Mayi aliyense amafuna kukhala wofunikira kwa mwamuna wake, choncho funso la momwe tingasangalatse mwamuna pabedi limatenga malo ambiri m'mitu yathu. Pambuyo pa zonse, kumvetsa zomwe munthu amafunikira pabedi ndi zomwe akuyembekezera, o, zosavuta. Kotero tiyeni titulutse izi!
Amakonda chiyani?
- Kodi mumakonda bwanji munthu ali pabedi? Pezani chomwe chimamukondweretsa iye. Funsani mnzanuyo za ntchito zanu zomwe zimamupatsa chisangalalo chachikulu. Zilakolako za amuna pabedi sizimangoganiza zazing'ono, ndipo ambiri a iwo amafuna chidwi chenicheni kwa munthu wawo. Amayi amasiku ano pazifukwa zina amaganiza kuti sikoyenera kusamalira zowawa za munthu, ndipo amangoganizira zokhazokha. Yesetsani kulingalira kawiri ngati mnzanuyo akusangalala ndi zomwe mukuchita, kapena sakumverera. Kukhutira kumakhala kokondweretsa kwambiri kuposa kugwiritsira ntchito bwenzi lanu monga chiyeso chogonana.
- Kodi amuna amafunanji pa kama? Mwachiwonekere, iwo amafuna kusangalala, koma mkazi ayenera kuthandizira izi. Musamadalire pa chifuniro cha mnzanu, nthawi zina ndi bwino kutenga zipsinjo mu manja anu ofatsa. Munthu wokondwera adzakupatsani ufulu umenewu ndipo adzakondwera, chifukwa chochita ichi mumasonyeza kuti mukufuna kugonana monga momwe amachitira. Khalani omasuka kusonyeza chilakolako chanu ndi chilakolako, ndi kuyesa kuyesa.
- Kodi mwamuna amakonda kugona? Mayi wabwino ayenera kukhala wachikondi komanso wogwira ntchito, komanso wofatsa. Kodi mumakonda kumpsompsonana ndi mawu ofatsa? Ndipo nchifukwa ninji mukuganiza kuti munthu wanu alibe chidwi ndi malingaliro otere? Sadzakumbukira konse ngati mutatenga nthawi yambiri yopsompsonana, ndipo simukuyenera kudziletsa nokha ndi nkhope yanu - pali malo ambiri osokonezeka pa thupi lanu lachimuna. Ndipo ndithudi, mumuuze momwe iye aliri wodabwitsa, ndi momwe iwe uliri wabwino naye. Musaiwale kuti mum'yamikize munthu yemwe ali pabedi. Yesani, mawu achikondi alidi okhoza kuchita zozizwitsa.
- Amuna amakonda chiyani pabedi? Amakonda akazi, ndipo amafuna kuti adzikonda okha. Tsopano sikutanthauza kudzikakamiza pamaso pa wokondedwa, ngakhale palibe wina ayesa kukuyesa iwe. Icho chimatanthauza chikondi cha iwekha, cha thupi lako lomwe. Chabwino, mungamve bwanji munthu ali pabedi, ngati mutu wake umayendayenda mobwerezabwereza monga "ah, ndiri ndi chifuwa chaching'ono, tsopano adzawona ndikukhumudwitsidwa" kapena "vuto lalikulu, ndili ndi mimba yoopsa, ndikufunika kubisala kuti asaone." Akazi inu, dzivomerezeni nokha monga momwe mulili, onetsetsani za kugonana kwanu, ndipo mwamuna wanu adzakhulupirira ndipo palibe ma blondes omwe sangakhale nawo. Kugonana sikuoneka, koma pamutu - zomwe mumaganiza nokha, ndiwe.
- Kodi mumakonda bwanji munthu ali pabedi? Kodi mukukumbukira zomwe amuna amakonda ndi maso awo? Ndiye vuto ndi chiyani? Valani zovala zapamwamba, nsapato zazitali, etc. Mwa njirayi, amuna ambiri amanena kuti amakonda ngati pali zovala zotsalira zomwe zimasiyidwa ndi dona, mwachitsanzo, nsalu, zochepa, zopukutira, zovala, koma osati zovala.
Kodi anthu amaopa chiyani pa kama?
Mutha kudabwa, koma chiwerengero cha mantha a pogona a amuna athu a alpha ndi aakulu kwambiri. Kuchokera ku mantha poyerekezera ulemu wawo ndi luso lawo ndi okonda apamtima kuopa kukhala msungwana woyamba. Zina mwa zomwe zimawopa kwambiri ndizinso:
- osalola kugonana, palibe chisangalalo;
- Kuwonjezera apo ndi zotsatira zake, kutsirizitsa mofulumira kwa zokondweretsa;
- chiwonetsero cha kapangidwe ka mnzake;
- kuopsya kwa kudzipereka, makamaka pamene mkazi ayamba kulengeza ufulu kwa mwamuna ndi gawo lake pambuyo pa usiku woyamba;
- mantha a mimba yosakonzekera;
- mantha a kukanidwa;
- kuwopa kuti asakumane ndi malingaliro a mkazi (miyezo iliyonse) ndi zina zotero.
Omwewo ndiwo amuna omwe ali osatetezeka ndipo nthawi zina osasamala. Ndi bwino kukumbukira izi ndikuyesera kuchotsa mnzanuyo mantha. Chabwino, nchifukwa ninji mukusowa mnyamata akubisala pa ngodya ya bedi?