Zodabwitsa zokwanira, koma nthawi zina ndi bwino kuti musalankhule chilichonse ndi mnyamata nkomwe - ndi chete zomwe zingakufikitseni inu nthawi zina. Koma nthawi zotere sizichitika kawirikawiri, kupatulapo, chifukwa chaichi mumayenera kudziwana bwino. Choncho, kuyankhulana, ndithudi, kumakhala maziko a chiyanjano chilichonse.
Momwe mungaphunzire kulankhula ndi anyamata?
Ngati mumagwira ntchito mu gulu la amuna okhaokha kapena muli ndi akulu omwe abwenzi awo amabwera panyumba panu, funso loti mungayankhule ndi mwamuna kapena mnyamata silingakutengereni. Ngati mulibe ngozi zotere m'moyo mwanu, mufunikira kuganizira momwe mungaphunzire kukambirana ndi amuna kapena anyamata - kuti kuyankhulana kwanu kukhale kosangalatsa kwa iwo.
Choyamba, phunzirani kusawopa anthu, ndikuyamba kukambirana, monga akunena, kuyambira pachiyambi, zachabechabe. Kuti musamvetsetse bwino, sankhani malo omwe mungamufunse mnyamata kapena mwamuna kuti akuthandizeni, kuthandizira kapena maganizo ake pa chinachake. Masitolo akuluakulu, masitolo apadera, masewera, masewera, misonkhano - kupeza chifukwa chofunsira funso, kapena chinachake choti mum'funse. Musanyoze zochepetsako zazing'ono izi! Zosamvetsetseka kwambiri zidzakuphunzitsani kuti mumvetse bwino momwe mungalankhulire ndi khalidwe lanu ndi mwamuna kapena mnyamata.
Njira yotsatira ndiyo kudzithandizira nokha kumvetsetsa momwe mungayankhulire ndi mnyamata - kuti muwone mkazi kapena mtsikana yemwe amalankhulana ndi theka laumunthu lomwe mumamuchitira nsanje, ndi zomwe mungakonde kukhala nazo. Zoonadi, pali chidziwitso chimodzi chofunikira. Musanayese khalidwe la wina, onetsetsani kuti zikugwirizana. Pambuyo pake, ngakhale pakati pa zikondwerero za dziko lapansi, winawake akukulimbikitsani kwambiri, ndipo wina, mosiyana, amangokhala osasamala, sichoncho?
Choncho, ngati mutakhala ndi chikhalidwe chanu muli mtsikana yemwe makhalidwe ake ndi makhalidwe ake poyankhulana ndi amuna omwe mukuwafuna ndipo akhoza kukopera - chitani! Muyang'aneni iye kuti amvetse momwe mungalankhulire ndi mnyamata. Musazengereze kuchita pakhomo, pamaso pa galasilo. Kumbukirani kuti nyenyezi iliyonse yachinsaluyo inatha maola ochuluka kutsogolo kwake, kuyesa kusankha momwe akuyenera kusekerera ndi kuyankhula. Kuyankhulana ndi mnyamata kapena mwamuna ndi luso lomwe likufunika kuti liphunzire.
Kodi ndi zolondola bwanji kuti muyankhule naye?
Gwiritsani ntchito chinenero chokha - mwinamwake ndilo lamulo lalikulu. Ngati mukulankhulana ndi anzanu osaganizira za momwe mumayankhulira, muyenera kuyang'ana pamene mukuyamba kuyankhula ndi mnyamata.
Mwamunayo amayamikira kwambiri mwa inu zomwe siziri mwa iye, zomwe ndizokazikazi. Mungathe kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena masewera a nkhondo - ziribe kanthu. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti mukalankhulana pamanja ndi anyamata omwe mukukumbukira kuti mukupatsidwa chimwemwe chowerenga ku Chekhov ndi Turgenev. Mawu okongola, olondola adzayamikiridwa ndi munthu woyenera aliyense kapena munthu woyenera.
Kodi anthu amakonda kukambirana za chiyani?
Zoonadi, za mitu yawo "yamwamuna". Masewera, makompyuta, ife (atsikana ndi akazi) - chinthu choyamba chimene tinakumbukira. Koma anthu onsewa ankakambirana ndi anzache kapena abwenzi ake. Kodi angakuuzeni chiyani?
Mwamuna aliyense, poyamba, ndi munthu wamba. Iye ali ndi zofooka zake, mantha, zizoloŵezi, chifundo. Choncho musachite mantha ndipo musadandaule za momwe mungalankhulire naye. Ingomusiyani mnyamatayo akuuzeni za iye mwini - mwakachetechete
Ngati mnzanu wangoyamba kumene, amakumana ndi chisokonezo chomwecho pamisonkhano monga mukuchitira - musaiwale izi. Yesetsani kukhala achilengedwe, popanda kuyesera mwa mphamvu, mwa njira zonse, kuti musamalankhulane - ndipo musafunenso zomwezo.
Musamachite manyazi kulankhula za inu nokha. Muuzeni za malingaliro anu, zikhulupiriro zanu, zofuna zanu. Zomwe zimakutengerani mu moyo uno, zomwe mukulimbana nazo, zomwe zikukuvutitsani inu padziko lapansi. Munthu akhoza kukhala wokondweretsa kwa anthu ena pokhapokha atadzazidwa ndi zokhutira, pamene ali ndi nkhani yoti akambirane, ndipo nkhaniyo ndi chibwenzi chanu ndizosiyana. Musamawoneke kuti muwoneke zozizwitsa muzochita zanu. Ndinu munthu, ndipo mnzanuyo amayamikira.
Musalekerere ndipo musati mulekerere kukhumudwitsa komwe kukukupwetekani. Ngati mumamuuza kuti madzulo onse mumapita kumsewu kukadyetsa agalu osokonezeka kapena amphaka, ndipo amamasekerera momasuka komanso moona mtima - khulupirirani ine, kulibwino mupite.