Pamene ena amapita kukaphunzitsa ndikuwerenga nkhani zowonongeka, ena amadzifunsa kuti "kumanga munthu" kumatanthauza chiyani? Pofuna kumvetsetsa nkhaniyi, tidzakambirana zitsanzo zingapo zapangidwe zowonongeka, ndipo tidzakambirana momwe munthu angagwiritsire ntchito njira zotere.
Tanthauzo la mawu akuti "kulamulira"
Choyamba, tiyeni tiyang'ane pa funso la tanthauzo la "kuyendetsa". M'nkhani ya lingaliro la maganizo pa lingaliro ili, kunyengerera ndi kulamulira kobisika kwa munthu wina. Mothandizidwa ndi njira zowonongeka, mukhoza kumuthandiza munthu kutenga maganizo anu kapena kuchita zinthu zomwe zimakupindulitsani. Komabe, sikoyenera kukhala katswiri wamaganizo wochenjera kuti aziyang'anira ena - si chinsinsi chomwe anthu ambiri amachita izi pamlingo wa banja, mwamtheradi popanda kuganiza, mwachidziwitso.
Zitsanzo za kusokoneza mu ubale
Kawirikawiri zochita zapakhomo zimapezeka, ndipo ophunzira awo sazizindikira nthawi zonse. Mwachitsanzo:
- Kawirikawiri amayi amawapeza. Monga lamulo, uyu ndi wosungulumwa, mkazi wodzikonda amene sakufuna kusiya mwana wake wamwamuna / wamkazi, ngakhale nthawi yabwino kuti ana ake amange banja lawo. Amayi oterewa amafunikira thandizo ndi kuthandizidwa, nthawi zonse amafunira chidwi , amaika mphuno zawo mu chiyanjano cha chikondi cha ana awo, amatsutsa chisankho chawo, amaletsa chiyanjano chawo (ndi munthu winawake kapena ngakhale asanalemberepo mmodzi).
- Mtsogoleri wa amuna. Mwamuna wotereyu amadziwa ntchito yake pogwiritsa ntchito manja ake, amathyola chinachake kapena kumuwononga panthawi yomwe akugwira ntchito panyumba, kuti athe kufotokozera mwamtendere kuti ali wopusa kwambiri ndipo amapita ku tchuthi. Mu banja loterolo, mavuto onse amaikidwa pamapewa a mkazi.
Mukhoza kulingalira zitsanzo zambiri, kuphatikizapo kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa amayi, koma zomwe zimawonekera ndi zomveka bwino: munthu angathe kutero mwachidwi, ndipo angathe kupondereza mwachangu zofuna za wina ndi khalidwe lake.
Kodi mungagwiritse ntchito bwanji mwamuna wake?
Njira yoyamba komanso yothandiza kwambiri yogwiritsira ntchito mwamuna ndi "kufooka kwa amayi." Ndipo muyenera kuchita izi ndi malingaliro - samalirani ntchito, koma ndi maonekedwe anu asonyeze kuti simungathe kupirira. Munthu akafuna kukuthandizani, onetsetsani kuti mumutamanda, muuzeni kuti popanda iye simungachite. Icho chidzakhala chabwino kachiwiri pakapita kanthawi kukumbukira za ntchito zake ndi kachiwiri kumutamanda iye. Iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera mavuto, kuti apindule.