Masiku ano, banja limakhala losangalala. Izi zikhoza kuweruzidwa pokhazikitsidwa ndi ziwerengero zokha zothetsera banja, zomwe zimanena kuti kuyambira 60 mpaka 80 peresenti ya maukwati onse amatha kusokonezeka. Ndicho chifukwa chake tiyenera kulingalira za momwe tingakondweretse ukwati, kuyambira pachiyambi, kuti tikhalebe pa ubwenzi wabwino.
Kodi pali mabanja okondwa?
Yankho la funso ili ndi losavomerezeka - inde, ndipo maziko a banja losangalala ndi omveka bwino komanso omveka kwa aliyense, panthawi yomwe anthu amasiya kuwona kuti ndi koyenera kuwatsatira.
Kwenikweni, psychology ya banja losangalala ndi ofanana ndi psychology ya maubwenzi achimwemwe: kulemekeza, kumvetsetsa, kuthandizana ndi zosiyana ndizofunikira, chifukwa chakuti chirichonse chimasangalatsa, komanso kuti "kukumba zofooka" kumayambira, palimodzi, kotero , pemphani zofunikira.
Zinsinsi za Banja Losangalala
Njira yopita ku banja losangalala imakhala mwa kuzindikira kwa zolakwa zanu. Pambuyo pake, ngati poyamba chirichonse chinali "choipa," simungakwatire munthu uyu. Choncho, ngati tibwerera ku chiyambi, tikhoza kubwerera ku chiyanjano chochuluka chomwe chaiwalika kale, koma nthawi zonse nthawizonse zakusangalatsani.
- Lamulo loyamba la banja losangalala ndi kulemekeza! Musalankhule zoipa za zomwe zili zofunika kwa mnzanu. Musalumbire pagulu. Musadzitchule nokha mawu achipongwe ndi mawu achipongwe. LIMBEKEZANI mnzanuyo mulimonse mawu ake.
- Ziwerengero za mabanja okondwa amasonyeza kuti anthu omwe ali ndi zofanana kapena ntchito yamba amakhala okhutira kwambiri ndi banja lawo kuposa ena onse. Ntchito yanu ndiyipeza. Maphunziro a masewera? Kuchita masewera? Mphamvu yamagetsi? Kuyenda madzulo? Zolengedwa zogwirizana? Muyenera kukhala ndi chifukwa chimodzi, chomwe chimakupatsani chisangalalo chochuluka.
- Kuseka kumawoneka mumabanja okondwa basi. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi mokondwera: onerani mafilimu, pokambirana muzikumbukira nthabwala ndi milandu yowonongeka, kulankhulana ngati anzanu. Ngati zokambirana zanu zokhudzana ndi moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku - zichotseni, yambani kukambirana za zikhalidwe ndi zofuna.
- Kuyankhulana kovuta. Yesetsani kugwirana nthawi zonse. Koperani musanatuluke komanso pamene mukubwerera, mukumbatirana mukamaonera TV. Izi ndi zovuta zomwe zimabweretsa pamodzi.
- Pewani mikangano yambiri. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuchita zonse mwa theka. Pezani njira yodzikongoletsa yosavuta - musagwedezeke mu sabata, ndipo khalani pansi ndikukambirana momasuka momwe mungatulukemo mkhalidwe uno, pezani kuyanjana.
Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti banja lachiwiri losangalala limakhala lopambana kuposa poyamba, koma izi zimagwirizana ndi mgwirizanowu umene unatsirizidwa ndi unyamata, kupusa kapena kutenga mimba - ndiko kuti, popanda kuyambanso kugwirizana ndi makhalidwe ena ofunikira.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale osangalala m'banja?
Ngati muwona kuti ukwatiwo sukugwirizana ndi inu, ndizotheka kuti mumakhala ndi maganizo anu, osati mavuto ena. Yambani ndi kusanthula, kutenga pepala ndi pensulo:
- Nchiyani chomwe sichikugwirizana ndi inu muukwati?
- Mungasinthe bwanji izi?
- Ndizitenga nthawi yayitali bwanji nthawi ino?
Mwachitsanzo, simukukonda kuti mwamuna amakhala patsogolo pa TV kapena kompyuta tsiku lonse. Kuti muthe kusintha izi ndikumukopa pa nthawi yogwirizana, muyenera kumupatsa njira yosangalatsa: kuyang'ana kanema, kuyenda, kupita kumaseĊµero kapena filimu, kupita kuphwando, ndi zina. Nthawi ya izi sizingafunikire, ndipo ikhoza kugwiritsidwa ntchito pafupifupi usiku uliwonse, pamene pali chikhumbo choterocho. Vuto limathetsedwa. Mofananamo, mutha kuthetsa mavuto ambiri muukwati, omwe amatha kuthetsa mavuto.