Si chinsinsi kuti kugonana kwachisawawa kumatha kupha chilakolako chilichonse chokonda chikondi. Inde, ngati mumadziwiratu zochitika zogonana, chidwi ndi chilakolako zimatha pang'onopang'ono. Amuna, monga olamulira, ndi oyamba kuyamba kumverera kusungulumwa ndi kukonda kugonana ndipo izi ndi zoopsa, pamene akufufuza mkazi watsopano kufunafuna zokhudzidwa zatsopano ndi malingaliro. Omvera, mosiyana ndi akazi, amakhala omasuka komanso omasuka kugonana.
Ngati amai akufuna kupeĊµa vutoli, ndiye kuti ayenera kudziwa chomwe chimapangitsa amuna awo kukonda. Pambuyo pake, kukhutira ndi kugonana ndi chimodzi mwa zigawo zofunika kwambiri pakati pa okwatirana.
Amuna okonda kugonana
Zokhudzana ndi kugonana, komanso zokonda, musatsutsane, koma mu kugonana komwe kuli ziwerengero zomwe zimagwirizana ndi thupi lachibadwa ndi zofuna za amuna, kotero sizovuta kuyankha funso la chimene chimayambitsa amuna omwe ali pabedi.
Kugonana ndi munthu ndiyekha. Malingana ndi kafukufuku wosiyanasiyana omwe bungwe la mabungwe ambiri linayankha kuti funsoli limapangitsa kuti amuna azikonda kwambiri, zinatsimikiziridwa kuti pakati pa amuna omwe amakonda zomwezo palibe chinthu chodabwitsa komanso chopambana kwambiri. Ili ndi mndandanda wa mafunso asanu ndi awiri (5-7) omwe amalola mwamuna kukwaniritsa zosangalatsa za kugonana.
Pozindikira kuti ndi chikhalidwe chiti, okondedwa mwa amuna, amodzi ayenera kudalira pa zinthu zomwe mwamuna amakonda. Monga lamulo, zotsatira zapadera za kugonana kwa amuna zili ndi zochitika zomwe:
- iwo amakhoza kumuwona mkazi, ndiko kuti, "chikondi ndi maso awo";
- kulamulira mkaziyo, kumverera mphamvu yake;
- imalowa mkati mwa chiberekero cha akazi.
Gawo loyamba likuphatikizapo izi :
- Wokwera . Amadziwika ku malo onse, pamene mkazi akukhala pa mwamuna, amapereka ndemanga yake yonse. Mphuno imeneyi ili ndi kusiyana komwe mkaziyo akutembenuzidwa ndi mwamuna kapena akukumana naye. Pa malo aliwonse, munthu amatha kulowa mkati mwa chiberekero cha amayi ndipo nthawi yomweyo amamuyamikira.
- Malo pomwe bamboyo ali kumbuyo , ndi kusiyana kosiyanasiyana kwa galu pomwepo. M'malo otere, mwamunayo, poyamba, amalamulira, kachiwiri amawona mkaziyo ndikuyendetsa kayendetsedwe kawo, katatu, pamalo amenewa, munthu akhoza kulowa mkati mwakuya momwe angathere ndi mkazi, zomwe zimamupatsa chisangalalo chapadera.
- Mtundu wa "Magic Mountain" ukukhala pamalo okhala ndi maondo ogulidwa, mabwenzi ali pafupi ndi maso, miyendo ya mkazi imafalikira kuti chiwerengero cha munthu chikhale chachikulu. Pachifukwa ichi, n'zosatheka kulowa mkati mwa mnzanuyo, koma kukhudzana ndi maso, malingaliro ndi zosangalatsa zimapangitsa kuti izigwiritsidwe ntchito monga gawo la kugonana.
Amuna akuluakulu amodzi ndi awa :
- Utumiki waumishonale wamakono , womwe ungakhale wosiyana, monga okondedwa. Pachikhalidwe ichi, mwamunayo amalamulira kwathunthu mkaziyo, zomwe zimangowonjezera zokhudzana ndi thupi, koma zakuthupi.
- Kukhazikika kwapambuyo , komwe kumakhala ndi kusiyana kwakukulu ndi mawondo ogwada kapena miyendo yolunjika, yolunjika kapena yokhotakhota kumbuyo, kumamulola munthuyo kumverera bwino kulamulira kwa thupi la mkaziyo.
Malo okhala ndi vuto lakuya la mbolo :
- Mzere wa "Lotus" . Mmene munthu amakhala pamalo otchulidwa ndi lotus kapena, ali ndi chikhomo chotchedwa Turkish, ndipo mkazi yemwe ali ndi chiuno chotseguka chimaphimba miyendo yake ndi chifuwa chake, akugwedeza ndi kugwedeza pang'ono kumbuyo kwake. Pachikhalidwe ichi, munthu amatha kuyendetsa kayendetsedwe kake, kenaka akulowera mpaka pachifuwa, ndikumukakamiza kumangoyenda.
- Sungani "Oyisitara" . Pachikhalidwe ichi, munthu akhoza kulowa mkati mwakuya monga momwe zingathekere kwa mkazi, komanso, kupindula kwa malo amenewa kumakhalanso kosavuta kuchoka ku malo amishonale.
Kodi ndi chiyani chomwe chimakonda kwambiri amuna - funso lokha, koma mutapeza yankho lake ndikupitiriza kuyesa kugonana, yesetsani kuganizira zatsopano ndipo musaiwale za masewera achiwerewere, mkazi aliyense akhoza kutsimikiza kuti wokondedwa wake safuna kufunafuna zosangalatsa kumbali .