Monga lamulo, mu chiyanjano, amayi amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yawo yonse ndi mphamvu zawo zonse. Ndipo mwachibadwa iwo amayembekezera kulandira kuchokera kwa wokondedwa. Komabe, n'zovuta kutseka maso anu kuti amuna ambiri amatsogolera moyo wapawiri. Chikhumbo chonse, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kusunga chidaliro mwa mwamuna wanu. Ndicho chifukwa chake akazi akufuna kudziwa momwe akumvera kuti munthu akunama.
Kodi mungamvetsetse bwanji kuti mukutsutsidwa?
Chabwino, akatswiri a zamaganizo angapereke uphungu, monga pa zizindikiro zina zakuntha mukhoza kumvetsa kuti ukunama. Nazi zinthu zomwe muyenera kuziganizira.
- Njira yolankhulirana. Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti chibwenzi chanu chikuyang'ana m'maso mwanu ndi mabodza? Monga lamulo, anthu amasangalalira akamakakamizika kunama. Mkazi adzamva kusintha pang'ono mwa njira yolankhulira: ziganizo zowonjezereka, zolemba zambiri. Pakhoza kukhala zolemba zapamwamba zosadziwika, kapena mwamsanga kutchulidwa.
- Makhalidwe. Pozindikira kusayeruzika kwawo, amuna akhoza kugwiritsa ntchito njira yodziwika, ndi kuyamba kumenyana. Angathe kukwiyitsa, kusakondwa, kutsutsidwa chifukwa cha zinthu zing'onozing'ono. Ngati mukumva kuti muli ndi nkhanza zosadziwika bwino - ganizirani za chifukwa chake chenichenicho? Momwe mungamvetsetse ngati munthu akunama - kuti amvetsere kuchitidwa mobwerezabwereza.
- Kusintha pazochitika zake za tsiku ndi tsiku. Kodi simungamvetse bwanji kuti munthu akunama, ngati ali ndi kuchuluka kwantchito kuntchito, kodi nthawi zambiri amamuitanira ku misonkhano? Kapena mwinamwake anayamba kuyenda paulendo, zomwe zimabwereranso ndikudzikuza? Kunyumba, amatha kudandaula za momwe adawagwiritsira ntchito mabwana ake nthawi yambiri. Koma mkazi wake amatha kuona momwe akulimbera moyenera ufulu wokhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndi banja lake.
- Zatsopano. Kupukuta tsitsi kapena kukongoletsera, mafuta onunkhira, mawonekedwe omwe anawoneka pafoni ndi makompyuta - awa ndi mayankho a funsolo momwe angapezere zomwe mukusocheretsedwa. Mwinamwake mugalimoto wapando wonyamulirayo adzakankhidwa mmbuyo, mu chikwama padzakhala nkhani kuchokera ku lesitilanti, usiku womwewo ndi msonkhano wautali kuntchito.
- Zizindikiro zosasangalatsa. Samalani pazomwe mukukambirana: anthu okoma mtima omwe alibe chobisala, ayang'ane ndi thupi lonse, ayang'ane maso, ayambe kukambirana momasuka. Ngati mumaponyera mawu pamtima panu, kapena mukuyankhula, kuyang'ana kumayendayenda paliponse, kutali ndi maso anu - kumangomveka bwino kuti mnyamatayo akunyenga.
Mukudziwa bwanji ngati mwamuna wanu akunyenga?
Zizindikiro zomwe zatchulidwa nthawi zina sizongokwanira ndipo funso loti mumvetsetse kuti mukukamba lili lotseguka ku funsolo. Kuwonjezera apo, amuna ena amadziwa momwe angakhalire kuti abise mabodza awo. Ngati mwamuna wanu ali wodziwa zambiri, amadziwa ndi mtima wonse zizindikiro zonse, ndipo adzakhala wokonzeka kukana kukayikira kwanu. Koma pali njira yowonongeka, monganso kupeza kuti mwamuna akunyenga - kapena kutsimikizira kuti ndi wokhulupirika.
Ngati mwawunikira kale za zokayikitsa zanu, zidzakhala zovuta kutsogolera munthu kuyeretsa madzi. Tulutsani mkhalidwewu kwa kanthawi, lolani moyo wanu ukhale ngati wakale, opanda zizindikiro zosakhulupirira. Mudzapeza zotsatira ziwiri:
- ngati mukulakwitsa mukudandaula, nthawi yamtendere ikhoza kukuwonetsani izi, ndipo mwamuna wachikondi amayesa kubwezeretsa chidaliro pakuchita;
- Ngati zokayikitsa ziri ndi maziko, panthawi yamtendere mwamuna adzamasuka, ndipo izi zidzakhala zanu.
zopindulitsa.
Muyenera kutenga nthawiyi ndi kufunsa funso la konkire limene silikuyembekezera chinyengo cha abambo kufunafuna yankho la "inde" kapena "ayi". Ndipo apa pali zizindikiro zitatu zoona, momwe mungamvetsere ndi makhalidwe omwe munthu akunyenga:
- Nthawi yotsutsa: Kutenga nthawi yaitali, kumakhala kosavuta kunama, kapena mosemphana ndi - kumayankhira mofulumira.
- Wobodza amapewa kupereka yankho lapadera - adzamanga mawu osamveka.
- Kuperewera kwa manja kumasonyeza kuti munthuyo waika maganizo onse pamaganizo a yankho lolondola.