N-inde, moyo waumunthu kumbali imodzi ndi yaitali, pambuyo pake, anthu ena amakhala ndi zaka 90 ndi zaka 100. Ndipo pa ena - mwachidule, mwachidule, mwachitsanzo, mbozi ndi mavuluka ndipo zaka 300 zimakhala. Ndipo komabe iye ali chinachake monga Utatu. Mmenemo, zochitika zitatu zofunikira - kubadwa, ukwati ndi imfa. Ndipo, ngati khalidwe lachiwiri lachimwemwe likudziwika kwa aliyense, ndiye kuti ndi angati omwe amachitira kumaliro samadziwika ndi ambiri. Tiyeni tcheru lerolino ku chokhumudwitsa ichi ndikuyankhula za malamulo a makhalidwe pamaliro.
Kodi ndi motani momwe angapitire kumaliro?
Poyamba, anthu ambiri, komanso amayi makamaka, amamva chisoni kwambiri ndi imfa ya achibale, abwenzi komanso anthu osadziwika. Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo ndi pa mapewa athu aakazi kuti ntchito zonsezi zimakonzedwa kuti akonzekere wakufayo kuikidwa m'manda, kudzuka, kuyang'anitsitsa ku bokosi, kuthandizira anthu omwe ali ovuta komanso ena otero. Chifukwa chake, kupita ku maliro, ndikofunika kudzikonzekera ku khalidwe loyenera, komanso kusungira pa mipango, validol, valerian ndi ammonia, kotero kuti nthawi zonse muzikhala ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri pazomwe mukukumana nazo. Chabwino, chifukwa chofunika kwambiri pamakhalidwe a maliro ayenera kukhala oleza mtima, ziribe kanthu zomwe zochitikazo. Kotero inu ndi maselo anu a mitsempha mudzapulumutsidwa, ndipo mwinamwake, mudzatha kumuthandizira ndi kumutsimikizira yemwe akufunikira icho.
Kodi tingavalidwe bwanji pamaliro?
Kavalidwe ndi nthawi ina yofunikira pa zochitika zomvetsa chisoni. Inde, ngati, Mulungu sakuletsa, wina m'banja mwako anafa, ndiye funso la momwe tingavalirire maliro lidzakhala chinthu chakhumi kwa inu. Ndipo aliyense pozungulira amvetsetsa, kuthandizira osati kutsutsa. Koma ngati mupita ku maliro kwa wina, ndiye maonekedwe akuyenera kulumikizana ndi malo ndi chochitika. Kodi mkazi wovala chochitika chokhumudwitsa ayenera kuvekedwa bwanji? Choyamba, mtundu wa zovala ndi woyenera kusankha mdima. Osati kwenikweni wakuda, koma osachepera kulira. Zofiirira, chitumbuwa, mtundu wa phula lamchere, mdima wonyezimira kapena wofiirira. Chachiwiri, mayiyo kumaliro ayenera kutumizidwa mu diresi kapenaketi. Ndipo musaiwale kuti mutenge chovala chamtengo wapatali kapena chofiira chachikulu mu liwu limodzi. Mwinamwake wakufayo adzaikidwa m'manda kapena kupanga mwambo uliwonse wa maliro womwe umagwirizana ndi chikhulupiriro chake. Kotero, thalauza ili kunja kwa malo apa. Chachitatu, kuchepetsani zokongoletsera ndi zodzikongoletsera, ndipo ndi bwino kuzisiya zonsezi. Dziweruzireni nokha, anthu ali ndi chisoni, koma ndinu okongola kwambiri, ndikunyoza popanda mawu. Chabwino, potsiriza, mawu ochepa okhudza nsapato. Musamabvala nsapato zapamwamba zowonongeka. Mwinamwake mudzayenera kukhala paulendo kwa nthawi yaitali, ndikupita ku manda, kudzuka, komanso kwa nthawi yaitali kuti mupite kunyumba kwanu. Ndi bwino kusankha nsapato zosavuta pa malo osungirako okongola a chilimwe kapena mabotolo ofanana kapena otetezera otentha kwa nyengo yozizira. Ndipo chimodzimodzi - kupita ku maliro, kuvala osati nyengo, koma kuganizira ulendo wopita kumanda. Kumeneko nthawi zonse kumakhala kozizira kuposa mumzindawu. Izi zimamva makamaka m'nyengo yozizira.
Momwe mungachitire pa maliro panthawi ya maliro kapena mwambo wina wa maliro?
Masiku ano, ngati wakufayo anali Orthodox kapena Akatolika, ndiye kuti manda asanamwalire. Zimakhala kaya kunyumba kapena ku tchalitchi. Ngati wakufayo anali ndi chikhulupiriro china, ndiye kuti mwambo wake umaperekedwa, mapemphero a maliro amalembedwa ndipo zochita za mwambo zimapangidwa. Mwachitsanzo, pa mwambo wa maliro achikhristu, uyenera kuyima kuzungulira bokosilo, utayatsa makandulo mmanja mwanu. Ngati muli a chikhulupiriro chomwecho monga wakufayo, yesetsani kuchita mwambowu ndi onse. Ndipo ngati mukudzifotokozera chipembedzo china kapena osakhulupirira mwa Mulungu, mukhoza kungokhala chete kuti musakope chidwi cha wina. Mulimonsemo, yesetsani kusiyana kwambiri ndi khalidwe lanu kuchokera kwa omwe alipo.
Makhalidwe abwino pamaliro, kupita kapena osapita kumanda
Chilichonse apa chimadalira momwe muliri pafupi ndi munthu wakufayo. Ngati uyu ndi wachibale wanu kapena bwenzi labwino kwambiri, atapita kumanda, akusiya pamodzi ndi zipsinjo zonse za pansi pamanda, inu mumangokhala ndi mtima wolemekezeka. Chabwino, ngati mutangokhala kumaliro, ndipo simukufuna kupita kumanda, palibe amene ali ndi ufulu wakukakamiza kuti muchite. Yesetsani kuthetsa mwinamwake mwatsatanetsatane.
Mmene mungachitire pambuyo pa maliro?
Pambuyo pa maliro, kawirikawiri amapita miyambo. Malamulo awo akulu ndi, kudya, kukumbukira wachibale kapena mzanga wokhala ndi mawu okoma, kukumbukira zochitika m'moyo wake, kapena kupempherera mpumulo wa moyo wake. Mukamadzuka, pasakhale mowa, mawu achipongwe, phokoso ndi nthabwala. Pambuyo pake, izi sizinthu, ndipo maliro ndi zosangalatsa siziyenera apa. Pambuyo pa maliro, aliyense akhoza kupita kwawo.
Pano, mwinamwake, ndi mfundo zazikulu zonse, momwe mungakhalire pamaliro. Muziwakumbukira, ndipo mulole moyo wanu ndi okondedwa anu kukhala motalika.