Mwachikhalidwe, gulu lililonse limaphatikizapo malingaliro atatu ogonana - homo, hetero ndi bi. Sikuti aliyense amamvetsetsa zomwe zimayendera, chifukwa chakuti nzika zambiri zimakhala ndi chizoloŵezi chomanga ubale ndi abambo omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso ndi iwo okha. Ndipotu, ana amaphunzira ndi kuphunzira dziko pa chitsanzo cha makolo awo ndipo aliyense wa ife anali ndi amayi ndi abambo. Kwenikweni, nthawi zambiri, kubadwa kwa mwana kumachitika m'mabanja achikhalidwe.
Njira ya sayansi
Ndiyenera kunena kuti sikuti aliyense amakhala ndi mfundo ndi maziko omwe amawoneka kuti ndi abwino komanso achikhalidwe, ndipo izi zimapezekanso kuchokera ku sayansi. Maganizo anasonyezedwa kuti munthu ali ndi asexual birth born. Ndipo pokonzekera maphunziro ndi umunthu, iye mwiniyo amapanga chisankho chokhudza kugonana kwake. Kaya zili choncho kapena ayi, sichidziwika bwino, njira yofala kwambiri padziko lapansi ndi hetero, zomwe zikutanthawuza kugonana, komanso bi, monga homo, palibe vutoli. Ngakhale kuti zogwirizana ndi sayansi zokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa anthu ndi zinyama zimadalira sizipezeka, umunthu sungasangalale ndi zina zochepa zogonana zomwe sizikukondedwa.
Ndipo monga zinaliri poyamba?
Zing'onozing'ono ndizozigonana, zomwe zimakopeka ndi oimira amuna ndi akazi okhaokha komanso amuna kapena akazi okhaokha - anthu omwe amakopeka ndi kugonana kwawo. Funso la kugonana limatentha anthu kwa zaka zoposa chikwi. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa moyo wa munthu. Ena, osati anthu onse, anali okwanira nthawi zonse. Kale ku Girisi, panali ambiri otero, ndi oimira akuluakulu apamwamba, omwe anali ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma pang'onopang'ono. Mwamuna wamwamuna amatanthauza kuti akhoza kukhala ndi mkazi wokondedwa ndi ana, koma ali ndi zibwenzi ndi amuna ndi akazi ena.
M'madera a nthawi imeneyo anthu amavomerezedwa ndipo sanayambe kutsutsa. Icho chinali chochitika chaumwini cha munthu aliyense ndi yekha kusankha kwake. Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pakati pa asilikali sikunali chinthu chodabwitsa. Chilengedwe chomwecho, chomwe kukhalapo kwa amayi sichinatanthauzidwe, kumakakamiza amuna kuti azidziona ngati ogonana nawo. Inde, ndipo maganizo kwa akaidi m'masiku amenewo sanali osiyana kwambiri ndi umunthu, chifukwa chakuti asilikali ogonjetsedwawo adakakamizidwa kuti azikhala nawo limodzi pankhondo. Tsopano zikuwonekeratu kuti kumatanthauza kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso mmene mungachitire.
Zili bwanji tsopano?
M'zaka za zana la 21, ochepa ochepawo anayamba kulekerera zambiri chifukwa anthu anakhala omasuka m'mbali zambiri za moyo. Koma ngakhale lero, m'mayiko ena, chilango cha imfa chikuwoneratu kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ena amatanthauzira kuwonetsera kwa malingalirowa mochuluka kwambiri "mwaumunthu" ndipo amatsutsa "olakwa" pokhapokha kulangidwa kwachinyengo. Koma mulimonsemo, padziko lonse, ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso nthumwi za anthu ena ochepa adatha kudzidziwitsa okha ndikulowa m'boma la boma, kuchokera kwa akuluakulu omwe akufunika kupeza ufulu womwewo
Mtsikana wina amatanthauza kuti akhoza kukhala ndi mwamuna wokhazikika, komabe ali ndi chiyanjano ndi amayi komanso mosiyana. Ndipo palibe yemwe adzamuimba mlandu pa izo, ndi moyo wake ndi kusankha kwake. M'mayiko a Chisilavo nkhaniyi siyikufotokozedwa momveka bwino, koma imadziwikanso, koma sizimakonda kulankhula. M'mayiko akumadzulo, otchedwa "masewera achiwerewere" amachitika nthawi zonse. Amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amapanga maulendo okwanira komanso amayenda mumisewu ya mizinda yawo yowala, komanso zovala zochepa, motero amayesetsa kukopa chidwi chawo paokha komanso chifukwa cha kuphwanya ufulu wawo.