Mutu wa kugonana wakhala wakhala, ndipo mwinamwake udzakhalapo nthawizonse, wokambirana kwambiri, ndipo palibe chachilendo pa izo - njirayi ndi yopweteka kwambiri. Sichikuwonekera kokha chilakolako cha anthu (makamaka amayiwa ndi osiyana) onse amaika pa masamulo ndi kukhazikitsa miyezo ya aliyense pa nthawi ya masewera achiwerewere. Funso losavuta kwambiri ndi lakuti: "Kutenga nthawi yaitali bwanji kuti agone ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi"? Ndipo zovuta zokhudzana ndi nkhaniyi ndizosatheka kuti munthu akhale ndi makhalidwe aliwonse, popeza kuti kugonana kumangoyang'ana zofuna za thupi sikulakwa, popeza kupambana kwa ntchitoyi ndi phindu lake kumadalira zinthu zambiri. Koma ngati mutakhudza kokha nkhaniyo, ndiye kuti mufunika kugonana, mwinamwake, kumangokhalira kugonana molimbika.
Kodi muyenera kugonana ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi zingati?
Si chinsinsi chakuti nthawi zambiri kugonana kumadalira mahomoni ogonana, omwe ndi osiyana kwa munthu aliyense. Chikoka chachikulu pachizindikiro ichi ndi malo okhala. Zakhala zikudziwika kuti anthu akummwera ali okwiya kwambiri kuposa anthu omwe amadziwa zonse zomwe "zokondweretsa" zachisanu. Ndipo, ndithudi, zaka sizingasamalidwe kaya - wamkulu munthuyo, mahomoni osakanikirana omwe thupi limapanga, ndipo munthu wochepetsetsa kwambiri ndi munthu. Ndi chinthu chotsiriza chotsogoleredwa ndi anthu ogonana, poyankha funso la nthawi yomwe mumayenera kugonana. Nazi malangizo omwe amapereka kwa onse ofuna kudziwa:
- 20-25 zaka - kanayi pa sabata;
- Zaka 25-30 - katatu pa sabata;
- Zaka 30-40 - 2 pa sabata;
- patatha zaka 45 - kamodzi pa sabata.
Zindikirani kuti miyezo imeneyi ndi yofunika kwambiri kwa chiwerengero cha amuna, koma izi ndi chifukwa chakuti posachedwapa palibe amene anaganiza kuti mtsikanayo amafunika kugonana kangati. Zinali zogwirizana ndi lingaliro lakuti anthu amatha kukhala ndi thanzi labwino nthawi zonse, ndipo akazi amawoneka kuti amatha kusamalira popanda izo kwa zaka popanda kuwononga thanzi lawo. Koma posachedwa, mobwerezabwereza, nthawi zambiri amalankhula za kugwirizana kwa matenda a chikhalidwe cha akazi ndi kugonana kosagwirizana . Choncho kugonana ndi koyenera kwa onse ogonana, koma ndi kangati zomwe ziyenera kuchitika zimadalira chikhumbo chanu, osati pa ziwerengero.