Makamaka ndizotheka kulankhula za mgwirizano ndi ubwenzi wa uzimu pamene sakramenti ya ukwati ichitika. Pa nthawi yomweyi, mgwirizano ndi wofunikira kwambiri pa malingaliro ogonana.
Ubale wogonana pakati pa okwatirana ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri mu mgwirizano wa banja, umene umasonyeza chikondi, chikondi ndi chikondi wina ndi mzake. Ponena za kukwaniritsidwa kwa maudindo a m'banja, Tchalitchi cha Orthodox chiri ndi malamulo, zofunika kwambiri.
Kodi n'zotheka kugonana pa nthawi yachangu?
Ntchito yaukwati ndi ntchito ya banja, yomwe ndi chiwonetsero cha chikondi pakati pa anthu awiri. Pachifukwa ichi, musati mutenge izi ngati zachiwerewere komanso zochimwa, chifukwa choti pazochitika zogonana siletsedwa.
Mmodzi mwa makalata ake, mtumwi Paulo akulimbikitsa abambo kuti asachite manyazi, kuti asayesedwe ndi kuti asagwere muuchimo.
Iwo amakhulupirira kuti nthawi ya kusala ndi mapemphero, iwo okha ali ndi ufulu kukhazikitsa nthawi ya kudziletsa ku kugonana ndipo zimangogwirizana ndi kuvomerezana. Ngati mmodzi wa iwo sakufuna kukana kugonana, ndiye kuti wachiwiri alibe ufulu wokana, pokhapokha ngati akuletsedwa kupanga chikondi pa tsiku lofulumira.
Kugonana pa Lent
Lent ndi nthawi ya kuyeretsedwa. Anthu samapewa chakudya chawo chochokera ku nyama, zakumwa zoledzera, ayenera kuchotsa zizoloŵezi zoipa. Koma pankhani ya kugonana pa Lent onse ndi zovuta kwambiri.
Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, ubale wapamtima pakati pa okwatirana ndi malamulo si uchimo. Komabe, olemekezeka ambiri salinso nawo mbali yowona pa nkhaniyi.
Ena amakhulupirira kuti Lent ndi nthawi imene munthu amakhala wamphamvu komanso amatha kulimbana ndi mayesero osiyanasiyana kuchokera ku zolephera zake.
Ena amaganiza kuti moyo wapamtima wa Akristu ulibe ufulu, umene palibe miyambo yomwe ingasokoneze.
Koma palinso masiku omwe simungagone nawo pazithunzi. Izi zikuphatikizapo Lachisanu chokhumba ndi sabata yonse yokondwerera. Mpingo salola kulowetsa mgwirizano wapamtima pokonzekera sakramenti ya Mgonero Woyera.
Ambiri amaona kuti nkhaniyi ndi yolemetsa komanso imalepheretsa ufulu wawo, koma ndibwino kuyang'anitsitsa. Kusala kudya kumathandiza munthu kuti apite patsogolo, akhale wolimba komanso osayesedwa. Izi zimagwiranso ntchito pa ubale wapamtima.
N'zovuta kuti anthu ambiri asamachite chiwerewere, makamaka kwa achinyamata. Koma okondedwa omwe satsatira chikwati chaukwati ali ndi mavuto ambiri mu chibwenzi chosiyana kuposa ena.
Chifukwa chokhutira kwambiri ndi kukondana wina ndi mzake, pali chilakolako chosiyana mitundu ya kugonana. Munthu yemwe satiated nthawi zonse samasowa mwakuya komanso kukondana. Izi zikuphatikizapo zopotoza zosiyanasiyana ndipo zingathe kufika pamtendere.
Kusala kudya kumathandiza kusungirana chikondi cha thupi, komanso kumalimbikitsa kugwirizana kwauzimu. Pa nthawi imene mwamuna ndi mkazi sagonana, maganizo awo amayamba kudziwonetsa mosiyana. Zimasonyezedwa mwa chidwi, kumvetsetsa, chisamaliro ndi chithandizo.
Inde, monga tanenera kale, kudziletsa pa nthawi ya kusala kumangokhala pachifuniro cha onse awiri. Ndipo, ngati mmodzi wa okwatirana asakhalebe ndi miyambo ya mpingo, ndiye kuti wina sayenera kutsutsana ndi chifuniro chake. Zitha kuchitika kuti, mwachitsanzo, mkazi amadya ndikusiya, ndipo mwamunayo pakalipano adzapita kukafunafuna mkazi wina. Kupitiliza kuchokera ku izi, tikhoza kunena kuti pofuna kusunga chikondi ndi mtendere m'banja mwatchutchutchu kuti tidzichepetseni kufooka kwa wina.