Mwatsoka, m'moyo zimakhala kuti kumverera kwa munthu wina kumachepetsa. Koma nthawi imodzimodziyo imakhalabe chikondi - chikhalidwe chopweteka, chowonekera poopa kupatukana . Ndiyeno chenichenicho "kuyenda kupyola mu ululu" ukuyamba, pamene iwe mwiniwake mwangwiro mukuzindikira kuti izi sizingakhoze kupitirira, koma iwe sungakhoze kudzimasula wekha ku chikhulupiliro. Muzochitika zoterozo, funso la kuchotsa chiyanjano kwa munthu limakhala lofulumira kwambiri.
Kodi kugwirizana kwamtima kungakhale koopsa?
Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti ambiri, akatswiri a zamaganizo samayesa kugwirizana pamtima monga choipa. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, chikondi sichikanatheka. Ndipo ndizofunikira kwambiri pakati pa makolo ndi ana, pakati pa abale ndi alongo, pakati pa abwenzi, ndi zina zotero. Komabe, pamene likukhudzana ndi kudalira , ndiye izi ndizoipa kwambiri. Pankhaniyi, kulumikiza kungangopweteka. Ndipo izi ziyenera kuyesedwa kupeŵa mphamvu zonse.
Kodi Mungatani Kuti Muchotse Maofesi?
- Musamangoganizira za munthu mmodzi, yesetsani kupititsa patsogolo gulu lanu.
- Yesetsani kudzidziza mu ntchito.
- Zate kukonza, kapena kusunthira-yesani kutenga nthawi yochuluka kuti musataye kuzingaliro zina.
- Pezani chizoloŵezi chatsopano kapena kubwereranso kwa wokondedwa wanu, koma kanthawi kochepetsera kakang'ono.
- Tsiku lililonse, yang'anani chifukwa chatsopano chokondwera ndi moyo, yesetsani kupanga mawonekedwe atsopano popanda munthu amene mumamukhulupirira.
Kodi mungachotse bwanji chikondi kwa mwamuna?
Kwa amayi atatha kukondana kwachikondi, nayonso, vuto limabuka, momwe mungachotsere cholumikizira kwa munthu. Akatswiri a zamaganizo akukulangizani kuti muganizire nokha ndi kukhala "munthu wodzikonda wathanzi." Potsiriza, dziyang'anire nokha, yongolerani zovala, pita kuchiwonetsero kapena kuwonetsero, pitani paulendo. Ndipo bwino kwambiri, dzipezeni chikondi chatsopano kwa mwamuna amene mumakhala womasuka naye bwino.