Nchifukwa chiyani munthu ayenera kudzikuza yekha ndi kudzipangira yekha, chifukwa anthu ambiri amakhala popanda izo? Koma anthu otero, monga lamulo, ali ndi mavuto ambiri m'moyo kusiyana ndi omwe akufuna kukhala odzikweza. Kudzikonda ndi njira yopita ku moyo wosangalatsa ndi wolemera, kuti mukwaniritse maloto anu. Ndi ntchito yopweteka kwambiri payekha, munthu amaika zolinga ndi ntchito zake, kupeza nzeru zatsopano ndi luso kuti akwaniritse maloto. Amadziŵa bwino lomwe ndi zomwe akufuna komanso mopanda mantha amapita. Ngati simunali munthu wodalirika, nthawi zonse mumapunthwa pa njira ya moyo, osakhala ndi zosangalatsa ndi chimwemwe kuchokera ku moyo, ndiye kuti mukufunikira kuyamba kudzikuza ndi kudzipangira nokha.
Chilimbikitso cha kudzikonza nokha ndi chophweka - anthu omwe amadzikonda okha sakhala odwala, chifukwa mgwirizano mumtima umabweretsa chiyanjano m'thupi. Anthu oterowo nthawi zambiri amapambana m'moyo, amakhala ndi banja losangalala komanso ntchito yabwino. Iyi ndi njira yopambana ndi chitukuko.
Kodi tingachite chiyani kuti tipangidwe?
Kudzipindulitsa kwa munthu kumadutsa, monga lamulo, m'moyo wonse, mosamala ndi nthawi zonse, zomwe zimapanga makhalidwe atsopano. Ndikofunika kuti tisaiwale zauzimu ndi zakuthupi. Pambuyo pake, ambiri masiku ano amakhulupirira kuti sikuli koyenera kupatula nthawi, zomwe ziribe phindu. M'malo mwake, kukula mwauzimu kumakhala kofunika kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, makolo athu akale analemba m'ziphunzitso zawo kuti kukula kwauzimu ndi mgwirizano ndi mgwirizano wa umunthu, maganizo ndi mzimu. Anthu oterewa sali okwiya, odekha komanso oyenera. Komanso, chidwi chiyenera kulipidwa ku kukula kwa thupi, chifukwa mu thupi labwino - malingaliro abwino. Anthu amayamba kuyesedwa mu maonekedwe, koma atangotha malingaliro. Thupi ndilo kachisi wathu, kotero tiyenera kusamalira ndi kuteteza chiwonongeko chake.
Njira za kudzikonda
Iwo ali makamaka pa ntchito pawokha. Werengani zambiri, kuyankhulana ndi anthu osiyanasiyana, kudzidziwa nokha, phunzirani kukonda ndi kuyamikira ena. Ndiyenela kuwonetsa maganizo odzidzimutsa okha. Tili kumenyana nthawi zambiri "I", nthawi zambiri timanena kuti akufuna kukhala wakuti-ndi-wakuti ... koma kwenikweni? Cholinga, ndi ludzu la moyo, wogwira ntchito, wokondana. Kuphatikiza ndi kudzikonda ndiko kudzikonda. Kudzikonda - pamene munthu akudzipangira yekha makhalidwe omwe iye mwini akufuna. Izi ndizochita mwachangu, zolinga, kuti zikwaniritse zotsatira. Aliyense amafuna kukhala wangwiro, m'maso mwawo, pamaso pa anthu ozungulira. Nthawi zina izi ndi vuto la kudzikonda. Popeza aliyense samasangalatsa aliyense, aliyense ali ndi zoyenera zake.
Kotero, ine ndikufuna kutchula njira zina zowonjezera kudzipindula bwino:
- Kusagona pang'ono. Pambuyo pake, munthu amafunikira maola 8. Yesani ola mofulumira ndipo, motero, mudzakhala ndi nthawi yambiri yopanga ndondomeko.
- Chitani zinthu zofunika poyamba. Fufuzani ngati mwagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu moyenera. Kusamalira nthawi kumatanthauza kusamalira moyo.
- Pezani kudzozedwa. Sungani kabuku pafupi ndi dzanja lanu kumene mungathe kulemba malingaliro omwe amabwera kwa inu masana.
- Kulankhulana pafoni molimba mtima ndi mwachangu. Onetsani ulemu kwa woyitana.
- Kumbukirani cholinga, osati zotsatira. Chitani ntchito imene mumakonda, osati kuti muzindikire.
- Tseka m'mawa. Yesetsani kudzimva, imani thupi lanu.
Choncho, zigawo zikuluzikulu za kudzikonda komanso kudzikuza ndizo: chilango ndi nthawi zonse, maloto, cholinga ndi kupindula, mphamvu ya chimwemwe, malingaliro, thupi ndi moyo, kudzoza, chidwi kwa okondedwa ndi ena. Kupitilira kuchokera pamwambapa, timamvetsetsa kuti nthawi iliyonse ya moyo wa munthu, kumangotenga umunthu ndi kudzipindulitsa ndicho ntchito yaikulu yodziwonetsera nokha m'dziko lino lapansi.