Kodi mungakhale bwanji ulamuliro?

Funso la momwe mungakhalire ndi udindo mu gulu kapena kwa mwana, wokondedwa ndi ambiri, ndikufuna kulemekeza aliyense. Pano pano kuti mukwaniritse izo sizowoneka mophweka monga zikuwonekera poyamba. Zoona, anthu ena amalankhula mawu awo ndi lamulo ngati kuti alibe khama, koma ndi za maphunziro, munthu sangathe kuchita mosiyana. Ndipo aliyense ayenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti akwaniritse zomwe akufuna.

Kodi mungakhale bwanji udindo wa mwana?

Makolo ambiri amadabwa chifukwa chake mawu awo kwa mwanayo sakutanthauza chilichonse. Ndipotu, zonse ziri zophweka - membala wamkulu wa banja samangokhulupirira ndipo salemekeza akulu . Ndipo makolo ali ndi mlandu wa izi. Zolakwitsa zazikulu ndizo zotsatirazi mu khalidwe.

1. Kawirikawiri makolo amagwiritsa ntchito njira zokhuza maganizo kapena thupi. Ndi njirayi mwachibadwa kuti m'malo molemekeza makolo amalandira kuchokera kwa mwana mantha ndi chidani.
2. Nthawi zambiri zimatha kuwona momwe makolo amagwiritsira ntchito maola ochuluka kumangirira ndi kumvetsa momwe "zilili", osapatsa mwanayo komanso njira kuti ayende yekha. Zotsatira zake ndizokwiyitsa ndi chilakolako chochita mosiyana, ngakhale zitakhala ndi zotsatira zoipa.
3. Makolo omwe ali aulesi komanso ochepetsetsa samayesetsa konse, pogwiritsa ntchito mfundo yakuti "Ndine wamkulu - Ndikufunika kulemekezedwa". Momwemonso njirayi idzawonongeka, palibe amene adzalemekeza aliyense mpaka amvetse chifukwa chimene munthu amayenera kukhala ndi maganizo amenewa.

Koma ngakhale machitidwe awa a khalidwe amapewa, mwana samadziwa nthawi zonse ulamuliro wa kholo. Kawirikawiri zifukwa za izi ndizo

• ndi osakhulupirika, chinyengo cha makolo kapena kuchepa kwambiri. Chinsinsi cha kupambana ulemu ndi chosavuta:
• sungani mawu anu, mwinamwake iwo adzaphunzira kupereka malonjezo opanda pake;
• kufotokozera mwanayo kuti zinthu zina siziyenera kuchitika, ndipo musadzichite nokha. "Iwe sungakhoze kusuta, koma ndine wamkulu ndipo ine ndikhoza kuchita izo" - zochita zotero za ulamuliro sizidzawonjezedwa kwa iwe;
• musachite chirichonse "pawonetsero," ana ali ochepetsedwa kwambiri ndi zonyansa;
• Musati mufune khalidwe langwiro kuchokera kwa mwanayo, inu nokha mukulakwitsa;
• chofunika kwambiri - kulemekeza umunthu wa mwana wanu, kuzindikira ufulu wake pa malingaliro ake, musanene kuti zosangalatsa zake ndizoopsa chifukwa chakuti simukuzimvetsa.

Momwe mungakhalire ulamuliro mu gulu?

Pofika kuntchito yatsopano, aliyense anadzigwira yekha kuganiza kuti: "Ndikufuna kukhala ndi udindo, kuti amvetsere maganizo anga, ndipo musaphonye."

Lamulo loyamba ndi lofunika kwambiri, momwe mungakhalire ndi mphamvu mu kampani yatsopano kapena pakati pa abwenzi, zimveka zomveka - phunzirani Kulankhulana kolondola, chitani ndi ulemu kwa onse omwe mukuyankhula nawo, ndikuwonetsani kusagwirizana kwanu popanda kutemberera. Thandizo labwino lingakhale luso lochitira zochitika ndi chisangalalo . Ndipo ndithudi, wina sangathe kukhala "mbuye wa mawu ake - akufuna kupereka, akufuna kubwezera," ngati munalonjeza, chitani, ndipo mukhale ndi udindo wa mawu anu ndi zochita zanu. Ndipo kupanga malamulo onsewa mosavuta, onetsetsani ulemu pa kampani yomwe mumakondwera nayo, pafupi ndi mzimu, chifukwa mu gulu losasangalatsa kwambiri, mudzatopa mwamsanga pochita nawo "chibwenzi chanu," ndipo sikudzetsa chimwemwe chilichonse.