Kutanthauzira kwakukulu kwa mikangano mu maloto kumasonyeza kuti posachedwa munthu akhoza kudwala. Chonde dziwani kuti ngati pali mawu osalongosoka m'malotowo, izi zimapangitsa kuti pakhale ngozi. Ngati mukulota kuti mukukalipidwa, zikuyimira kutaya kwakukulu kwa kusayang'ana kwanu, koma zoipa zonse posachedwa zidzabwerera ku chilolezo. Poyang'ana kuzunza anthu osadziŵa, zikutanthauza kuti posachedwapa padzakhala mavuto atsopano omwe sangakukhudzeni. Muyenera kuyesayesa kuti musayambe kugonjetsedwa ndi kukhumudwa. Kukulumbira iwe mu loto kumatanthauza kuti munthu akhoza kupambana bwino , ndipo yemwe amunyoza iye mu loto adzalowa mu vuto lalikulu.
Nchifukwa chiyani mukulota kukangana ndi mwamuna wake?
Mkwati ndi mkazi kapena achibale ena nthawi zambiri amasonyeza kuti mukuyembekezera mavuto azachuma, ndipo mlanduwo udzalephera. Kuposa mikangano mu maloto - chizindikiro cha chimwemwe, chisangalalo ndi kupambana, mwinamwake mwamsanga mudzalimbikitsidwira kuntchito kapena muthandizana nawo pazinthu zabwino. Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi funso loti afotokoze za kulumbirira ayenera kudziwa - kukongola kwa maloto ndikofunikira kwambiri panopa.
Maloto, kumene mumatsutsana ndi amayi anu, amasonyeza momwe mungayesere mavuto ndi mayesero omwe muyenera kukagonjetsa. Komanso, maloto oterewa amatanthauzidwa ngati ndalama zoipa komanso kugwiritsa ntchito molakwa mphamvu zake. Kawirikawiri, izi zikuyimira ubwenzi kwa amayi ndi kufunikira kwa uphungu kwa iye. Mwinamwake mwadzidzidzi muli ndi mkangano umene udzathetsa msanga. Kulumbirira mu loto ndi mnzanu akunena za mavuto a banja, makamaka kwa akazi okwatira. Ndipo pali zotheka kwambiri kuti sikutheka kuthetsa mkangano uwu.
Kulumbira mu loto ndi mlongo wake akuyimira msonkhano wokondweretsa, umene udzakumbukiridwe kwa nthawi yaitali.
Munthu akawona maloto, pamene amakangana ndi wokondedwa wake, izi zikutanthauza kuti m'moyo wake pali chinachake chomuvutitsa kwambiri, nthawi zambiri ndi achibale kapena achibale. Kungakhalenso chizindikiro cha kusinkhasinkha pa yankho la nkhani yovuta. Munthu sangathe kupanga chisankho ndikuganiza nthawi zonse. Mwinamwake, posachedwa mudzayembekezere kutayika, koma musati mudandaule, nthawi zambiri ndi chenjezo, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti zinthu zingapewe ndi kuthetsedweratu chisokonezo chachikulu chisanachitike ndi zotsatira zake.