Ngati mwangoyamba kumene ndi mwamuna, ndiye kuti maonekedwe ake mu loto si achilendo, chifukwa izi ndizingokumbukira za maubwenzi akale. Fotokozani malotowo ali ofunikira kokha ngati mwakhala nthawi yaitali mulibe kugwirizana ndi wokondedwa wanu wakale. Pachifukwachi, m'pofunikira kukumbukira zambiri monga momwe zingathere mu chiwembu.
Kodi wokonda kale ankalota chiyani?
M'modzi mwa mabuku a malotowo muli mfundo zomwe usiku womwewo masomphenya umatanthauza kuti posachedwa maubwenzi akale adzadzikumbutsa ndipo, mwinamwake, wolota adzafuna kubwezeretsa. Maloto omwe chiyanjano ndi munthu wakale akukula, ngati kuti panalibe kupatukana, kumasonyeza kuti kumverera kwa munthu uyu komaliza kwazirala kwathunthu. Ngati wokondedwayo nthawi zonse amalota, ndiye wolota m'moyo weniweni nthawi zambiri amachititsa zinthu zovuta. Mofananamo, malingaliro opanda nzeru amapereka uphungu kuti ndikofunikira kubwezeretsa khalidwe lawo. Palinso njira ina, chifukwa chiyani kawirikawiri wokondedwa wake akulota, ichi ndi chitsimikizo chakuti mkazi sangalole kuti apite kale, ndipo izi zimakhudza moyo weniweni. Ino ndi nthawi yoima ndi kupita patsogolo.
Maloto omwe kale anali okondedwa kwa mkazi wosudzulana ndi chiwonetsero cha mavuto omwe angayambane ndi matenda, katundu ndi ana. Matenda a zaumoyo amaneneratu kukambirana ndi mnzanu wakale. Timaphunzira zomwe zimatanthauza ngati wokonda kale akulota mu chiyanjano chatsopano ndi chizindikiro chabwino, chomwe chimalongosola nthawi yosangalala ndi banja. Kuwona munthu yemwe kale anali wokonda yemwe amamwetulira akunjenjemera kumatanthauza kuti pali kuthekera kwakukulu kuti wokondedwa wanuyo ndi wosasamala. Ndikofunika kuti tiyang'ane mosankhidwayo.
N'chifukwa chiyani mukulakalaka kukhala pafupi ndi wokondedwa wanu?
Kugonana mu loto limodzi ndi munthu yemwe wapita kale moyo wanu, kumasonyeza kuti posachedwa adzakumana ndi mayankho a m'mbuyomo. Kupsompsonana kwa French ndi yemwe kale ankamukonda kumakhala zodabwitsa zomwe ziyenera kuchitika posachedwa. Buku la loto silimatchula ngati likhale labwino kapena loipa.
Nchifukwa chiyani muli ndi mkangano ndi munthu wakale?
Maloto kumene mumakangana ndi okondedwa anu akulonjeza kusintha kwa moyo komwe kudzachitika posachedwapa. Simuyenera kudandaula, chifukwa kusinthako kudzakhala kolimbikitsa. Zikanakhala kuti chinyengochi chafika pomenyana mu loto - ichi ndi chisonyezero chakuti poyanjana ndi munthu wamakono pali mavuto aakulu, omwe nthawi zambiri amawoneka ndi nsanje.