Pakati pa zochitika zoyamba za kugonana kumeneko nthawi zambiri mumakhala mphekesera zambiri ndi kusamvetsetsana, ambiri amayembekezera kuti iye ali ndi zochitika zapadera, koma anthu owerengeka amaopa kuti nthawi yoyamba kugonana zonse zidzalakwika. Zowonjezereka ziri zoyenera - kusagonjetsa koyambirira kwa kugonana kwa mnyamata kapena mtsikana kungachititse kulephera kotere mu moyo wapamtima. Tiyeni tione momwe tingapewere vuto lotero.
Chibwenzi choyamba cha mtsikana
Kawirikawiri, atsikana amatha kukhala namwali osati chifukwa cha chilakolako chenichenicho, koma mwachidziwitso cha zovuta kapena zovuta za wokondedwa wawo. Musachite izi chifukwa mtsikanayo ayenera kukhala wokonzeka kuchitapo kanthu. Pa mfundo yotsiriza, zaka zabwino zogonana ndizoyamba zaka 17-18. Ndipo si zokhudzana ndi chinyengo kapena zosawerengeka, zaka izi zimatchulidwa chifukwa ndi pamene thupi la mtsikanayo latha. Kuyankhulana koyambirira kwadzaza ndi matenda ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana.
Kukonzekera maganizo kumayenera kuti pakhale malingaliro abwino pa nkhani yokhudza kugonana, popeza kuti pokhapokha ngati simunaphunzirepo , zotsatira zina zoipa zingapangidwe-mantha a moyo wapamtima, vaginismus , chiwombankhanga. Komanso, mkhalidwe wabwino wa mtsikanayo umathandiza kupeĊµa kupweteka (kapena kuwachepetsera) panthawi ya kutha kwa anthu. Choncho, nkofunika kuti wokondedwayo amvetsetse ndikuchita zinthu mosasamala, ndipo zinthuzo zinali zodziwika bwino. Ena amagwiritsa ntchito "ntchito" za mowa kuti azisangalala, ndizotheka kutero, koma ngati ndizochepa, palibe galasi la vinyo, mwinamwake zotsatira zake zidzakhala zosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe zimafunikira. Komanso, kuchepetsa ululu kumathandizidwa ndi kusankha kwabwino, chifukwa choyamba kugonana, malo kumbuyo, ndi chotopa kapena bokosi lopangidwa pansi pa sacrum, ndilobwino.
Mfundo ina yofunika kwambiri ndi nkhani ya mimba yosafunika. Pa chifukwa china, pakati pa atsikana aang'ono pali nthano yakuti "kwa nthawi yoyamba palibe chomwe chidzachitike," chomwe chiri chopanda maziko. Choncho, sikoyenera kuiwala za kulera, kupatula kuti zidzatetezanso ku matenda opatsirana.
Chibwenzi choyamba cha mnyamata
Zimavomerezedwa kuti kugonana koyamba ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa moyo wa mtsikana, koma kuti chochitika ichi ndi chosangalatsa kwambiri kwa mnyamata, aliyense amaiwalika. Pafupifupi munthu aliyense m'malingaliro osamvetsetsa amakhala ndi lingaliro lakuti sayenera kukhala "pamwamba", kotero kukhala bwinoko kuposa amuna ena omwe mtsikanayo anali nawo. Poganizira kwambiri za vutoli, anyamata ena amasangalala komanso sangathe kukwaniritsa cholinga chawo. Ngati izi zikubwerezedwa, matenda oyembekezera kugonana angayambe, omwe ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo okha amene angathe kupirira. Choncho, muyenera kuganizira mozama za kuthekera, ndipo msungwanayo ayenera kusamala, chifukwa kusamala mosamalitsa kungawonjezere kwambiri
Kawirikawiri chifukwa cha kuwonjezereka, kutsekemera kumapezeka msinkhu kuposa momwe mnyamata angakhalire ndi nthawi yoika mbolo. Mu ichi, inunso, palibe chachilendo, kukhudzana kwenikweni kungachitike kutali kwambiri ndi nthawi yoyamba. Ngati palibe chomwe chikugwira ntchito, ndiye kuti mukhale chete, mutembenuzire ku chinthu chinanso, kenaka ndikutembenuka kwa msungwana kuti muthandizidwe.
Kuti mnyamata yemwe msungwanayo sakusowa kutsimikizira kuti nthawi yoyamba idzakhala yosangalatsa kwenikweni, ambiri amayamba kusangalala ndi chigawo chachiwiri kapena chachitatu. Palibe chinthu chachilendo mu ubongo, koma ubongo sudziwa momwe ungachitire zomwe zikuchitika.