Chothandizira kwa munthu

Timapezeka kunena mau monga "Ndimamudziwa kwambiri ndi munthu uyu," kutanthauza chifundo komanso mtima. Koma nthawi zina anthu amasokoneza chiyanjano ndi kukhudzika kwakukulu, ndipo izi zingapangitse zotsatira zoipa. Mwachitsanzo, kodi mumadziwa kuti chikondi chimasiyana bwanji ndi munthu?

Mitundu yothandizira

Aliyense amamva lingaliro la kukondana, kuyambira kuyambira ali mwana. Choyamba, zimadziwika pa msinkhu wa chilengedwe - cholumikizira kwa amayi, ku zinthu zina (zovala, zidole). Kenaka zina zowonjezera zimaloledwa ndi ena, koma kumverera kumangobwera nafe moyo wonse.

Pali mitundu yambiri ya zojambulidwa, akatswiri amadziwika 3 (olemba ena 4) osiyanasiyana. Koma chifukwa cha kumvetsetsa, tidzatha kugwiritsa ntchito mitundu iwiri yokhazikika: yotetezeka ndi yopweteka.

Kutetezeka, ndiko kuti, mwachizolowezi kungakhale pamtima wa ubwenzi kapena chikondi. Pankhaniyi, mutachoka pa chinthu chogwirizanitsa, munthu sakhala ndi masautso aakulu. Pakhoza kukhala kumverera kwachisoni chowawa ndi chisoni, koma osati kunyada kapena kupsinjika maganizo.

Koma kukondana kwamtima kumapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi maganizo otero. Zikhoza kukhala zolinga kwa munthu (chiyanjano ndi mnyamata) ndi zinthu (chiyanjano ku zinthu). Amanena kuti achiwiriwa sali amphamvu monga chikondi, koma nthawi zina munthu sangathe kuchita zinthu zomwe zimakondweretsa mtima wake. Ndipo zokondweretsa zonse za achibale zimangokhala zokwiya, chifukwa munthu sangathe kulingalira moyo popanda chinthu ichi. Koma chiphatikizo kwa zinthu sizowopsya, chifukwa ndi zovuta kuziwona. Mwamuna akung'amba nyumba yake ndi zinthu zomwe sakufuna kuzigwiritsa ntchito posachedwa (tsiku lina ndidzapanga masaliti kunja kwa matabwa awa, ndipo nyuzipepala yakale idzabwera mosavuta ngati ndikukonzekera), ndiye pali chodabwitsa chothandizira. Mkhalidwewo ndi wosiyana ndi maubwenzi ake, ndi kovuta kwambiri kumvetsetsa chotsatira kapena chikondi. Ndipo kusiyanitsa pakati pa mfundo ziwirizi ndizofunikira, chifukwa chikondi chimatsegula njira yopezera chimwemwe, ndipo chida cholimba (chodwala, kudzikonda) chimapangitsa kukhala wosasamala.

Mmene mungasiyanitse chikondi ndi chikondi?

Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, chikondi chenicheni chingakhale chiyambi cha chikondi ndipo izi ndi zachilendo, ndizolakwika pamene chikondicho chimalowetsa m'malo. Chothandizira sizingakhale maziko a ubale wa nthawi yaitali, mwinamwake iwo adzatero Zowonjezereka ndipo zidzasiya moyo wanu wonse, koma mwamsanga pamene chiwonongeko chikusoweka, munthu amene ali kumbali ina ya machira akusiyana kwambiri ndi inu.

Kodi mungasiyanitse bwanji chikondi kuchokera ku attachment kwa munthu?

Ndikofunika kufufuza ubale wanu, mafunso otsatirawa angakuthandizeni.

1. Nchiyani chomwe chimakupangitsani inu kukondana naye? Chothandizira chimadziwika ndi kukhudzidwa ndi deta zakunja, chifukwa chikondi ndi chofunikira, choyamba, chiyanjano cha uzimu, ndipo pomwepo ndiye kukopa kwa thupi.
2. Kodi mukukumbukira pamene munaganiza kuti simungathe kukhala opanda munthu uyu? Mukakumbukira momwe ubale wanu unakhalira, ndi chizindikiro cha chikondi. Ngati mwadzidzidzi mukudwala mwadzidzidzi, ichi ndi chizindikiro cha chikondi.
3. Ndi makhalidwe otani omwe amakusangalatsani mnzanu? Chothandizira chimayamba kutengedwera ndi chinthu chimodzi - liwu, kumwetulira, ndi chikondi zidzasonyeza zinthu zambiri munthu wokwera mtengo.
4. Chidwi chanu kwa wokondedwa ndi chosatha? Ndi cholumikizira, chidwi chimatha, kenako chimawala ngati mapiri pamutu. Chikondi chimakhala chofanana kwambiri, choncho chimakhala ndi kusintha kwakukulu kwa chidwi.
5. Inu mwasintha kwambiri pansi pa kukhudzidwa kwa kumverera uku? Chothandizira chimakulepheretsani kukhala ndi moyo wamba. Chikondi, mmalo mwake, chimathandiza kusonkhanitsa maganizo anu ndi kusonyeza makhalidwe anu abwino.
6. Kodi mumamva bwanji ndi anthu ena? Ngati muli ndi chikondi, ndiye kuti pakatikati pa dziko lapansi mudzakhala mnzako, ndipo anthu ena onse akutsutsa zotsutsa pa njirayo. Chikondi chimatulutsanso chimodzimodzi, koma sichimakondweretsa anthu ena.
7. Kodi mumapirirana bwanji? Chothandizira: Kupatukana - imfa ya ubale, ngakhale pachiyambi ndikumva kupweteka ndipo ndikufuna kukwera pakhoma. Chikondi: Kupatukana ndi mayesero aakulu, koma mukhoza kupulumuka.
8. Kodi nthawi zambiri mumakangana ndi mnzanu? Zosakaniza sizingatheke popanda mikangano ndi zonyansa, ndipo aliyense wa iwo ali ndi zinganga zoimba. Popanda mikangano, mumangotenthedwa, mumapanga ntchito. Chikondi, nachonso, sichikhala chosagwirizana, koma mukuyang'ana kukangana, kukangana kumathetsa kuthetsa vutoli.
9. Kodi mukuwona kupititsa patsogolo kwa maubwenzi? Chothandizira sikumapereka mpata wopereka tsogolo lofanana, chikondi chimapanga zolinga zomwe zimagwirizana.
10. Kudzikonda kapena kusakonda? Chothandizira chimapangitsa chirichonse kukwaniritsa zosowa zawo. Chikondi chimayesetsa kusamalira wokondedwayo.

Kodi mungachotse bwanji chikondi?

Choyamba, funsani zomwe muli nazo - chikondi kapena chikondi. Podziwa kudalira kwanu pa munthu, mutha kuyamba kuyambiranso. Ndiyeno mudzafunika kubwereza mobwerezabwereza zonse zomwe munthuyo wabweretsa mu moyo wanu - ululu ndi mkwiyo, kukhumudwa ndi mantha. Iwe siwe woimira maso, kuti ukhale ndi winawake yemwe ali woipa kwa iwe? Mwinamwake simungathe kuchotsa chikhomo mwamsanga, choncho tengani pang'ono. Patapita kanthawi, simukumbukira kuti munali odalira kwambiri.