Ndani sanamve mawu akuti "Mkazi ayenera kudzikonda"? Koma ndicho chimene chiri kwenikweni, anthu ochepa okha amadziwa. Anthu ena samvetsetsa chifukwa chake amadzikondera enieni, powalingalira kukhala chisonyezero cha kudzikonda ndi kusudzula.
Kodi ndiyenera kudzikonda ndekha?
Ndi funso lotani, ndithudi, lofunika! Amayi ambiri samakhala osangalala chifukwa sakudziwa kuti adzikonda okha. Ndipo ndani amene angakonde, ngati sichoncho? Mwamuna wokondedwa, mayi, bambo, ana, chisoni, ali ndi moyo wawo ndipo pali nthawi yomwe sali kwa ife. Koma umunthu wathu ndi thupi lathu zili ndi ife kuyambira pa kubadwa mpaka imfa, ndipo palibe malo oti tipewe. Ndipo ndani amene ali woyenera kukonda - "wokwera kwakanthawi" kapena "wokhalapo kosatha"? Yankho lake ndi lodziwika - muyenera kudzikonda nokha.
Kodi kudzikonda nokha kumatanthauza chiyani?
Monga tanena kale, ambiri amadzisokoneza chikondi ndi kudzikuza, koma izi siziri choncho. Kodi mawu akuti "kudzikonda" amatanthauzanji?
- Izi sizikutanthauza kudzikuza komanso kudzikuza pamwamba pa ena. Kudzikonda nokha ndiko kudziwa kuti simuli woipitsitsa kuposa ena, kuti mutha kukwanitsa zonse zomwe olemba bwino ntchito yanu achita bwino.
- Kudzikonda nokha ndiko kuvomereza thupi lanu momwemo. Yesetsani kuyesetsa kwambiri siletsedwa, koma pakali pano ndi bwino kumvetsetsa kuti mimba yanu yofewa ndi yokometsetsa ndi yokongola. Maonekedwe azimayi kapena chiwonetsero chazing'ono - sizingakhale zofunikira, kukongola kokongola m'makona a maso anu, mukumwetulira, mu moyo wanu. Iwe ndiwe wokongola, undikhulupirire ine, potsiriza, kulowa mmenemo!
- Kudzikonda ndekha ndiko kulingalira mozama za luso lako. Muyenera kumvetsa zomwe mungathe, ndi zomwe simungathe kuchita. Sitingathe kukhala ndi luso m'madera onse - wina amakonda kukambirana komanso kugulitsa momwe angagulitsire mankhwala, wina amadziwa nthabwala zambiri ndipo amadziwa momwe angakhulupirire wina aliyense, ndipo musadyetse wina aliyense ndi mkate, mungopatsa nyimbo. Ndipo onse atapereka, ndipo atatha kumvetsera, atakhala ndi mpweya. Tsegulani talente yanu, sangalalani zomwe mukuchita, ndipo musayese kugonjetsa mapiri omwe ali kutali kwambiri ndi inu.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kudzikonda nokha?
Popeza tinasankha kuti timadzikonda tokha, tiyenera kumvetsetsa momwe tingayambire.
- Ziribe kanthu momwe mumayesera mozama, simungathe kudzikakamiza kuti muwakonde. Pali njira ziwiri - kaya mumaphunzira kudzilandira nokha, kapena kuyamba mwamsanga kugwira ntchito molimbika pa zofooka zonse.
- Ngati simungathe kupirira zovuta zanu maonekedwe kapena khalidwe, ndiye izi zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chosowa chikondi. Mukuyesera kudziponyera nokha phokoso lopanda kanthu kapena kukhala ndi mapiko amphongo, potsatsa malonda, osadziwa kuti nkofunika (osati koyenera) kwa inu. Kodi mungayambe bwanji kudzikonda nokha? Pitani ku galasi lalikulu patsikulo, pamene palibe amene akukusokonezani, ndipo muziyamikira moona mtima mbali iliyonse ya thupi lanu. Yesetsani kupeza makhalidwe abwino mu maonekedwe anu ndi khalidwe lanu. Muyenera kumenyana ndi kukonza kwa nthawi zina za umunthu wanu pokhapokha ngati mukufuna, osati mafashoni kapena chibwenzi chatsopano.
- Mungayambe bwanji kukonda ndi kudzilemekeza nokha, ngati simusintha kudzidalira kwanu? Kaŵirikaŵiri timauzidwa kuti sitili abwino kuposa ena. Mwina izi ndi zoona, koma sitili oipitsitsa. Ambiri a ife sitingathe kutsegula matalente awo chifukwa chosowa kudzidalira. Pamene tidzidalira tokha, tikhoza kuchita zambiri, komabe tikhoza kupereka chikondi chathu kwa ena. Munthu yekha amene amadzikonda yekha amatha kugawana ndi ena. Yemwe alibe chikondi ngakhale payekha sangathe kukonda aliyense - sakudziwa kuti chikondi ndi chiyani.
- Kuti mukwaniritse zolinga, nthawi zina muyenera kupereka chinachake. Mukhoza kumvetsa pamene nsembe izi zikufunika, ndipo pamene mungathe kuchita popanda iwo. Kusanyalanyaza zosowa za thupi ndizopusa ndipo sizingathe kutsogolera pa zabwino. Fufuzani zakudya zomwezo,
kuti simuli wolemetsa, werengani mabuku okondweretsa inu pazinthu zodzikuza, kuvala zomwe zimagwirizanitsa chiwerengero chanu, osati zovala zomwe ziri pamwamba pa mafashoni. - Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kudzikonda nokha? Ingomvetsetsani kuti ndinu okongola - moyo ndi thupi, kuti mutenge kuwala ndi chimwemwe kwa ena ndikuyesera kuchita zonse zomwe zimathandiza dziko lino. Kodi mumakonda zokondweretsa? Choncho musamaope kuti mupereke nthawi. Kodi mumakonda kuvala kapena kupita ku salon? Mkulu, musaganize kuti izi ndi zolakwika. Chitani chinachake chomwe chimakupatsani chisangalalo, chifukwa chakuti mungathe kugawana bwino ndi dziko lapansi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mudzakhala osangalala.