Mbuye wa mwamuna wanga - choti ndichite chiyani?

"Ndikugwira ntchito yolenga banja, ndimagwira ntchito, ndipo mwamuna wanga adadzitengera yekha mbuye!", Poyankhula motere kuti achite chiyani pambuyo pake, nthawi zambiri akazi onyenga sakudziwa ngati amataya mwamuna wake kapena kuti awononge nkhope ya mbuye wake. Kuti tipewe mafunso ngati amenewa, tiyeni tigwiritse ntchito limodzi ngati mwamuna ali ndi mbuye komanso momwe angachitire.

Momwe mungamenyere mwamuna kuchokera kwa mayi - komanso ngati n'kofunikira?

Kawirikawiri, kudandaula kuti "mwamuna wanga ali ndi mbuye, choti achite" amayankhidwa mwa kalembedwe, mkazi mwiniwake ndiye amene amamuimba mlandu, atakwatirana, amasiya kumutsatira, koma nthawi zambiri mutu wake umayamba kumuzunza. Mitsempha ya mwamuna wake inatembenuzidwira, ndipo iye adadzipezera yekha ambuye. Cholangizidwa kuti chichite pa nkhaniyi kwa mkazi wokhumudwitsidwa ndikumveka - kumuchiritsa migraine, kubwerera kwa iye "mawonekedwe asanakwatirane" ndikumbukira kuti pali zovala zabwino kuposa mkanjo wakale.

Ngati muli ndi chinachake chokonzekera, ndiye kuti muyenera kuchigwira. Koma choyenera kuchita ngati chirichonse chiri chabwino, ndikuwoneka bwino, "zifukwa" zogonana zimadziwika ndi iwe ngati wopulumuka, ndipo mwamunayo akuyenda "akuchoka"? Momwe mungalekanitsire mwamuna kwa ambuye pankhaniyi? Kodi mukutsimikiza kuti ndizofunika? Ndi chinthu chimodzi ngati mutadalira mwamuna wanu, tiyeni tinene, zakuthupi, ndi kuchoka kwake zikhale zovuta kwa inu - mwana mmodzi sangatenge. Ndiye, ndithudi, mungayambe kusokoneza (kutseka maso anu kwa mbuye wanu, mumulole iye achite zomwe akufuna, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti sasiya banja) kapena kuganiza momwe angasinthire mwamuna wake kwa mbuye wake. Koma ngati mumadalira ndalama pa "blagovernoy" simudalira kwenikweni, ndiye kuti mwina simuyenera kudzipweteka nokha? Zikuwoneka kuti amuna ambiri nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zovuta kumbali, koma mukufuna wina yemwe samayesa kubisa izi? Ndipo musaganize kuti adzakwaniritsa zochitika zina zoterezi, amuna ochokera ku "walkers" kawirikawiri amachita zinthu mofananamo, malinga ngati matenda alola.

Momwe mungasiyane mwamuna ndi mbuye wake?

Zizindikiro zonse za kukhala ndi ambuye ndi mwamuna wake zatsimikiziridwa, koma mukufunadi kusunga banja lanu. Momwe mungapulumutsire mwamuna wanu kwa mbuye wanu pankhaniyi, muyenera kuchita chiyani?

1. Ngati mumadziwana ndi mbuye wa mwamuna wake, mwachitsanzo, mnzanu ndi wanu wakale, ndiye mutha kugwiritsa ntchito zonse zomwe mumamudziwa. Kulankhulana mwamunayo kwa mwamuna wake za "adventures" zomwe zimathera ndi chipatala kapena kukambirana kwa amayi (izi sizidziwikiratu zomwe zili zoyipitsa mwamuna - kukatenga chigombo kapena kutenga mwana kuchokera kwa mayi). Tiwuzeni kuti iye ali pa nkhani ya narcologist (wodwalayo), inde, inu munali abwenzi, kotero zinali zomvetsa chisoni. Kumbukirani zinsinsi zonse zomwe adakugawanizani, ndikumuwonetseratu poyera - mfundo zopanda pake, zomwe zanenedwa bwino, zingathe kunyengerera aliyense.
2. Tangoganizani kuti simukudziwana ndi mbuye wa mwamuna wanu, mumatani mukamakangana nawo? Dziwani kuti razluchnitsy ndi ndani ndipo mumamuuza kuti simukuyenera kutero. Chabwino, kodi mungauze mbuye wa mwamuna wake, zotsatira zake zidzakhala zotani? Ntchito yabwino kwa olakwa kwambiri, zokhazokha zokha sizikusowa, ngakhale sakudziwa kuti mumadziwa za zofuna zake. Yesetsani kupanga zochitika zomwe nthawi zambiri amafunika kuyendera ndi banja lake - mwachitsanzo, chifukwa cha ntchito yolimbika (nthawi zambiri kuposa nthawi zambiri), simungatenge ana kusukulu (sukulu). Ndipo mungathe kukopa mwamuna wake kuti apite tchuthi pamodzi, nthawi zina gawo laling'ono ndilokwanira kuiwala za mbuye wake, makamaka ngati misonkhano yawo sinayambe kale. Kawirikawiri amuna amayamba okonda, akukhulupirira kuti mkazi wawo wawadyetsa kale, ndipo sangapite kulikonse. Mutsutseni chidaliro ichi, msiyeni iye akhale ndi nsanje.
3. Ngati mumaganiza zokambirana ndi mwamuna wanu za mapulogalamu ake "akumanzere", chitani phindu pandekha. Simukusowa misonzi ndi amatsenga, simungathe kuwathandiza. Afuna kuti alankhule, amulankhulane, ndipo mumamvetsera mwatcheru ndikuganizapo, kusiyana ndi zomwe zakopeka mnzanuyo.
4. Kawirikawiri ndimafuna kukonza "madandaulo", koma musachite izi. Ngati simungathe kupirira, yesetsani kulembera mbuye wa mwamuna zonse zomwe mukuganiza. Pambuyo kulemba, pwerezani, ndi kuwotcha tsamba (fayilo) (chotsani). Simukusowa kutumiza makalata oterowo, mudzakwaniritsa chofunikira ichi cha kukambirana ndi mbuye wanu, ndipo mudzapeza kuti kosavuta kumvetsetsa nokha.